Motivation

[Wlel]

Lately I've been feels out of the circle. You know, I had a lot of free time. Yet I waste it all in single day by doing nothing.

When I'm bored, I usually will do something. Such as writing a stories or do a quick sketch. I'm enjoying it all, really.

But time after time, I don't feel like to do it anymore, I lost interest on it. My mind want to do it but my limbs won't let me do.

I don't know what it is. A contradiction between my own-self? Or just a lack of motivation?

Even making this thread cost me 30 minutes....... Easy to get distracted when doing something simple like this..... How can I overcome this feeling? This phase of life?

And yeah, this my first time making a thread. I usually don't want to bother doing something like this but this time, I feel like I need other people's advice and opinions.

I don't want to waste my time, waste my life like this....

 

[RepresentingWrath]

Ask your friend or relative to slap you.

 

[EternalSunset0]

Lately I've been feels out of the circle. You know, I had a lot of free time. Yet I waste it all in single day by doing nothing.

When I'm bored, I usually will do something. Such as writing a stories or do a quick sketch. I'm enjoying it all, really.

But time after time, I don't feel like to do it anymore, I lost interest on it. My mind want to do it but my limbs won't let me do.

I don't know what it is. A contradiction between my own-self? Or just a lack of motivation?

Even making this thread cost me 30 minutes....... Easy to get distracted when doing something simple like this..... How can I overcome this feeling? This phase of life?

And yeah, this my first time making a thread. I usually don't want to bother doing something like this but this time, I feel like I need other people's advice and opinions.

I don't want to waste my time, waste my life like this....

Yeah, it's been happening to me lately as well. You know, the feeling that you should be doing something, but you end up just laying on bed doing nothing but stare at the ceiling/your phone.

I refuse to believe it's as simple as laziness, boredom, or being burned out. It's anxiety of some sort that prevents you from doing something.

I don't mean to pry too much, but do you have ADHD or anything of the like? I feel it has something to do with it. I know since I have it. In that case, perhaps seeking professional advice can help?

As for advice, I think finding someone to talk casual things to can help. Probably distract yourself with another hobby. Or share your sketches here and find someone to interact with about your characters/story/whatever. Perhaps those can help spark more inspiration for you.

 

[gogo7966]

Lately I've been feels out of the circle. You know, I had a lot of free time. Yet I waste it all in single day by doing nothing.

When I'm bored, I usually will do something. Such as writing a stories or do a quick sketch. I'm enjoying it all, really.

But time after time, I don't feel like to do it anymore, I lost interest on it. My mind want to do it but my limbs won't let me do.

I don't know what it is. A contradiction between my own-self? Or just a lack of motivation?

Even making this thread cost me 30 minutes....... Easy to get distracted when doing something simple like this..... How can I overcome this feeling? This phase of life?

And yeah, this my first time making a thread. I usually don't want to bother doing something like this but this time, I feel like I need other people's advice and opinions.

I don't want to waste my time, waste my life like this....

it's my greatest enemy and this is the one foe i can't beat

 

[greyblob]

It's burnout.close everything off stop thinking about it and chill

 

[Lloyd]

Sometimes you must force yourself to do something.

 

[KiraMinoru]

Lately I've been feels out of the circle. You know, I had a lot of free time. Yet I waste it all in single day by doing nothing.

When I'm bored, I usually will do something. Such as writing a stories or do a quick sketch. I'm enjoying it all, really.

But time after time, I don't feel like to do it anymore, I lost interest on it. My mind want to do it but my limbs won't let me do.

I don't know what it is. A contradiction between my own-self? Or just a lack of motivation?

Even making this thread cost me 30 minutes....... Easy to get distracted when doing something simple like this..... How can I overcome this feeling? This phase of life?

And yeah, this my first time making a thread. I usually don't want to bother doing something like this but this time, I feel like I need other people's advice and opinions.

I don't want to waste my time, waste my life like this....

Isn’t it just writer’s block? Just stop worrying about wanting to write, kick back, relax, and enjoy doing some other stuff. The more you think you want to write, the less motivated you’ll feel to write anything. When you come across that spark of inspiration while doing other things you’ll be able to write again. Simply put, you need to refuel on your inspirational juices.

 

[blanksphere]

A little bit of distractions are fine. Isn't that what stories are for? Do some random stuff to get your creativity flowing.
I distract myself all the time. Games, foods, sleep, read, stretch... anything goes.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

This could be depression. I recommend speaking to your doctor.

 

[Deleted member 45782]

Idk but I felt that way last some months. There was quite bit of stress, and stuff. It has been hard to focus, like my mind will want to do one thing but something holding me back and when finally do that something, my mind jumps back to what want to do. Still feel like wasting time even now on shf haha, even thu have been more productive in other stuff now. It's something gotta figure out as well here, haven't wrote much anything. Too many things want do, no idea how execute them and just delay...

Would suggest maybe take some time to take care of yourself. If you find losing focus in your writing or drawing, take a break. Get some fresh air. Could be writers block, artist block, etc. Something make you lost the passion in whatever you do bc doing same thing and nothing new or etc etc. Or just something else like a few said, something that may need more attention depending what it is. Ofc, since this is the internet so it's hard to discover what's actually causing you to lose motivation. Do try to talk how you feel with your friends too - sometimes that helps unleash stuff bottled up inside and blocking something, and talking with others - you may be able bounce back and forth ideas and come up with new ideas, and maybe your motivation gets renewed or inspiration comes through.

Lastly, @Motivation come here. We're looking for you.

 

[Wlel]

Well, it's not just about writing. When I reading, drawing, studying, even making this reply takes me 20 minutes. It's been like this for 4 months. Which makes me ended up in bed till the night falls.

Believe me, I want to believe this is just some normal distraction or laziness. I want to think positive about it. But after you had it for 4 months, can you still thinking this is just a normal things? NO!

I'VE BEEN IN THIS PHASE FOR THAT LONG! I WASTE MY FUCKING TIME, FUCKING LIFE FOR 4 MONTHS! I'VE GOT NOTHING PAST 4 MONTHS AND IF I DON'T DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT— the year almost over, I don't want to be like this till next year. I hate this feeling!

Feeling lost, empty shell.

That's why I decided to make this thread, and some people advised me to talk and go to the doctor. May try it tomorrow, if I survived.

Also thank you for all your concern, really appreciate it. Really.

 

[Emi_the_Fairy]

Well, it's not just about writing. When I reading, drawing, studying, even making this reply takes me 20 minutes. It's been like this for 4 months. Which makes me ended up in bed till the night falls.

Believe me, I want to believe this is just some normal distraction or laziness. I want to think positive about it. But after you had it for 4 months, can you still thinking this is just a normal things? NO!

I'VE BEEN IN THIS PHASE FOR THAT LONG! I WASTE MY FUCKING TIME, FUCKING LIFE FOR 4 MONTHS! I'VE GOT NOTHING PAST 4 MONTHS AND IF I DON'T DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT— the year almost over, I don't want to be like this till next year. I hate this feeling!

Feeling lost, empty shell.

That's why I decided to make this thread, and some people advised me to talk and go to the doctor. May try it tomorrow, if I survived.

Also thank you for all your concern, really appreciate it. Really.

Definitely could be depression. It can be caused by a lot of things, especially if you haven't been going out much. It's good to see a doctor like you said, but a therapist may also be helpful. (No shame in therapy btw. Therapy is great)

With the pandemic and everything it can really tax your mental health, and it can be affected by stuff like lack of sunlight.

One bit of warning though, don't expect to be back in the swing immediately and be sure to pace yourself. (Obviously take your medical professional's advice over my recommendations of course)

Wishing you luck out there <3

 

[KiraMinoru]

Well, it's not just about writing. When I reading, drawing, studying, even making this reply takes me 20 minutes. It's been like this for 4 months. Which makes me ended up in bed till the night falls.

Believe me, I want to believe this is just some normal distraction or laziness. I want to think positive about it. But after you had it for 4 months, can you still thinking this is just a normal things? NO!

I'VE BEEN IN THIS PHASE FOR THAT LONG! I WASTE MY FUCKING TIME, FUCKING LIFE FOR 4 MONTHS! I'VE GOT NOTHING PAST 4 MONTHS AND IF I DON'T DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT— the year almost over, I don't want to be like this till next year. I hate this feeling!

Feeling lost, empty shell.

That's why I decided to make this thread, and some people advised me to talk and go to the doctor. May try it tomorrow, if I survived.

Also thank you for all your concern, really appreciate it. Really.

During my phase of writer’s block I was in a pretty similar state of mind. For about 3-4 months where I wrote absolutely nothing. I wasn’t able to find anime or manga I enjoyed, I didn’t particularly feel like reading anything either despite it having been 2-3 years since I seriously read anyone else’s story.

I typically couldn’t get into reading anyone else’s stories because my brain would always go into editing mode thinking how I’d write something better the instant I saw some grammatical mistake or when I found the sentence structure somehow annoyed me. I couldn’t turn my brain off and it made it so I couldn’t actually focus on simply enjoying the story anymore.

Anyway, one day I thought to stop thinking about writing altogether and to just go watch some mindless streams on twitch. I eventually somehow got into watching GTA RP and I just watched that all day everyday for those 3-4 months until I got fed up with it because the cops in it were triggering.

At that point I finally thought to myself that I genuinely wanted to read something interesting. I ended up reading all the available volumes of Classroom of the Elite over the course of a few days. After that, I found inspiration to go write a shitty high school romance and it gradually turned into something more than that. Went on some insane writing spree of like 400k words in less than 2 months, and now closing in on 500k.

So seriously, just find something new to waste your time on if you can’t enjoy the things you used to anymore. After enough time has passed, you’ll probably be able to enjoy the old things you used to, to a certain degree, before you get bored again and need something else new to entertain yourself with.

 

[CL]

Lately I've been feels out of the circle. You know, I had a lot of free time. Yet I waste it all in single day by doing nothing.

When I'm bored, I usually will do something. Such as writing a stories or do a quick sketch. I'm enjoying it all, really.

But time after time, I don't feel like to do it anymore, I lost interest on it. My mind want to do it but my limbs won't let me do.

I don't know what it is. A contradiction between my own-self? Or just a lack of motivation?

Even making this thread cost me 30 minutes....... Easy to get distracted when doing something simple like this..... How can I overcome this feeling? This phase of life?

And yeah, this my first time making a thread. I usually don't want to bother doing something like this but this time, I feel like I need other people's advice and opinions.

I don't want to waste my time, waste my life like this....

It's burnout.

As long as you are feeling good and are receiving a happy audience from your writing and stories, you won't experience burnout. The moment something in your writing doesn't feel right is when stress starts building up. You have to work to correct it. You can turn into a fun task, so it isn't the end of your creative world. Or, what is worse, let's say somebody decides to be negative towards your stories. Someone thinks it'd be fun or, even uglier, truly believe the world would be a better place without your stories. You feel that frustration, the stress, all the pain of your efforts not going the way you desired. The more that stress builds up, the more your mind is trying to figure what's going on and how do "I" stop it. Eventually, the very thing that you were fired up to do, that passion you could casually do any given day, get's put out. This was done to keep you stress-free and safe. Your mind couldn't stop the outside influences, but it could stop you from interacting with them.

The fire's gone out; burnout.

 

[Cipiteca396]

I don't know what it is.

Sounds like depression. It could be more severe though. Definitely discuss with a therapist.

As for advice, I think finding someone to talk casual things to can help.

This is kinda key. If you're looking for motivation, finding someone who's genuinely interested in what you have to write is the best. Discussing things will always help.

It's good to see a doctor like you said, but a therapist may also be helpful. (No shame in therapy btw. Therapy is great)

Definitely take a therapist over a doctor. A bottle full of opiates isn't going to help anyone...

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What you shouldn't do, is just try to push through on willpower alone. People who say stuff like, "Just do it." "Push through." or "Force yourself to keep going." don't understand what they're talking about. They're people who can see telling a blind person, "Well, just look at it."

Even if you manage to work up the motivation to get through a day, it'll just be harder the next day. The reason you need a therapist, is to help you find the thing that's holding you back, or something that will consistently motivate you, without having to just fake it.

Lastly, drugs are a last resort. If any doctor or therapist tries that as their first or second option, find another one.

 

[Deleted member 45782]

Well, it's not just about writing. When I reading, drawing, studying, even making this reply takes me 20 minutes. It's been like this for 4 months. Which makes me ended up in bed till the night falls.

Believe me, I want to believe this is just some normal distraction or laziness. I want to think positive about it. But after you had it for 4 months, can you still thinking this is just a normal things? NO!

I'VE BEEN IN THIS PHASE FOR THAT LONG! I WASTE MY FUCKING TIME, FUCKING LIFE FOR 4 MONTHS! I'VE GOT NOTHING PAST 4 MONTHS AND IF I DON'T DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT— the year almost over, I don't want to be like this till next year. I hate this feeling!

Feeling lost, empty shell.

That's why I decided to make this thread, and some people advised me to talk and go to the doctor. May try it tomorrow, if I survived.

Also thank you for all your concern, really appreciate it. Really.

Sorry to hear that. Quite possibly had felt this way more than some months too- it's been a slow build up to this point, just this year it slightly became more prominent. Unmotivated want to do but not doing it. Few months back, I watched a show where there was an actor just few years younger than I. It put me in a downward spiral into thinking how much life I wasted while others are doing so much more at this age and even younger. At times it pushed me to keep pushing, thu sometimes it brought me down too.

Please don't hurt yourself. It sounds like depression as others have said. Feeling lost and being an empty shell, it's temporarily. It seems long but you're not alone in feeling that at times. It's cheesy to say, but its not gonna stay this way down for long. There's lot more to life ahead. I'm starting to feel motivated than when I initially first joined on sh. Someday you'll get that feeling again to create. I hope you get the professional help you need asap. And I hope you feel better soon someday.