How Do You Grow a Thick Skin?

[gaylolis]

It probably would sound better if you think their advice might let you escape dying or being caught in a sticky situation.

Just a lil' bit of reflection to avoid future catastrophe sounds like a win to me.

But yeah, just remember your original goal and take what you can learn instead of blindly following them.

 

[BearlyAlive]

For bodily skin you just don't wash until there's a nice crust on you.

For ignoring critisism you don't agree on you just don't start caring or start reflecting on why/whether their comment hurt too close to home. Dissect them (the comments, unless you have the adress of the one that posted) and analyze if and/or how you could gain from it. Otherwise just swag away in superiority. Those suckers ain't worth time anyway.

 

[LilRora]

Okay, so ignoring everything that happened on previous pages, one tip I can give is to think the comments through and see what the readers think, but do not try to fix what they point out. Find what's the guy's problem, find what's the cause of the problem, and think what should you do about before actually doing anything.

As other people said, while some constructive criticism is always welcome and you should reflect on it, there will always be that one jerk complaining because of something completely stupid. I once had a guy giving me one star review and complaining about trans stuff and lack of other stuff (straight characters, for example) in a story about a trans girl. This got me upset for a while, but hey, he was right in the end about the fact there were no straight characters in my story. Basically, he wascompletely right, but the way he worded it was awful.

So my advice is to just analyze the comment. Some of them might hurt at first, but even if someone wants to burn you on a stake, there is no smoke without fire and that complaint definitely comes from somewhere. When you find the reason for the complaint, you think why and how you wrote that particular part of the story, and think what you can do about and if you should do anything. When you're done with it, the guy might be complaining still, but it's your story and you know the reason for the complaint, so there's nothing to say you wouldn't already know and decided it's alright.

 

[TheEldritchGod]

I'm talking about learning to accept criticism from others without turning arrogant as an author.

When feedback sounds mean rather than constructive and I don't know what to do with my thoughts, I suffer from self-doubt.

I want to have a balanced perspective, but I don't know where to start. Any tips, tricks or insights would be greatly appreciated.

Get beaten for a decade of your childhood and use the rage of innocence lost to fuel your writing.

 

[T.K._Paradox]

Write for yourself and not anyone else, what matters most that you are enjoying your story and are having fun.

Acknowledge genuine critiques and move on, don't get hung up on the little stuff, and don't give any attention to self-imposed high class book critics. It will make them seethe and you will leave rent free in their head, also remember that in the end it is you book and you don't have to write in any other way except the way you want it to.

And finally don't forget to do stuff to take your mind off once in awhile by going outside, exercising, reading, listening to music, watching a movie

 

[RepresentingCaution]

Bad girl!

Kitty needs her spankings!

Human milk is good enough for babies after all. Make sure you make all your human byproducts are purchased legally and with informed consent from their producer, as these tend to be protected substances under human trafficking laws.

Good enough? Our species evolved to drink it for the first five years of our lives. However, multiple factors have made this impractical for many parents, causing confusion in our offspring.

 

[Agentt]

Kitty needs her spankings!

But a cat is too cute to spank...

 

[Varstark]

The first dude definitely did it with an erection.

Hopefully not the second.

 

[edgy_chuuni]

i needed this question but not this thread...

 

[TheTrinary]

Okay I didn't see any real answers on the first page so I'll actually answer the question.

It's a callous that you build up over time. I was the shyest (sp?) person around when I started writing. So I started asking my brother for feedback. once I got used to that I would ask my family in general. Once I got to that, I review swapp with someone I know.

Okay you get the picutre. Figure how much you can take at one time and start there.

Once you've been around the block, it really doesn't phaze you because writing is about making something you love and are passionate about. You look for critisism because you want to be better and there are parts of your work you know can be improved. If there's something you already love just the way it is, then critisim can't hurt that. You end up saying, "me and you have different tastes." So you're just left with critisim of the parts you don't feel are perfect for you. And even then, it's a take what you want approach. You pull out from the critique what you feel is valuble and leave what you don't like, because there are no objectively right answers on everything. Critique is just people explaining how they feel the best they can and not everyone is the same.