What to do when you meet a person like this in SHF?

[Ral]

A few of you might be familiar with the drama I have with LamenThief.

He kinda driving me crazy. He kinda presents himself as this victim. He creates this thread to seek sympathy: https://forum.scribblehub.com/threads/scribblehub-not-seems-a-good-place-to-me.2128/

I posted there a screenshot of the first few PM messages exchanges we have.

After Tony locked the thread, he started spamming my inbox again angry as to why I locked the thread (I didn't and I can't) and why he post our conversation, in a thread where he just called me an idiot and that I was insulting him.

He continues starts messaging me again. Why did I locked his topic? He keeps on saying that I was making a scene, that I was saying random things with no point, that I'm a hater and other stuff. I have also kinda get heated there but we kinda settled it in the end. Or so I thought. but then . . .

Like, look here:

Is he starting things again behind my back?

And here I was defending the SH community only to see this.

What am I to do in this situation guys? I don't want to play dead or something and do nothing but . . . Should I ask help from the SH team? Report these people? Fight? Do nothing?

 

[SilentGazer]

Ask youself ''what course of action will make me a better person?'' (hint: the 'not dragging others in your bickering just to have the last word' certainly counts as one) and act accordingly.

If nothing else, take a breather and do something nice for yourself. Eat sweets, play something fun, read a nice story. That ought to make you happier than... this.

 

[Moctemma]

My suggestion is to do nothing, he's delusional, feeling personally attacked by everything. Just know that someday he will have to face reality, to start being more resilient; now isn't the time for him to change, so he'll keep being like that and search for support and approval of his ideas, and people will support him. Don't obsess over it, thinking that your effort in defending the community was for nothing.

 

[Ral]

Thanks guys. I may have to do more gardening now. Plants (and dogs) appreciate your efforts more.

 

[Ral]

Ask youself ''what course of action will make me a better person?'' (hint: the 'not dragging others in your bickering just to have the last word' certainly counts as one) and act accordingly.

If nothing else, take a breather and do something nice for yourself. Eat sweets, play something fun, read a nice story. That ought to make you happier than... this.

Still, should I really do nothing? Not even reporting to the SH team?

 

[Ral]

My suggestion is to do nothing, he's delusional, feeling personally attacked by everything. Just know that someday he will have to face reality, to start being more resilient; now isn't the time for him to change, so he'll keep being like that and search for support and approval of his ideas, and people will support him. Don't obsess over it, thinking that your effort in defending the community was for nothing.

It is kinda frustrating though. They did call me a troll, a person who wants nothing but antagonize and creates trouble for no reason.

And I thought we have settled things. I even said sorry in the end even though I didn't really do anything wrong (and he didn't said sorry). I posted stuff in reply to AliceShiki and he deleted them (well, he has the rights in his profile page though).

Like. It is just so frustrating that they would all get away with it.

 

[Mihou]

Please stop bringing extra drama here, just settle it with yourselves.

- The drama last time was already intense enough for Tony to lock the thread.

 

[Alverost]

It is kinda frustrating though. They did call me a troll, a person who wants nothing but antagonize and creates trouble for no reason.

And I thought we have settled things. I even said sorry in the end even though I didn't really do anything wrong (and he didn't said sorry). I posted stuff in reply to AliceShiki and he deleted them (well, he has the rights in his profile page though).

Like. It is just so frustrating that they would all get away with it.

Honestly, I doubt he got away with anything. People saw what happen for what it is. You shouldn't get so tangled up in this drama anymore and just let it go.

 

[Ral]

Please stop bringing extra drama here, just settle it with yourselves.

- The drama last time was already intense enough for Tony to lock the thread.

It is here. Or do you mean not in the forum?

And what should I do? Let this kind actions be? That it is okay for them to do this? Is that it?

 

[RepresentingCaution]

My suggestion is to do nothing, he's delusional, feeling personally attacked by everything. Just know that someday he will have to face reality, to start being more resilient; now isn't the time for him to change, so he'll keep being like that and search for support and approval of his ideas, and people will support him. Don't obsess over it, thinking that your effort in defending the community was for nothing.

That's what I did when my best friend's yandere wife started sending me private messages! I asked my husband, my parents, and my managing director what to do. They all said to just not respond, so I didn't, and it all worked out in the end.

 

[Ral]

Honestly, I doubt he got away with anything. People saw what happen for what it is. You shouldn't get so tangled up in this drama anymore and just let it go.

Yeah, I guess. I should really be gardening now to get away.

 

[Moshi]

Still, should I really do nothing? Not even reporting to the SH team?

It is here. Or do you mean not in the forum?

And what should I do? Let this kind actions be? That it is okay for them to do this? Is that it?

I mean, there is a report button there for a reason, and I'm pretty sure repeatedly harassing you in PMs is a valid reason. Other than that, the best you can do is block them.

 

[Ral]

That's what I did when my best friend's yandere wife started sending me private messages! I asked my husband, my parents, and my managing director what to do. They all said to just not respond, so I didn't and it all worked out in the end.

Okay. Thanks. Maybe I should just really stay away from him, and AliceShiki too. There is the ignore button.

 

[Ral]

I mean, there is a report button there for a reason, and I'm pretty sure repeatedly harassing you in PMs is a valid reason. Other than that, the best you can do is block them.

Yeah. I will do that.

Though I only see Ignore not Block. Is there a difference?

 

[Moshi]

Yeah. I will do that.

Though I only see Ignore not block. Is there a difference?

They're the same thing. Ignoring is just what the forum software calls it.

 

[Ral]

They're the same thing. Ignoring is just what the forum software calls it.

I would also like it if they can't see me too if I do Ignore them. Is that what happens with Ignore?

 

[Moshi]

I would also like it if they can't see me too if I do Ignore them. Is that what happens with Ignore?

No, there isn't any way afaik to stop people from seeing your posts. But at least they can't (directly) annoy you about it, so it's still a good option.

 

[Ral]

No, there isn't any way afaik to stop people from seeing your posts. But at least they can't (directly) annoy you about it, so it's still a good option.

Okay. Thanks.

 

[weakwithwords]

// Like, look here:

If I were friendless and unlearned, I would be asking how and why you changed the avatar besides the Write something... from mine to yours.

I have met people like AliceShiki in MAL before. They are not really bad people, but they have their priorities. They enjoy posting a lot. A lot, alot, a lot. Unfortunately, they sometimes reply to parts, not taking the whole into proper consideration, so those can become derailed context.

Ral, if bits and pieces from here and there are taken out of context, you can be easily profiled as a troll. This can be done to anyone who has enough posts that can be used as "evidence".

I do not think either of you, R & LT, are truly evil. (That would be my country's president.) You just rub each other the wrong way. Like Capulets and Montagues.

Like the others who actually understood said, and not those who think it's just trivial drama until the same thing happens to them, the unfairness of the situation will keep annoying you so take a break and relax. ? / ??

 

[Ral]

// Like, look here:

If I were friendless and unlearned, I would be asking how and why you changed the avatar besides the Write something... from mine to yours.

I have met people like AliceShiki in MAL before. They are not really bad people, but they have their priorities. They enjoy posting a lot. A lot, alot, a lot. Unfortunately, they sometimes reply to parts, not taking the whole into proper consideration, so those can become derailed context.

Ral, if bits and pieces from here and there are taken out of context, you can be easily profiled as a troll. This can be done to anyone who has enough posts that can be used as "evidence".

I do not think either of you, R & LT, are truly evil. (That would be my country's president.) You just rub each other the wrong way. Like Capulets and Montagues.

Like the others who actually understood said, and not those who think it's just trivial drama until the same thing happens to them, the unfairness of the situation will keep annoying you so take a break and relax. ? / ??

The thing is, I know AliceShiki hates me. We have encountered many times before and I can see that she might have some deep seated hatred for me. I even wonder if she does other things like this, defaming me left and right. If there is one, there might be more.

And it seems she finds a soulmate with LamenThief; sharing their mutual hatred for me. And now we have this post labeling me as a trouble seeking troll for everyone to see.

She might not be evil, but it is really hard for me to think after she did this that she is good.

It is one thing to not like each other and argue once in a while; but calling me nasty things behind my back, twisting the narrative upside down and, at the same time, supporting this . . . guy, condoning his actions towards me; that is a totally different matter.

Still, I just want to forget all this and get it behind me. I don't want to bother with it anymore.