How to make friends?

[Worthy39]

Simple. You take an embryo, raise it to maturity in a lab, and then befriend it before it knows any better. You could also take the Frankenstein approach.

 

[LeilaniOtter]

You're my friend now. Congratulations!




But in all honesty, it can be as simple as going up to someone you find compelling and just asking to be friends.

Not in this day and age, no.
I would immediately feel suspicious of anyone who just came up to me like that.
I'd consider it a scam or ill intent.

 

[JordanIda]

You say you're into mountain climbing.

If you're good at it, volunteer for a mountain rescue team. Or if you're just okay at it, join an organization that maintains trails. To make real friends you need to do real things with real people in real life.

Or you could feed the gulls, like Kya in Where the Crawdads Sing.

 

[Nevafrost]

Warhammer, dnd, videojuegos en general (mine, hytale, overwacth), es la forma más bruta de encontrar gente que quiere encontrar gente que quiere relacionarse de alguna manera y buenos trolls pero bueno.
Música
Sitios donde puedes encontrar gente que puedas sencillamente decir buenas como estás, aunque por lo general es más practico ver si caez en círculos que ya recorres trabajo, escuela, vecinos, familia (algún primo lejano o algo asi)etc

Is it really spanish or am I trippin?

 

[RepresentingCaution]

Gather herbs and start an apothecary in the mountains. People will come to you when they need something.

 

[ConansWitchBaby]

"You friend."
"Okay"

Easy. If you are a guy. Women? The thunderdome is right over there ->

 

[Fang_Yuan]

You're my friend now. Congratulations!




But in all honesty, it can be as simple as going up to someone you find compelling and just asking to be friends.

You can't tell if you'll be good friends, or if friendship will work out, but anyone who isn't a complete asshole 24/7 is likely going to be, at minimum, flattered. If they feel even a shred of interest, they'll probably give it a chance. If they say no, it's because they're either not looking for new friends (which is not super common), caught off guard and just reflexively decline, or something about you doesn't feel compelling to them.

It's especially easy with adults, because once people are out of high school/college they lose most of their friends, if not all of them, and will often have little opportunity to make new ones. So, most adults generally have 1-3 people they consider friends.

Therefore, most people are willing to make new friends, or at least give it a try.

So, it can be, quite literally, as easy as saying: "You seem interesting. Want to see if we can be friends?"

I guess I can only try.

 

[Rachel_Leia_Cole]

Good question. I have like maybe 3 actual friends. Tons of people I’d consider acquaintances. But friends are more rare. I like hiking and taking photos. Most people who hike are looking to do it for exercise. So it’s hard finding someone who likes to slow down to look at moss and mushrooms. ? The hobbies I have tend to be more solitary, wiring, drawing, making chainmaille jewelry. They don’t require participation.

 

[SirDogeTheFirst]

Alright, here is the main tactic I use.
First step: Have some interesting hobbies, or something you are good/decent at, like video games or sports, or just go feed and pet random stray animals.
Second step: Hope someone more outgoing adopts you as their friend.
Third step: Enter that friend's friend group and hope that the friend group adopts you as their friend.
Fourth step: Either expand from the friends of the group or use step one to find other people.

Now, if you are asking about making friends on this site or in a writer circle, I have no clue. I have been writing here since the COVID-19 lockdown, and I am yet to make a single acquaintance, let alone a friend.

 

[MFontana]

This basically sums it up nicely in my experience anyway.

 

[Ral_062]

I've been introverted since birth and the lockdown made me even more self-contained. Wanderlust made me go everywhere. 2024, I climbed a mountain alone. 2025, climbed a different mountain and live there for 3 months all by myself. I don't have social media so I don't have any text mates or something. And now I don't know how to start a relationship. I still talk to people when I go out to buy stuff though. But I don't have people I really connect with. Do I just come up to someone and say: Hey, want to be friends? I really have no idea how to do that and it is reflecting in my writing. Besides, if neither of us have same interest, it won't be a beneficial to us or a meaningful friendship.

HAHA, same im very introverted. So i don't really know how to, its a thing i also struggle.

 

[Prince_Azmiran_Myrian]

The internet is a hard place to find good friends.

 

[SouthernMaiden]

I've been introverted since birth and the lockdown made me even more self-contained. Wanderlust made me go everywhere. 2024, I climbed a mountain alone. 2025, climbed a different mountain and live there for 3 months all by myself. I don't have social media so I don't have any text mates or something. And now I don't know how to start a relationship. I still talk to people when I go out to buy stuff though. But I don't have people I really connect with. Do I just come up to someone and say: Hey, want to be friends? I really have no idea how to do that and it is reflecting in my writing. Besides, if neither of us have same interest, it won't be a beneficial to us or a meaningful friendship.

Find stuff to do irl. Like Magic the Gathering, DND, a book club. Then you have to really make an effort to get to know people, but its easier when youre doing/playing something.

Say something like 'im trying to get to know people". In current year, people are desperate for connection.

 

[sodaliteskull]

Striking up random conversations with random people in random situations isn't likely to net you friends, you're going to need to seek out socialization events. Search up local clubs and gatherings - you like mountain climbing? See if there's local mountain climbing groups! Commonality goes a long way towards turning strangers into friends.

 

[TinaMigarlo]

Now, if you are asking about making friends on this site or in a writer circle, I have no clue. I have been writing here since the COVID-19 lockdown, and I am yet to make a single acquaintance, let alone a friend.

OP.
you seem to be... studying this. Like its some kind of project.
which is okay, I can dig that.
I forget who the quote is properly attributed to, but...
"friendship is that by which we undertake to exchange small favors for large ones"
For instance... a small smart guy, and bigger less than brilliant guy, meet in school.
The little smart guy? Helps his bigger friend with his math homework.
The bigger guy? won't let anyone mess with his little buddy that gets him better grades.
Note that each is doing a "no big deal" favor for the other, note as well that each is getting what they consider impossible to do for themselves.

Each peer group tends to have each member bring something to the table, for the group.
One guy fixes everyone's used cars.
Another guy does electrical work.
yet another guy, is mister fix-it.

There's a group somewhere, that needs one of *you*, OP.

if you look for it? It will elude you.
if you quit looking for it, it will find you.

godspeed, OP.

 

[SternenklarenRitter]

I've somehow infiltrated the math club. It shouldn't be the case that they still haven't noticed me yet, but its suspicious for my nonverbal bluff "I belong here" to actually work this well. Regardless, Math Club looks like the perfect spot to setup a mass true polymorph spell ritual to turn everyone on this side of campus into "my friend." Unfortunately its absolutely impossible to trigger the ritual undetected. For now I am just waiting for another opportunity.

 

[CinnaSloth]

Hey, want to be friends? if neither of us have same interest, it won't be a beneficial to us or a meaningful friendship.

Hey, Bb_V,

I know introducing yourself to many people over and over is.. well, overwhelming, and kind of draining, even with your best of intentions.
Looking for friends is simple as long as you're willing to get out of your comfort zone. I found a few people who I love to chat with, and mess around with. To say "I'm just like you" might be a bit overzealous on my part. I'm not an outgoing person, or an extravert in anyway, not at all; In fact, I'm quite the opposite. I stay at home, work from home, and on very, very few occasions, go out on a date, or two. I prefer my privacy offline, but online I'm an open book. x3 you can ask me anything, and I'll answer to the best of my ability.

I don't go rock climbing, or hiking, or go on adventures, though I write about them all the time. I don't have any family ties, despite writing about family, and familial love, and I don't have a significant other, despite also writing about romance, and.. more.. unconventional topics. lol.
I do like to talk, and flirt- playfully of course. I enjoy writing more than anything. I'd say I like to play videogames, but I only play two at the moment because nothing else has interested me in a while. The two games being Minecraft, and PSO2NG if that interests you for any reason, otherwise don't worry about it. lol. I draw, and like to world-build. I enjoy most genres, except LitRPG, and Isekai, not for the genre themselves, but just because I don't believe they should be genres, and should be titled as subgenre. Whether you agree, or disagree, that could be a discussion for the future.

In reality, I'm very jaded, and love philosophical, and existential topics. I love to challenge people's opinions, and have meaningful discussions. I'm very hard to get angry, and very easy going. I assume most people (in writing) are very formal, and polite, unless they say otherwise, and despite the words they choose to speak with, I personally don't mind bad words, but i know others do, so i try to mind my manners. I will also, typically, tell you how i feel, if my mood changes. I wouldn't want anyone thinking I'm upset, when I'm clearly not, and in most times will try to act cheery, and happy to not get everyone else's moods bummed even when I am.

I'm not sure what else to add here, but if you want to visit my profile, and see for yourself the type of person I am (Which I'm sure you'll see me as a flirty degenerate, and a huge hornball.. lol) you're welcome to add me, or swing by on occasion. If i'm not the type of person you want to hangout with, or be associated with, that's okay too, I won't take offense lol I know I'm an odd one; But don't be afraid to just say hi here, and there, if you want.

Either way, I hope you find your place here. See you soon, or good luck in your search. I know you'll find someone.

xoxo,
Sloth <3

Ps. Don't mind the pfp for now. lol. The big booba lady will go away tomorrow. (I mean, unless you like it, that's different lol) xD
-AND if you look into my books in my signature, DON'T click "My little sister"; It's very niche, and incredibly jarring if you don't read the warnings lmao. The other two are fine to read. I'd recommend "Ise-se-kai" if you decide to take a look.

 

[OniKaniki]

I also want to make friend...

 

[Fang_Yuan]

Hey, Bb_V,

I know introducing yourself to many people over and over is.. well, overwhelming, and kind of draining, even with your best of intentions.
Looking for friends is simple as long as you're willing to get out of your comfort zone. I found a few people who I love to chat with, and mess around with. To say "I'm just like you" might be a bit overzealous on my part. I'm not an outgoing person, or an extravert in anyway, not at all; In fact, I'm quite the opposite. I stay at home, work from home, and on very, very few occasions, go out on a date, or two. I prefer my privacy offline, but online I'm an open book. x3 you can ask me anything, and I'll answer to the best of my ability.

I don't go rock climbing, or hiking, or go on adventures, though I write about them all the time. I don't have any family ties, despite writing about family, and familial love, and I don't have a significant other, despite also writing about romance, and.. more.. unconventional topics. lol.
I do like to talk, and flirt- playfully of course. I enjoy writing more than anything. I'd say I like to play videogames, but I only play two at the moment because nothing else has interested me in a while. The two games being Minecraft, and PSO2NG if that interests you for any reason, otherwise don't worry about it. lol. I draw, and like to world-build. I enjoy most genres, except LitRPG, and Isekai, not for the genre themselves, but just because I don't believe they should be genres, and should be titled as subgenre. Whether you agree, or disagree, that could be a discussion for the future.

In reality, I'm very jaded, and love philosophical, and existential topics. I love to challenge people's opinions, and have meaningful discussions. I'm very hard to get angry, and very easy going. I assume most people (in writing) are very formal, and polite, unless they say otherwise, and despite the words they choose to speak with, I personally don't mind bad words, but i know others do, so i try to mind my manners. I will also, typically, tell you how i feel, if my mood changes. I wouldn't want anyone thinking I'm upset, when I'm clearly not, and in most times will try to act cheery, and happy to not get everyone else's moods bummed even when I am.

I'm not sure what else to add here, but if you want to visit my profile, and see for yourself the type of person I am (Which I'm sure you'll see me as a flirty degenerate, and a huge hornball.. lol) you're welcome to add me, or swing by on occasion. If i'm not the type of person you want to hangout with, or be associated with, that's okay too, I won't take offense lol I know I'm an odd one; But don't be afraid to just say hi here, and there, if you want.

Either way, I hope you find your place here. See you soon, or good luck in your search. I know you'll find someone.

xoxo,
Sloth <3

Ps. Don't mind the pfp for now. lol. The big booba lady will go away tomorrow. (I mean, unless you like it, that's different lol) xD
-AND if you look into my books in my signature, DON'T click "My little sister"; It's very niche, and incredibly jarring if you don't read the warnings lmao. The other two are fine to read. I'd recommend "Ise-se-kai" if you decide to take a look.

Am I right to assume you are open to be friends with me? I think we have similar interests. If you're interested, I honestly don't mind being friends. I definitely want it I'll add your profile then.

I also want to make friend...

Sure. I'd definitely be friends with you. What are your interests? I have learned it's an important starting point of any bond.

 

[CinnaSloth]

Am I right to assume you are open to be friends with me? I think we have similar interests. If you're interested, I honestly don't mind being friends. I definitely want it I'll add your profile then.

Lol of course. if you want to be just message me anytime you want. If I don't respond right away, I'll definitely get to it asap.
I tend to write for hours at a time.