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[RepresentingCaution]

hmm, if I had kids, I’d probably do some of these things.
1) Encourage your children no matter what they want to be when they’re small. However I’d thru want to become a stripper later on try to steer them away if not tell them to be the best they can be. Get rained on.
2) listen to them no matter how insignificant it is since you’ll never now if it’ll become a core memory to them
3) If you’re spouse and you are in an argument try and do it when the kid isn’t around. The more they see you fight the more likely they’ll think it’s normal. Ntm, never make them choose sides cuz that’s just evil and sad. Especially when one starts feeling some type of way.
4) read them a book. Help build creativity. And spread the power of manga.
5) put em on some good ol r&b music as we clean the house. Otis Redding playing in the background hits different when mopping.
6) teach them to look at the brighter sides of the world. It’s no use thinking the world is sad if that all of what you see.
7) say “sir” or “ma’am” to the elderly or older ppl. be kind and respectful to any and everyone
8) always answer their questions or help find the answer to their question. If I don’t know it we’ll damn well find out together.
9) discipline. I wouldn’t say I’d whip my child but I’ll use it as a last measure.
10) if I had a son, tell him that it’s okay to cry. Not out in public but somewhere private. Everybody needs a good cry sometimes.
11) teach them that nothing will be handed to you. If you want you’re inheritance you better make your own.
12) family first. No matter what happens in life when push comes to shove find those who you consider family and lean on them. I’ll tell them that blood relative’s doesn’t necessarily mean family ?
13) if you’re gonna do dumb shit, do it smart.
14) gonna do drugs I better not catch you. Or if you do want to I’ll rather have you do it in front of me than wit strangers.
15) if they say I’m wrong and I know I fucked up, I’ll say sorry.
16) treat both genders equally. And I mean equally. Hands are rated e for everybody. I’ll just caution the son to hold back a lil bit. Unless they try to kill them then hit em with that mike Tyson haymaker.
17) never be afraid to fail. Rather have them try it and fail than not try it and never know.
18) support their interest or hobbies. If they love it don’t judge them. I’ll even have them do side jobs (aka chores) to supplement them.
19) financial literacy. My kids are gonna learn how to fill out tax forms. And not learn on the fly like I did.
20) if possible they gonna get jobs around the ages of 16-17 to build up their sense of independence.
21) they’ll either go to college, military or create a lucrative business before they turn 21 with a possible extension depending on circumstances.
22) even though I wrote the above statement, I want them to know that if they ever in the need of help or in trouble, they can always come back home. We’ll figure something out together rather than worrying about where they gonna stay tonight.
NOTE: this skips the infancy stages. I’m not pro at that. If possible I wish I can skip the infant toddler stage and jump straight to age 7.
I wouldn’t mind tips for future reference tho.

1) Yes. I don't see anything wrong with being a stripper, but I wouldn't encourage that until they're over 18. My husband and I agree that if our kids express interest in being sex workers, we don't discourage that, but we don't encourage it, either. What we do is tell them to consider multiple options in case their first choice doesn't work out.
2) Yes.
3) Yeah, I've taken him to the grandparents a few times when we've started getting worked up. However, I think it's important to give them skills in conflict resolution.
4) He asks me to read like 20-30 picture books a day. I only rarely turn him down. I think that occasionally refusing makes him want it more, though.
5) Dad has that covered.
6) I've got that one coverd.
7) Actions are more important than words when it comes to respect. Saying “sir” or “ma’am” to strangers also involves assuming their gender. It's best to ask for a person's name and use that.
8) Indeed!
9) Natural consequences are more effective than punishment. Consequences include talking to your child about what they did so they can see why it was wrong. They need to understand their emotions before they can control them. Punishment is truly a LAST resort.
10) Yes.
11) Be honest with them about money. We're probably not going to have much to leave behind for him.
12) He can always come to us when he needs love and support.
13) Wear a helmet if you're going to climb over fences like those kids we saw at the park.
14) Explain the short-term and long-term consequences of drugs. We don't want you to do drugs because we love you. However, if you find yourself addicted to something and need help stopping, we're always here for you.
15) Yes.
16) Get consent before touching someone.
17) Yes.
18) Yes.
19) Learn how to stick to a budget.
20) That depends on how invested they are in their studies. If they're taking AP classes and stuff like that, do some volunteer work.
21) I have no control over them after they are 18 unless they're still relying on me financially. As long as they're doing something productive, that's what matters.
22) Yes.
NOTE: this skips the infancy stages. I’m not pro at that. If possible I wish I can skip the infant toddler stage and jump straight to age 7.
I wouldn’t mind tips for future reference tho.
From my human development course:

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A concept from my human development course but more recent material:

How to save money:

Note: we still use diapers because we're not perfect, but not as many diapers as other parents. We also use fewer wipes!
How to save money:
Breastfeed. This also saves money in the long run because it's better for the kid's health.
How to save money:
Vaginal birth

How to save your sanity:

How Cosleeping Can Help You and Your Baby

The decision whether to cosleep with your baby is extremely controversial—and there are two sides to the story.

greatergood.berkeley.edu

What Every Health Professional Should Know // Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory // University of Notre Dame

Professor James J. McKenna’s Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory at Notre Dame studies how sleeping and co-sleeping environments affect mothers, breastfeeding, and infants’ physiological and psychological well-being and development.

cosleeping.nd.edu

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1) Yes. I don't see anything wrong with being a stripper, but I wouldn't encourage that until they're over 18. My husband and I agree that if our kids express interest in being sex workers, we don't discourage that, but we don't encourage it, either. What we do is tell them to consider multiple options in case their first choice doesn't work out.
2) Yes.
3) Yeah, I've taken him to the grandparents a few times when we've started getting worked up. However, I think it's important to give them skills in conflict resolution.
4) He asks me to read like 20-30 picture books a day. I only rarely turn him down. I think that occasionally refusing makes him want it more, though.
5) Dad has that covered.
6) I've got that one coverd.
7) Actions are more important than words when it comes to respect. Saying “sir” or “ma’am” to strangers also involves assuming their gender. It's best to ask for a person's name and use that.
8) Indeed!
9) Natural consequences are more effective than punishment. Consequences include talking to your child about what they did so they can see why it was wrong. They need to understand their emotions before they can control them. Punishment is truly a LAST resort.
10) Yes.
11) Be honest with them about money. We're probably not going to have much to leave behind for him.
12) He can always come to us when he needs love and support.
13) Wear a helmet if you're going to climb over fences like those kids we saw at the park.
14) Explain the short-term and long-term consequences of drugs. We don't want you to do drugs because we love you. However, if you find yourself addicted to something and need help stopping, we're always here for you.
15) Yes.
16) Get consent before touching someone.
17) Yes.
18) Yes.
19) Learn how to stick to a budget.
20) That depends on how invested they are in their studies. If they're taking AP classes and stuff like that, do some volunteer work.
21) I have no control over them after they are 18 unless they're still relying on me financially. As long as they're doing something productive, that's what matters.
22) Yes.
NOTE: this skips the infancy stages. I’m not pro at that. If possible I wish I can skip the infant toddler stage and jump straight to age 7.
I wouldn’t mind tips for future reference tho.
From my human development course:

Amazon.com

A concept from my human development course but more recent material:

How to save money:

Note: we still use diapers because we're not perfect, but not as many diapers as other parents. We also use fewer wipes!
How to save money:
Breastfeed. This also saves money in the long run because it's better for the kid's health.
How to save money:
Vaginal birth

How to save your sanity:

How Cosleeping Can Help You and Your Baby

The decision whether to cosleep with your baby is extremely controversial—and there are two sides to the story.

greatergood.berkeley.edu

What Every Health Professional Should Know // Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory // University of Notre Dame

Professor James J. McKenna’s Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory at Notre Dame studies how sleeping and co-sleeping environments affect mothers, breastfeeding, and infants’ physiological and psychological well-being and development.

cosleeping.nd.edu

Helpful to me right now:

i thank thee…one step closer to getting out the B’s and into a house. Any body interested in BAH?