'Sugar Mommy' or 'Dommy Mommy' character

[MakBow]

So, I'm thinking about these two character types and for the character I am thinking about (MC), I kind of have this idea that he(He's 25 years old) has a preference for older, mature, and motherly women because of the lack of motherly love he got has a baby and kid, literally non-existent, and his father was loud and abusive, always hurting her so she simply fed him, and ignored him, so his preference for this kind of women is in a way, him trying to find a woman who would treat him like that to feel loved.
(In short, he subconscious disguises that desire for motherly affection as a preference for older and mature women who are emotionally stable and can care about him)

Y'all think I'm cooking with this fetish?
(So yes, while it is the MC' sort of fetish to be around older and mature women, it's more so a psychological desire for pampering and love)

Tell me which one I should do?

 

[Wamba2K]

I mean it's psychologically sound. And I'm sure some people are into that. But I'm not sure what the difference between a sugar mommy and a dommy mommy is to be honest.

 

[Juia_Darkcrest]

I have no idea what you are writing, but as I was in an abusive relationship for 13 years with a dom-like woman... Go with a motherly type.

 

[pangmida]

Sigh… everyday I feel Freud’s smile grow wider.

 

[Arkus86]

I'm sure you will find audience for it.

I mean it's psychologically sound. And I'm sure some people are into that. But I'm not sure what the difference between a sugar mommy and a dommy mommy is to be honest.

It's not exactly my field of interest, but I think dommy mommy is like sugar mommy, just with less sugar, and more ropes.

 

[Juia_Darkcrest]

I'm sure you will find audience for it.

It's not exactly my field of interest, but I think dommy mommy is like sugar mommy, just with less sugar, and more ropes.

One loves to pamper and take care of you, keep you safe.

The other one is sadistic and wants to control you. Cuffs, ropes, shove stuff in your ass, possibly cause you pain for her pleasure if you are into that... I really don't want to go into the depths of male sub-culture... I don't like yucking other people's yums, but it disturbs me to my very core.

 

[Grizzly18]

Milf is a fetish for a reason. Though I will say sugar mama would probably work more in the long term than dommy momma. If a person has been emotionally and mentally abused by someone that was supposed to take care of them they aren’t going to turn to a dominant for affection and intimacy. Well unless they have other psychological issues. I’d say sugar mama works better but if you want to be more realistic you should do a gradual thing where your MC gradually accepts that someone can actually love them for who they are. Definitely do a one step forward two steps back kinda thing. Make it ugly. According to some stuff I read sometimes abused or neglected kids will lash out as a subconscious/conscious act in order to make sure that the people around them won’t abandon them because of bad behavior.

 

[MakBow]

Suga

I mean it's psychologically sound. And I'm sure some people are into that. But I'm not sure what the difference between a sugar mommy and a dommy mommy is to be honest.

Sugar Mommy - A rich, older woman with who pampers someone younger
Dommy Mommy - An older woman who dominates in the relationship

Milf is a fetish for a reason. Though I will say sugar mama would probably work more in the long term than dommy momma. If a person has been emotionally and mentally abused by someone that was supposed to take care of them they aren’t going to turn to a dominant for affection and intimacy. Well unless they have other psychological issues. I’d say sugar mama works better but if you want to be more realistic you should do a gradual thing where your MC gradually accepts that someone can actually love them for who they are. Definitely do a one step forward two steps back kinda thing. Make it ugly. According to some stuff I read sometimes abused or neglected kids will lash out as a subconscious/conscious act in order to make sure that the people around them won’t abandon them because of bad behavior.

Well, the idea I'm going with is that he's an adult, he's not a teenager or a kid, he's 25, but he still deals with the neglect of his mother and the hatred for loud men because of his father always yelling and abusing his mother, and because of this neglect, he subconscious disguises that desire for motherly affection as a preference for older and mature women who are emotionally stable and can care about him.

And he actually doesn't lash out all the time but continuously bottles up his own problems and emotional instability, and that's where the harem comes in, multiple women in different emotional expertise and benefits, all helping him with his emotional state while he also helps there's unintentionally.

 

[Dec]

I know this doesn't fit your vision, buut... Can I vote for a cute little sister type instead? :3

 

[MakBow]

I know this doesn't fit your vision, buut... Can I vote for a cute little sister type instead? :3

His father was loud and abusive, and his mother was too focused on the abuse to actually care for him. Do you really want to add a little sister into that?

 

[Dec]

His father was loud and abusive, and his mother was too focused on the abuse to actually care for him. Do you really want to add a little sister into that?

Yes. It gives a reason to not give up. And if possible, create enviroment for her where she can feel safe. Welcome to my life, btw :P

 

[MakBow]

Yes. It gives a reason to not give up. And if possible, create enviroment for her where she can feel safe. Welcome to my life, btw :P

Only one problem, based on the way I wrote him, he wouldn't do that.
He's supposed to be more self-serving at the start, especially since this is a fantasy world, with MAGIC and dragons, and elves, and portals to different realities.
His goal is for strength so by way of his character, if he had a little sister, he would ditch her, not only because he would be jealous of giving her something he didn't get, but he just wouldn't do it period, which is why I can't add a little sister.
He would be too unlikeable.

 

[tantrayaan]

The things you learn exist in this world. Dommy mommy.

 

[autumnsugar]

Why not a rich dommy mommy

 

[MakBow]

Why not a rich dommy mommy View attachment 45756

To be honest, not a good idea.

You must be a masochist to do that. Surely you know how kinky rich people can get and with a dominate mommy character, .......I mean if you're into that I won't judge. ?

 

[Astrolust]

Poor broke Dommy mommy

 

[Representing_Tromba]

My brother somehow keeps finding both at the same time. Somehow, they know about each other and have a groupchat.

 

[ConansWitchBaby]

Why yes, I am judging you.

 

[MakBow]

Why yes, I am judging you.

Judge all you want, I will always love Sugar Mommies

 

[AnonUnlimited]

So, I'm thinking about these two character types and for the character I am thinking about (MC), I kind of have this idea that he(He's 25 years old) has a preference for older, mature, and motherly women because of the lack of motherly love he got has a baby and kid, literally non-existent, and his father was loud and abusive, always hurting her so she simply fed him, and ignored him, so his preference for this kind of women is in a way, him trying to find a woman who would treat him like that to feel loved.
(In short, he subconscious disguises that desire for motherly affection as a preference for older and mature women who are emotionally stable and can care about him)

Y'all think I'm cooking with this fetish?
(So yes, while it is the MC' sort of fetish to be around older and mature women, it's more so a psychological desire for pampering and love)

Tell me which one I should do?

Make it so that the woman he does find is someone who was actually his surrogate mother and gave birth to him while not being biologically related.