Oh. and my favorate story, HKN, has no harem, in fact, the MC is super loyal to his DEAD WIFE.
The story is pushing 275k words, is really a trilogy in its own right, has oodles of plot, and has got an ending that will make you cry and smile at the same time.
I have like... 12 readers.
It is a labor of love, but people like sex. No matter how great the story is, how emotional, how it hits you in the feels and is jammed packed with life lessons and philosophy and multiple perspectives on complex issues.... There's no sex, so it has almost no readers.
Which is fine.
But if you want to be popular, sex sells.
What stories are you reading? Almost all the female centric stories usually wind up with her emotionally jerking around multiple guys, then picking one.