So what tropes that you know that actually happen in the real world. (Edited for clarity)

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So,

Usually there are discussion about tropes you hate or do not hate.
This one is what fictional bad Tropes are there that you have seen regularly? Note that one special snow flake example does not count.
I want people to put down their list of fiction tropes, that actually do exist in real life and any examples they can think of. (Edited to hopefully clarify what I was trying to say; thanks Sailus)

For me the easy 3.

Face Slapping young master usually from Xianxia more often then not.
  • Rich self important brats who cause issue because daddy/uncle/family always bail them out. Here in the States it is not as bad a syndrome, but in Korea. Yeah Chaebol are a thing, young adults who arrive in a pack of hangers on and drive over priced expensive cars. Mind you the actual 4-6 families Chaebol families I knew of back then, mostly reigned in their kids it was the second and third tiers that seemed to have issues.
  • Saw the same thing in the Philippines, Egypt, Southern Europe and South America. Never really saw it in Northern Europe when I was there; except once on the news.
Harem (The 3+ of people chasing after 1 person version) also usually includes "childhood friend always loses/childhood friend gets knocked up" and only "one wins in the end" or "no one wins".
  • The Drama of the high School scene, the Douch-baggery of the in crowd.
  • Then there is the military that has it own quirks in this genre due to long deployment times, spouses loneliness in very foreign climes, alcohol usage near cult like and to many people in their early 20s and late teens with all the hormones going full throttle.
  • College takes high school and ups it with OMG we no longer having someone holding me back! For the Freshman and sophomore years, then tends to tone it down.
The Clueless protagonist.
  • I was this guy in social situations for decades.
 
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Most tropes are usually based off a real phenomenon. They're often just taken to absurdity. Dense protagonist is real. There are people that don't get it even if someone confesses their feelings.

Misunderstandings happen all of the time. I understand that some novels take it too far, but I disagree with the idea that character's should have just talked things out to solve misunderstandings. If that happened in real life, there would be far less problems. It's actually more common than people understanding each other.
 

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Rape victim to lover?

I get that stockholm syndrome exist.
Depending on the type of rape I could follow that, but rape has a huge gamut of "types of rapes", yeah weird but true. So it is pretty wide ranging, and might not even need Stockholm syndrome for the love part to happen depending on "type of rape".
 

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The way you phrased it is so weird. Or is it just me? Anyway, Yanderes are a real thing if you count them as a trope.
My best friend married one and didn't come to my wedding because of it. They're divorced now, and I thought it was OVER, but, well, they live far away, so I'm not completely sure what the deal is now.

I have a different friend who just reconnected with a high school sweetheart, and I'm super excited for her.
 

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A man having multiple lovers that wasn't harem, the women didn't compete against each other, it was consensual, and the women were committed to that single man, so it wasn't polyamory.

I knew a guy who was in his early 30's, the two women were first-cousins with one being 24 and the other being 26, both fell for him, and they lived together as lovers. He never married either for obvious legal reasons, but he remained with both of them for 20-something years until he died of lung cancer, and even now years after his death, they are still head-over-heels for him and still smile all goofily when talking about him. They never bothered dating again after he died either. I saw an old picture of the three of them, when their "throuple" thing was only a few years old, and the cousins were beautiful when they were younger too, so I mean it wasn't like they couldn't have found someone else. They didn't need to share the same man, but they did.

The older of the two had 3 kids by him, and the younger one had 2 kids by him. This was in the U.S. by the way.
 

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I'm too sleepy to think of a lot but here are a few about my family or friends of the family.

Love at first sight (or with little interaction). My great-grandfather saw my great-grandmother working in the fields and carried her off to be married. She refused to return home to her parents when they went to get her. They had a stupid amount of kids and were ery happily married.

Enemies to lovers. I couldn't stand one of my acquaintances. He was a friend of a friend and I thought he was the most irritating person on Earth. Even told our mutual friend to tell him to stop talking to me because I didn't want to bother. We've been together for over 15 years now.

Sometimes the best explanation is the best (or whatever you want to call it). Local guy managed to get in with a bunch of drug dealers. Think mid-tier in the totem pole. Not sure of how it happened but he got caught with a case full of counterfeit Canadian money. His defense in court was that he didn't know how he got it or what he was doing with it as he was wired out on coke. Obviously, the charge for possession is a lot less than counterfeiting money.

Stupid names. I know someone who changed their name to Wild Allan. Yup.

Gave it all up to work on the farm. Way back in the 90s, my cousin was a very talented musician (singing, music writing and multiple instruments) and went all the way to Nashville. He was just about to sign a deal that was pretty decent but he decided to come back home. He works in an apple orchard now.
 

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*Reads OP's Thread*
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.....No? I don't know that person. Definetly didn't have people faceslapping me due to misunderstandings, had a harem in highschool, am not a dense person, being just an average joe, didn't have a tragic backstory, have estranged family relationship, had a female childhood friend, awkard first love and didn't have plot armor because all my luck is converted into livesaving tokens.
 

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Most tropes are usually based off a real phenomenon. They're often just taken to absurdity. Dense protagonist is real. There are people that don't get it even if someone confesses their feelings.

Misunderstandings happen all of the time. I understand that some novels take it too far, but I disagree with the idea that character's should have just talked things out to solve misunderstandings. If that happened in real life, there would be far less problems. It's actually more common than people understanding each other.
True. I never understand the concept of people saying the entire issue will be solved if people just sit and talk. True but that never happens in real life too. And a story should exist, otherwise there is no point in first palce.
 

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Every trope is based on real life, that's the reason why people love and hate them because they associate those things with their life. Some of them are very common, while some aren't.

For me I have seen,

1. Love triangles(romcom ones)
2. Young master/mistress syndrome
3. Dumb protagonist (People with lack of common sense)
4. Ntr/Nts
5. Harem (consensual one, muslims have 3-4 wives)
6. Yanderes (I don't think its a trope but....)
7. Miscommunication (happens more than you think)
8. Getting in love for no reason (yeah isekai style)
9. Competition for getting the girl (trying to impress a girl boys do compete)
10. Genuine dog shit bullies (No exaggeration)
 

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So,

Usually there are discussion about tropes you hate or do not hate.
This one is what fictional bad Tropes are there that you have seen regularly? Note that one special snow flake example does not count.
I want people to put down their list of fiction tropes, that actually do exist in real life and any examples they can think of. (Edited to hopefully clarify what I was trying to say; thanks Sailus)

For me the easy 3.

Face Slapping young master usually from Xianxia more often then not.
  • Rich self important brats who cause issue because daddy/uncle/family always bail them out. Here in the States it is not as bad a syndrome, but in Korea. Yeah Chaebol are a thing, young adults who arrive in a pack of hangers on and drive over priced expensive cars. Mind you the actual 4-6 families Chaebol families I knew of back then, mostly reigned in their kids it was the second and third tiers that seemed to have issues.
  • Saw the same thing in the Philippines, Egypt, Southern Europe and South America. Never really saw it in Northern Europe when I was there; except once on the news.
Harem (The 3+ of people chasing after 1 person version) also usually includes "childhood friend always loses/childhood friend gets knocked up" and only "one wins in the end" or "no one wins".
  • The Drama of the high School scene, the Douch-baggery of the in crowd.
  • Then there is the military that has it own quirks in this genre due to long deployment times, spouses loneliness in very foreign climes, alcohol usage near cult like and to many people in their early 20s and late teens with all the hormones going full throttle.
  • College takes high school and ups it with OMG we no longer having someone holding me back! For the Freshman and sophomore years, then tends to tone it down.
The Clueless protagonist.
  • I was this guy in social situations for decades.

used marvel short fanfic with real world drama
 

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A man having multiple lovers that wasn't harem, the women didn't compete against each other, it was consensual, and the women were committed to that single man, so it wasn't polyamory.

I knew a guy who was in his early 30's, the two women were first-cousins with one being 24 and the other being 26, both fell for him, and they lived together as lovers. He never married either for obvious legal reasons, but he remained with both of them for 20-something years until he died of lung cancer, and even now years after his death, they are still head-over-heels for him and still smile all goofily when talking about him. They never bothered dating again after he died either. I saw an old picture of the three of them, when their "throuple" thing was only a few years old, and the cousins were beautiful when they were younger too, so I mean it wasn't like they couldn't have found someone else. They didn't need to share the same man, but they did.

The older of the two had 3 kids by him, and the younger one had 2 kids by him. This was in the U.S. by the way.
Polygamy. The word you're looking for is polygamy.
 

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Polygamy means marriage is involved. It means having multiple spouses. They didn't marry.
Did they live together? Depending on state, why yes they were considered married. Some countries and states are taking it off the books, for reasons now days. But many had the if you lived with someone of the opposite sex for X amount of years you were considered married.
 

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Did they live together? Depending on state, why yes they were considered married. Some countries and states are taking it off the books, for reasons now days. But many had the if you lived with someone of the opposite sex for X amount of years you were considered married.
You're talking about common-law marriage. They had kids together so of course they lived together. But no, common-law marriage is only a law in 16 of the 50 states and they were in NC which isn't a common-law state, or wasn't while he lived. I don't know now, I moved to another state years back but I keep in touch with those women since they are close friends of relatives.

Edit: Nah, NC isn't a common-law marriage state even now.
 

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Plot armor.

Just look at all the failed assassination attempts on people like Hitler and Castro
 
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