Is there a dere for Stockholm syndrome? Let's put that one into the mix...
Look. Every woman is going to test you. It's just what they do. I happened to like spicy women at the time I was in college, that's all. Look at it this way, if she comes at you and you freak out and go, "OMG, You totally stabbed me!" When all she really did was put a big gash on my arm, how can she depend on you? Nobody wants to date a wimp.
It's like a woman who sleeps with you on the first date and then ghosts you. If you'd jump right in bed with any girl who offers it up, how could she trust you to stay faithful? It's all just a case of testing your character. I'm not saying it's all sunshine and kittens. It's just that, in the end, I'm a big guy. Even at 50 I could kick most people's asses. learning how to do take downs is just part of the job.
So if you are a woman who's 95 pounds soaking wet with a guy a foot taller and a hundred pounds heavier, what do you think is going to happen if I lose my temper? Knowing she could push me that far and I still tried to talk her down was really what sealed the deal. Part of the problem was she used to hang out with really stupid guys who were rather violent. To find a big guy who could handle himself and yet AVOIDED fighting, was a little hard for her to believe. And it wasn't like it was planned. She just lost control of her emotions, that's all.
It doesn't help that I have no facial expression because I got beaten into a coma and my face is partially paralyzed. And... I'm light on my feet. Like... for a guy as big as me, I am VERY QUIET. I try to make noise when I'm out in public, but I get tired and just walk normally sometimes. Then people turn around, see me standing there, don't see or hear me when I walk up behind them, and they always jump.
Any idea how much that hurts?
To have people whose first reaction upon seeing you are standing behind them is to scream and jump out of their skin? Not my fault I'm a big scary guy, but I'm still a big scary guy, nonetheless. It happens ALL THE TIME. I might be big and scary, but if I'm big and scary, to everyone but YOU, well... that negative turns into a positive, doesn't it? My wife still doesn't understand how I can make people feel threatened just by widening my eyes, but I can. She just got used to me. Most people are REALLY sensitive to body language and I don't have any. Way too much nerve damage.
Look, to have someone as Hot as my wife who was willing to look past the fact I come across as a serial killer was worth the "testing" she put me through. They all test you, the only difference is HOW they test you. She was attracted to men who could project "Killing Intent" without speaking, she just wanted to make sure I was safe.
It's just how some people connect, that's all.
