Love confession stories!

[ohko]

Love confessions are great when you're six (I remember when I was like four: I confessed to some like 16 year old german exchange student who was staying with us for like, a short while. Didn't work out, fam), or perhaps when you're particularly inexperienced with romance at 16 (cannot comment on due to my experience). By the time you're 26 though: conversations with someone you like should naturally lead towards the bedroom, and there's plenty of time for as many sweet "I love you"s there as you want. Expressing interest in another human being isn't actually an earth-shaking emotional matter if your relationship with that person isn't either A: 'abnormal' or B: 'socially impossible'. The worst that can happen in most cases is that the other person says 'yuck, no.', but more usually they'll be satisfied to reject your reasonable advances in a civilized fashion.

If you're not about to absolutely creep someone out by expressing your interest in them... then there really is no reason not to go for it! The only time for 'caution' when it comes to 'confessions' is if your relationship would be adversely affected by the expressions of affection: teacher x student, mother x daughter, father x son, a girl's best friend x but most definitely not a lesbian.... it's one of those things that unless there's some greater reason why you 'can't' or 'shouldn't' tell a person you're interested: it's not really going to hurt anybody, so you might as well try your luck.

Both of my last two major relationships started with just talking together friendly-like, and so we grew closer. Second to last was a lovely chat and hanging out for less than 7 hours before we were in bed together doing the kinds of things people do in bed together (never been cuddled with before? Really? No, that was not happening: cuddles are justice... I didn't actually expect it to 'degrade' into a more physical arrangement, but my god was I glad it did), and my current one we chatted online for about seven months before I got to England.... and it wasn't two hours before we were in bed together doing the kinds of things people do in bed together (well, not counting the time I was stuck waiting in the 'these people be crazy' zone at the border, ostensibly they were looking out for my safety and such, but it really was quite silly).

Except for when I was child I've never 'confessed' my love for anyone, because my interest in almost any person has never been a secret.

I must be twelve years old xD

 

[BenJepheneT]

I was confessed to twice.

Yeah mfkers as hard as it may seem someone found my epic retardation and autism charming

though it all happened when we're
still children. I'm talking about the age where we still need parental guidance to watch The Avengers. That age.

it was a nothing confession. doubt they even remember me to this day

 

[Amarathia]

I must be twelve years old xD

It just depends on the people involved.
Some are especially awkward/cautious/shy/prudent, so they might 'officially' confess to each other to make sure they're on the same page before venturing out to that racy bedroom scene even when they're 30+ and on. As far as the mix of people I know of, it doesn't seem to be age gated. "By the time you're 26 conversations should naturally lead to the bedroom?" Once again, certainly not everyone. Some won't be comfortable with a few simple chats leading to a bedroom, even though many others might be chill with it. Sometimes people are religious, so they don't do bedrooms stuffs until after marriage. It all depends on how someone wants to pace the relationship. And maybe they just don't like the color or layout of the bedroom, so they don't want to go there at all? Who knows. I don't get why everyone is obsessed with bedrooms.

In any case, I do agree with the mindset that most times people don't have a lot to lose by getting their feelings out there.

 

[ohko]

It just depends on the people involved.
Some are especially awkward/cautious/shy/prudent, so they might 'officially' confess to each other to make sure they're on the same page before venturing out to that racy bedroom scene even when they're 30+ and on. As far as the mix of people I know of, it doesn't seem to be age gated. "By the time you're 26 conversations should naturally lead to the bedroom?" Once again, certainly not everyone. Some won't be comfortable with a few simple chats leading to a bedroom, even though many others might be chill with it. Sometimes people are religious, so they don't do bedrooms stuffs until after marriage. It all depends on how someone wants to pace the relationship. And maybe they just don't like the color or layout of the bedroom, so they don't want to go there at all? Who knows. I don't get why everyone is obsessed with bedrooms.

In any case, I do agree with the mindset that most times people don't have a lot to lose by getting their feelings out there.

^^ I mean, for me, I've been in the same relationship for 8 years, so I think I've barely emotionally matured in the sense that I haven't really dated casually at all. It's really fascinating and interesting for me to see what the dating scene is like for most people.

That said, it's difficult for me to imagine moving so fast haha ^^

Or maybe I haven't quite wrapped my head around physical intimacy before emotional intimacy. I'm kind of the type of person to put the emotional parts first before feeling particularly comfortable about physical intimacy (at least, I think).

 

[GDLiZy]

My childhood is so sad that I usually was left out to do group project with the girls so I guessed I've been friend-zoned since a child, huh?

Well, there is no hint of romance in my life right now, and a pretty huge chance to never have in the future, too.

 

[CupcakeNinja]

Have you confessed to anyone? Has anyone confessed to you?

If you're willing to share, how did it go? What was it like? Details!

Girl jn my school indirectly confessed to me years ago. She was pretty but i aint about that roundabout bullshit cuz she had her friend do it and i straight up told the friend, "yeah unless she say it i wont believe or acknowledge it"

Couple years later another girl asked if i like her and i was like, "ay i like you well enough." And she was also pretty but nothing came of it. I assume she just wanted her vanity indulged. I am nkt going to pursue a chick if she doesnt clearly tell me she interested in me. Its different if i am the one interested cuz i dont just sit around, i get out there and be clear with them.

But if they pull the stuff these two did? Nah man. Either you say what you want from me or gtfo. nobody got time for these vague mind games. I mean like what am i supposed to do with something so ambiguous anyway?

 

[AliceShiki]

Have you confessed to anyone? Has anyone confessed to you?

If you're willing to share, how did it go? What was it like? Details!

I did both! \(^^)/

Though well, you kinda know my stories well enough by now, so I won't share it all over again~ *giggles*

Love confessions are great when you're six (I remember when I was like four: I confessed to some like 16 year old german exchange student who was staying with us for like, a short while. Didn't work out, fam), or perhaps when you're particularly inexperienced with romance at 16 (cannot comment on due to my experience). By the time you're 26 though: conversations with someone you like should naturally lead towards the bedroom, and there's plenty of time for as many sweet "I love you"s there as you want. Expressing interest in another human being isn't actually an earth-shaking emotional matter if your relationship with that person isn't either A: 'abnormal' or B: 'socially impossible'. The worst that can happen in most cases is that the other person says 'yuck, no.', but more usually they'll be satisfied to reject your reasonable advances in a civilized fashion.

If you're not about to absolutely creep someone out by expressing your interest in them... then there really is no reason not to go for it! The only time for 'caution' when it comes to 'confessions' is if your relationship would be adversely affected by the expressions of affection: teacher x student, mother x daughter, father x son, a girl's best friend x but most definitely not a lesbian.... it's one of those things that unless there's some greater reason why you 'can't' or 'shouldn't' tell a person you're interested: it's not really going to hurt anybody, so you might as well try your luck.

Both of my last two major relationships started with just talking together friendly-like, and so we grew closer. Second to last was a lovely chat and hanging out for less than 7 hours before we were in bed together doing the kinds of things people do in bed together (never been cuddled with before? Really? No, that was not happening: cuddles are justice... I didn't actually expect it to 'degrade' into a more physical arrangement, but my god was I glad it did), and my current one we chatted online for about seven months before I got to England.... and it wasn't two hours before we were in bed together doing the kinds of things people do in bed together (well, not counting the time I was stuck waiting in the 'these people be crazy' zone at the border, ostensibly they were looking out for my safety and such, but it really was quite silly).

Except for when I was child I've never 'confessed' my love for anyone, because my interest in almost any person has never been a secret.

I dunno, like... While I'm pretty comfortable with going to bed with someone that I'm in a stable relationship with, the part of actually reaching a relationship takes a long time to me.

Like... I need to know the person well, and I need to know I'm interested in them (Which takes quite a while, I don't fall in love easily), and I also need to know that they are interested in me... Which almost never happened so... Welp.

So uhn... I dunno, I feel like asking someone to go out with you makes sense? It's a clear way of expressing your feelings... I dunno how else I'd make my intentions get across if I wasn't straight to the point and said my honest feelings about it to the person I loved.

Girl jn my school indirectly confessed to me years ago. She was pretty but i aint about that roundabout bullshit cuz she had her friend do it and k straight up told the friend, "yeah unless she say it i wont believe or acknowledge it"

Couple years later another girl asked if i like her and i was like, "ay i like you well enough." And she was also pretty but nothing ce of it. I assume she just wanted her vanity indulged. I am nkt going to pursue a chick if she doesnt clearly tell me she interested in me. Its different if i am the one interested cuz i dont just sit around, i get out there and be clear sith them.

But if they pull the stuff these two did? Nah man. Either you say what you want from me or gtfo. nobody got time for these vague mind games. I mean like what am i supposed to do with something so ambiguous anyway?

I agree with you! I get that some people are shy or scared of rejection, but... A relationship is a serious business, if you can't even face the person you wanna date, then what's eve the point of getting into a serious relationship? It'll crumble in no time, most likely.

 

[CupcakeNinja]

I did both! \(^^)/

Though well, you kinda know my stories well enough by now, so I won't share it all over again~ *giggles*

I dunno, like... While I'm pretty comfortable with going to bed with someone that I'm in a stable relationship with, the part of actually reaching a relationship takes a long time to me.

Like... I need to know the person well, and I need to know I'm interested in them (Which takes quite a while, I don't fall in love easily), and I also need to know that they are interested in me... Which almost never happened so... Welp.

So uhn... I dunno, I feel like asking someone to go out with you makes sense? It's a clear way of expressing your feelings... I dunno how else I'd make my intentions get across if I wasn't straight to the point and said my honest feelings about it to the person I loved.

I agree with you! I get that some people are shy or scared of rejection, but... A relationship is a serious business, if you can't even face the person you wanna date, then what's eve the point of getting into a serious relationship? It'll crumble in no time, most likely.

Exactly. If you want a relationship, do something about it. Even if you sre shy, you cant just use a proxy.THEY arent tje ones who gonna be dating the person you like, hopefully....you are. You want to. So you have to do it. Otherwise it shows a lack of sincerity, i feel.

 

[ArcadiaBlade]

Well, there were 2 guys online and 3 girls in RL.

The first confession was about me having my journal found out by my fellow classmate and he saw that i like the girl who i once bullied. It ended badly that i was really scared of confessing but i didn't stop liking her tho.

The second was about a transfer student in our first year in HS and me and this girl tend to hang out a lot. I didn't expect that this girl was constantly signaling me to respond to her confession and my classmates tend to call me an idiot to not response(didn't know what Dense was since i wasn't an anvid anime watcher nor what anime was).

The third was me and a fellow classmate(who was known to be a school beauty) and had confess to me. I was still too dense and rejected her since i still like a girl at that time.

The final girl was in my second year and was having a hard time adjusting to the class. I came in and made it easier for her to adjust and didn't expect for her to like me. Like the last girl however, i still ended up rejecting her.


As for the 2 online guys, one was in dota and another in Lol.

The first guy was kinda impress in playing as a good support that he ask for another game. I played with him again and he had misunderstood that i was a girl because of how nice and receptive to help? Dunno why but anyway, until the end of the game, he decided to confess to me and i told him to be good bros which he laughed out loud and it felt awkward.

The second guy was just the same but instead, my brother was there and he almost pass out laughing.

 

[Vaerama]

It just depends on the people involved.
Some are especially awkward/cautious/shy/prudent, so they might 'officially' confess to each other to make sure they're on the same page before venturing out to that racy bedroom scene even when they're 30+ and on. As far as the mix of people I know of, it doesn't seem to be age gated. "By the time you're 26 conversations should naturally lead to the bedroom?" Once again, certainly not everyone. Some won't be comfortable with a few simple chats leading to a bedroom, even though many others might be chill with it. Sometimes people are religious, so they don't do bedrooms stuffs until after marriage. It all depends on how someone wants to pace the relationship. And maybe they just don't like the color or layout of the bedroom, so they don't want to go there at all? Who knows. I don't get why everyone is obsessed with bedrooms.

In any case, I do agree with the mindset that most times people don't have a lot to lose by getting their feelings out there.

Well yeah, course there’s no one-size fits all with humans. I can’t say I’ve had many ‘rejections’, but I’ve certainly been turned down before, for loads of reasons.

Only by other girls though, and mostly due to the whole ‘they were straight’ reason in particular.

Also, *most* people *aren’t* so willing to have sex as a show of affection and support. Having sex matters ‘more’ to most people.

Bedrooms have a soft semi-stable surface to them. A big log on a beach hurts bad enough to be a full-stopper for forward, and it’s not so great to touch with the hands: dries them out, or squiggy, with no in between. Sand and rocks is an obvious no go, snow *burns* and that kind of cold isn’t stoppable by getting naked IMO. Grass has *slugs* in it, tables are usually flat and solid which can be ‘useful’, same with kitchen counters. Floors are usually shite: noncarpet is awful, and carpet can be rough in some circumstances (also they’re often astoundingly dirty).

TLDR: Bedrooms are great because they have beds in them. Bathrooms can have a nice variety, and kitchens are basically bathrooms without toilets in them. Just can’t beat beds though: they have blankets, they have pillows, and they usually have the drawers full of interesting objects. Bedrooms are just so so so much better than the competition.

 

[Kldran]

I don't fall in love easily

I actually have the opposite problem: I fall in love very easily (though the strength of that can vary). As a result: I just ignore it. I focus more on other issues and haven't found anyone I think is a good match. Generally speaking, I am a burden that I would not wish to place on others, so I do not expect to ever find someone I'd consider a good match.

Of the 3 people I've fallen for in real life, 2 of them know. As for what I find attractive: It's a personality thing. What people say and do, is what I fall in love with.

 

[ohko]

Well yeah, course there’s no one-size fits all with humans. I can’t say I’ve had many ‘rejections’, but I’ve certainly been turned down before, for loads of reasons.

Only by other girls though, and mostly due to the whole ‘they were straight’ reason in particular.

Also, *most* people *aren’t* so willing to have sex as a show of affection and support. Having sex matters ‘more’ to most people.

Bedrooms have a soft semi-stable surface to them. A big log on a beach hurts bad enough to be a full-stopper for forward, and it’s not so great to touch with the hands: dries them out, or squiggy, with no in between. Sand and rocks is an obvious no go, snow *burns* and that kind of cold isn’t stoppable by getting naked IMO. Grass has *slugs* in it, tables are usually flat and solid which can be ‘useful’, same with kitchen counters. Floors are usually shite: noncarpet is awful, and carpet can be rough in some circumstances (also they’re often astoundingly dirty).

TLDR: Bedrooms are great because they have beds in them. Bathrooms can have a nice variety, and kitchens are basically bathrooms without toilets in them. Just can’t beat beds though: they have blankets, they have pillows, and they usually have the drawers full of interesting objects. Bedrooms are just so so so much better than the competition.

Mmh, it can get repetitive and dull if you’re not a very exciting though, so I’ve always been most partial to the times when it arises spontaneously on a couch or kitchen or elsewhere.

 

[AliceShiki]

Well yeah, course there’s no one-size fits all with humans. I can’t say I’ve had many ‘rejections’, but I’ve certainly been turned down before, for loads of reasons.

Only by other girls though, and mostly due to the whole ‘they were straight’ reason in particular.

Also, *most* people *aren’t* so willing to have sex as a show of affection and support. Having sex matters ‘more’ to most people.

Bedrooms have a soft semi-stable surface to them. A big log on a beach hurts bad enough to be a full-stopper for forward, and it’s not so great to touch with the hands: dries them out, or squiggy, with no in between. Sand and rocks is an obvious no go, snow *burns* and that kind of cold isn’t stoppable by getting naked IMO. Grass has *slugs* in it, tables are usually flat and solid which can be ‘useful’, same with kitchen counters. Floors are usually shite: noncarpet is awful, and carpet can be rough in some circumstances (also they’re often astoundingly dirty).

TLDR: Bedrooms are great because they have beds in them. Bathrooms can have a nice variety, and kitchens are basically bathrooms without toilets in them. Just can’t beat beds though: they have blankets, they have pillows, and they usually have the drawers full of interesting objects. Bedrooms are just so so so much better than the competition.

That's kinda interesting to me, because like... While I really loved having sex regularly with my past boyfriends, I never even considered having it up until the point we were in a stable relationship.

Rather, my libido is pretty low most of the time and I don't think of sex much usually... Though it tends to go up a lot when I'm with someone I love.

So uhn... While I do enjoy the act itself, I care primarily for having someone I genuinely care for with me on bed... I don't mind spending a few years without sex if I'm not in a relationship during those years... It's like...

Sex feels like an important part of a relationship to me, but not an important part of life as a whole. It only makes sense if you have a relationship you wanna cherish... At least it's how it is to me.

I actually have the opposite problem: I fall in love very easily (though the strength of that can vary). As a result: I just ignore it. I focus more on other issues and haven't found anyone I think is a good match. Generally speaking, I am a burden that I would not wish to place on others, so I do not expect to ever find someone I'd consider a good match.

Of the 3 people I've fallen for in real life, 2 of them know. As for what I find attractive: It's a personality thing. What people say and do, is what I fall in love with.

I dunno if I'd call 3 people as falling in love easily! XD

But uhn... I don't think you should worry too much about being a burden and stuff? If someone loves you and wishes to be with you, they'll probably be aware of your personal issues and deal with it together with you.

I don't think you should stop yourself from enjoying a healthy relationship just because you have some issues that make it harder to make things work.

 

[Vaerama]

Mmh, it can get repetitive and dull if you’re not a very exciting though, so I’ve always been most partial to the times when it arises spontaneously on a couch or kitchen or elsewhere.

It’s never ‘dull’ if you dig it :D

Spontaneity is great though.

 

[Kldran]

I dunno if I'd call 3 people as falling in love easily! XD

I only know about a dozen people well enough for the issue to even come up. I'm also aware that I could fall in love with more if I spent more time with them. Plus: I have no idea how I felt growing up, as it wasn't until my 20s that I learned to actually pay attention to my feelings (when growing up, I was busy trying and failing to suppress my feelings entirely, as I'd been taught that they were unimportant and in the way.) The group of friends I spend time with is only around ten people, and I fell in love with two of them.

Edit: Thinking on it more, of my friend group, there was one other I think I was close to falling for, but I didn't see them much, and won't be seeing them again since I moved away. Plus another I think I could've fallen for, had they not moved away so many years ago (before I'd learned to pay attention to my feelings). I also fall for characters pretty easily in fiction, and I'm pretty sure I'm falling for someone on these forums. I say it's easy for me to fall in love, because as far as I can tell, anyone who fits my other requirements for a relationship, will be someone I'd fall for given time, as even people who don't fit all my other requirements, I already fall for.

 

[AliceShiki]

(when growing up, I was busy trying and failing to suppress my feelings entirely, as I'd been taught that they were unimportant and in the way.)

Wafu! >.<

I'm glad you got over this phase, whoever told you that taught you something horrible that would most likely bite back as you grew up! >.<

Edit: Thinking on it more, of my friend group, there was one other I think I was close to falling for, but I didn't see them much, and won't be seeing them again since I moved away. Plus another I think I could've fallen for, had they not moved away so many years ago (before I'd learned to pay attention to my feelings). I also fall for characters pretty easily in fiction, and I'm pretty sure I'm falling for someone on these forums. I say it's easy for me to fall in love, because as far as I can tell, anyone who fits my other requirements for a relationship, will be someone I'd fall for given time, as even people who don't fit all my other requirements, I already fall for.

Welp... At least you're more self-conscious now then~

 

[Discount_Blade]

I'm just not one for relationships anymore I suppose. The first woman I ever truly was serious for was killed by stray gunfire when I was 15 and she was 17, We practically grew up together. It was like one of those childhood-friend tropes and we had already been physically intimate for years by then. We started young. We had been official (if you call it that) for almost 5 years by the time she passed.) After that, to be honest, after her, I've attracted nothing but what I would describe as the closest thing to living/breathing yandere's. I've given the story of one of these situations on another thread here. One confessed to me, and then she tried to bring in a second girl that was a friend of hers after we had been together for 2 years who also loved me. I'm all about monogamy but I decided to give it a shot since they were insisting and both were hot as hell. Welp, they eventually grew jealous of eachother and knives were pointed at eachother, and then eventually me, and well you can imagine how that ended. I had to take a frying pan to one of them when she tried to knife me after I failed to give her the answer she wanted. Both wanted me to drop the other, and were upset when I didn't choose immediately. I was just so unamused by it all since none of this "threesome" crap had even been my idea. She had a bowie knife peeps. A fricking bowie knife. Literally. One of those two committed suicide not long after I broke it off with both, and the other moved back to Europe where she originally came from.

The only other woman I've dated since was this girl who spoke broken English, she was half Dominican half Honduran. In NYC English is the official language obviously but its nothing special to go into certain neighborhoods and interact with dozens of people who can barely string along a full sentence in proper English. She was coherent enough, and I've grown very flexible with nearly any type of accent due to my upbringing that I can figure out what she was saying with little trouble. Anyway, she pursued me, and we lasted about a year and a half. It ended when she confused a female friend of mine for a "spring fling" as she called it, and tried to shoot her dead during an argument at a block party. Needless to say, I dropped her and had to practically beg my female friend to forgive me.

At any rate, I've never confessed to anyone. I've always been confessed to. I haven't dated in over 4 years now, and seeing as I'm in my late 20's, find myself in no hurry to do so again. In fact, I'm kind of paranoid about doing so. I attract crazy. Literally. Plus, no one has ever really replaced my first.

 

[Rinne]

Confessed to a girl I knew online before. Though it wasn't really a straight-up confession, it just came up during small talk.
The relationship lasted a glorious five days. If you're looking at it generously.

After that experience, I turned a little more cautious in regards to relationships. Didn't help that anyone I was interested in after this, IRL and online, turned out to be a rather... questionable choice. At the point where the police had to get involved, I'm definitely out. Far, far out.

Still holding onto hope to one day meet a normal girl that isn't either already taken, lives on the other side of the planet or got... issues that I can't gloss over.

As they say, hope dies last.

 

[AliceShiki]

Confessed to a girl I knew online before. Though it wasn't really a straight-up confession, it just came up during small talk.
The relationship lasted a glorious five days. If you're looking at it generously.

After that experience, I turned a little more cautious in regards to relationships. Didn't help that anyone I was interested in after this, IRL and online, turned out to be a rather... questionable choice. At the point where the police had to get involved, I'm definitely out. Far, far out.

Still holding onto hope to one day meet a normal girl that isn't either already taken, lives on the other side of the planet or got... issues that I can't gloss over.

As they say, hope dies last.

*hugs* Ganbatte! Don't give up and you'll eventually find the right person for you! >.<

 

[tiaf]

I'm just not one for relationships anymore I suppose. The first woman I ever truly was serious for was killed by stray gunfire when I was 15 and she was 17, We practically grew up together. It was like one of those childhood-friend tropes and we had already been physically intimate for years by then. We started young. We had been official (if you call it that) for almost 5 years by the time she passed.) After that, to be honest, after her, I've attracted nothing but what I would describe as the closest thing to living/breathing yandere's. I've given the story of one of these situations on another thread here. One confessed to me, and then she tried to bring in a second girl that was a friend of hers after we had been together for 2 years who also loved me. I'm all about monogamy but I decided to give it a shot since they were insisting and both were hot as hell. Welp, they eventually grew jealous of eachother and knives were pointed at eachother, and then eventually me, and well you can imagine how that ended. I had to take a frying pan to one of them when she tried to knife me after I failed to give her the answer she wanted. Both wanted me to drop the other, and were upset when I didn't choose immediately. I was just so unamused by it all since none of this "threesome" crap had even been my idea. She had a bowie knife peeps. A fricking bowie knife. Literally. One of those two committed suicide not long after I broke it off with both, and the other moved back to Europe where she originally came from.

The only other woman I've dated since was this girl who spoke broken English, she was half Dominican half Honduran. In NYC English is the official language obviously but its nothing special to go into certain neighborhoods and interact with dozens of people who can barely string along a full sentence in proper English. She was coherent enough, and I've grown very flexible with nearly any type of accent due to my upbringing that I can figure out what she was saying with little trouble. Anyway, she pursued me, and we lasted about a year and a half. It ended when she confused a female friend of mine for a "spring fling" as she called it, and tried to shoot her dead during an argument at a block party. Needless to say, I dropped her and had to practically beg my female friend to forgive me.

At any rate, I've never confessed to anyone. I've always been confessed to. I haven't dated in over 4 years now, and seeing as I'm in my late 20's, find myself in no hurry to do so again. In fact, I'm kind of paranoid about doing so. I attract crazy. Literally. Plus, no one has ever really replaced my first.

Me whenever I read a post by you: