I was trying to write a fanfic and haven't published it yet. Reading this thread makes me doubt myself. Fanfic is almost heresy if not for the demand in the market. Still, sometimes, I think there really are fanfic authors who can write an honest to good fanfic story, with no smut, no sacrilege of the canon, and most importantly, no meaningless sex.
I believe good fanfics take research in a very hardcode mode. I particularly like a certain Skyrim fanfic which honestly had a rough start, especially with the annoying meaningless sex but it still grew on me. There is also a certain one-piece fanfic that also grew to me, which respects the canon and the original characters of the anime. What I find disgusting though are the naruto fanfics on the net that are pure self-wish fulfillment garbage.
I can resonate with what is bothering you. Really, but sometimes we are powerless to change that. Not unless you try writing one?
Meh... I was trying to goad you, alright? Hahaha...