How do girls give hints when they have a crush on a certain friend?

[TheTrinary]

And just remember, only fifty percent of this advice is good. At best.

 

[Discount_Blade]

So, I think I come out as insensitive, but I wanna know, how do girls give hints when they have a crush on a certain friend? I don't really have too much female friends, and asking those female friends makes it a bit awkward... Any tips? And yes, this is for my novel.

Girls in my experience, normally don't. They leave vague ass hints and then convince themselves its your fault when you as the guy, don't pick up on them. This is waaaaay more true than not. They don't seem capable of just saying "Hey I like you." Must be a gender difference between the two.


Don't forget to get a prenup before marriage by the way.

 

[idontknowwhoiam]

Jesus. This entire thread is a list of things I've never seen from girls

 

[AliceShiki]

Girls in my experience, normally don't. They leave vague ass hints and then convince themselves its your fault when you as the guy, don't pick up on them. This is waaaaay more true than not. They don't seem capable of just saying "Hey I like you." Must be a gender difference between the two.


Don't forget to get a prenup before marriage by the way.

I did tell the people I was romantically interested in about my feelings, yanno?

I just have been rejected almost every time I confessed to someone... It's hard to gain confidence to try again like this... Though I did it anyways... >.>

 

[RepresentingCaution]

I just tell them.

 

[TunTun]

Jesus. This entire thread is a list of things I've never seen from girls

That is because half of the comments in this thread only happen in Anime.

The best response on this topic was what @JayDirex said. People make exceptions for people they like.

But my favorite response was @Discount_Blade , hints are too hard! So don't look for them haha. If she really likes you, she'll ask you out!

 

[RepresentingCaution]

We need more stories about active, enthusiastic consent. Women are cracking down on sexual harassment, but this means we also need to take a more direct approach when getting involved in relationships. No means no and yes means yes!

 

[Deleted member 45782]

Remember to take all this hints with a grain of salt. Everyone's own experiences with who is crushing on them and them crushing on others is different. Some people have jaded experiences, some people have a fluffy story experience. On both sides.

 

[LilTV1155]

Disclaimer: I am a male.

They make themselves available. As in they somehow end up around you, looking open for a conversation. Perhaps noticing something you are doing and using that as an icebreaker. Or if you are planning on heading somewhere or doing something she ends up suddenly available and has nothing to do in that exact time frame.

And physical contact. touching arms, elbows. Asking to check your biceps. Shoulder leans. etc.

More prone to laugh at your corny jokes, more prone to keep the conversation going. More engaged in the conversation with you.

That's i think the most common stuff, at least what I tend to pick up.

That would be hard to tell.

Girls in my experience, normally don't. They leave vague ass hints and then convince themselves its your fault when you as the guy, don't pick up on them. This is waaaaay more true than not. They don't seem capable of just saying "Hey I like you." Must be a gender difference between the two.


Don't forget to get a prenup before marriage by the way.

Common in RomCom Harem Troper Anime/Manga.

That is because half of the comments in this thread only happen in Anime.

The best response on this topic was what @JayDirex said. People make exceptions for people they like.

But my favorite response was @Discount_Blade , hints are too hard! So don't look for them haha. If she really likes you, she'll ask you out!

Only the Direct win.

I just tell them.

Or you ask straight faced. If dealing Anime styled response, be prepared for a Denial Smack or Bolt response.

There are no hints, they only create misunderstandings n then friend zone you but if she is staring at your lips then you can take it as a hint to kiss.

Misunderstandings, I don't know. But really, do be careful about that "Green Light" kiss chance.

"I-it's not as if I like you or anything, b-baka!"
Oh, this is for writing research? I was busy and dense in high school, but apparently if you conveniently end up sitting next to said person frequently then that is a sign.

Then that would meant every desk neighbor is .... into you?

sat on ur lap while u were standing?? BRUH HOW do u miss out on those bold gravity defyin girls!

That's a green light!

From personal experiences, here I go...

• • Girls tend to stare at someone they like, vice-versa.
• • They're shy on their crushes.
• • Girls doesn't show a hint obviously. Either way, she is doing something unnatural like twirling her thumbs or hiding both hands behind her back. (doesn't mean 100% that they like you! They may just be shy and are doing that.)
• • Girls like talking to you.
• • Girls like talking about you in their conversation.
• • They laugh at your every joke—even if all of those are lame and corny.
• • They don't show you their bad side to not get on your bad side.
• • Sometimes, girls have a crush on someone but don't take aggressive action like confessing or talking to them. They prefer to wait, even though they know that'll only waste time. (they need a little push!)
• • They'd aggressively cross arms with you, or embrace you!
• • They will show you their room.
• • They start thinking about fashion and dressing beautifully.

...To be continued.

............. For some reasons, the list is ....... a bit off. I don't know why except it has to do with a few certain dere characters in mind. I'm overthinking it.

 

[Alkareel]

It's not like I like him or anything, don't get the wrong idea!
—Works especially well if you're blonde and tie your hair in twintails.

 

[LilTV1155]

If we are talking about subtle crushing from female viewpoint, then these things are to watch for:

1. Facial + Body Reactions to your Questions / Comments / Compliments / Praises
   1. Blush
   2. Eyes shy away / Looks away
   3. Facial / Body turns (Shy ones tend to hide)
   4. Hands (Some may have reactive hands)
      1. DO NOT stare too long -2
      2. DO NOT stare at chest, laps, legs, necks, lips, eyes
         1. You might face serious complaints or anti-perv reflexes. -3
2. Clothing
   1. Fancy makeups like lipsticks
   2. "Beauty Standard" hairstyles? (May be based on the crush's comments about "Cute/Pretty, etc.)
   3. "Beauty Standard" dress? (May be based on the crush's comments about "Cute/Pretty, etc.)
   4. "Casual" dress? (Find the differences between work clothes, friend clothes, etc.)
      1. Not everyone pay attention to this kind of stuffs because clothing is a self-expression of freedom.
      2. Praise their style and observe their reaction.
         1. Quick flustered response = +1
         2. Normal response = 0
3. Their responses to others' criticism of their crush / intended target of romance
   1. Will get defensive
   2. Will get aggressive against crush's opponents
   3. Will be supportive of crush
4. Persistence and Jealousy
   1. Positions changes, the other follows / stalks / chases
   2. May follow you through your career, workplace, etc.
   3. Observe their responses to other girls' behaviors / interactions with you
      1. Possessive Grabs = +2
      2. Angry Pout = +1
      3. Yandere vibes = +4/-4
      4. Immediate Actions to repel = +1
   4. If you notice that they starts "following" you around even on social medias, etc. or try to find all kind of excuses to join you = +3
      1. BE CAREFUL because it might be coincidences
      2. BE CAREFUL because they might be your stalker/killer
5. Personality Before You show up vs. Personality After You show up
   1. Cold hearted according to others -> Warm hearted friendly only to you
   2. Changes of habits (Not eating)
   3. Observe their reading preferences
6. For anything else, I recommend this site for you: https://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Guy-to-Like-You
   1. If they don't anything or reactive, you're just a nobody. -5
   2. Also, if they do show interest, it will be awkward unless they are experienced.

 

[Sylverius]

I don't know. I don't know anything.

This is me when I'm on an exam and all the shit I studied for immediately disappears.

And just remember, only fifty percent of this advice is good. At best.

Well, I can see that, but hey, it's an anime/a novel, let's exaggerate at least some aspects a little.

We need more stories about active, enthusiastic consent. Women are cracking down on sexual harassment, but this means we also need to take a more direct approach when getting involved in relationships. No means no and yes means yes!

Yep, this was the type of person I was looking for. It'd be weird if a random girl you're not attracted to or you don't even know about suddenly gropes your balls and then your cannon raises itself, you know? Heck it might even be rape at that point. Rape with consent.

Remember to take all this hints with a grain of salt. Everyone's own experiences with who is crushing on them and them crushing on others is different. Some people have jaded experiences, some people have a fluffy story experience. On both sides.

This is why I want to ask girls, so I can see which is more logical based on human personality and logic. As a guy, it's easy to know seeing as I also have a lot of male friends. Sadly, we only have a few female friends in which we don't talk with anymore.

It's not like I like him or anything, don't get the wrong idea!
—Works especially well if you're blonde and tie your hair in twintails.

Ah yes, the "I'm not a Tsundere you idiot!" starter pack.

If we are talking about subtle crushing from female viewpoint, then these things are to watch for:

1. Facial + Body Reactions to your Questions / Comments / Compliments / Praises
   1. Blush
   2. Eyes shy away / Looks away
   3. Facial / Body turns (Shy ones tend to hide)
   4. Hands (Some may have reactive hands)
      1. DO NOT stare too long -2
      2. DO NOT stare at chest, laps, legs, necks, lips, eyes
         1. You might face serious complaints or anti-perv reflexes. -3
2. Clothing
   1. Fancy makeups like lipsticks
   2. "Beauty Standard" hairstyles? (May be based on the crush's comments about "Cute/Pretty, etc.)
   3. "Beauty Standard" dress? (May be based on the crush's comments about "Cute/Pretty, etc.)
   4. "Casual" dress? (Find the differences between work clothes, friend clothes, etc.)
      1. Not everyone pay attention to this kind of stuffs because clothing is a self-expression of freedom.
      2. Praise their style and observe their reaction.
         1. Quick flustered response = +1
         2. Normal response = 0
3. Their responses to others' criticism of their crush / intended target of romance
   1. Will get defensive
   2. Will get aggressive against crush's opponents
   3. Will be supportive of crush
4. Persistence and Jealousy
   1. Positions changes, the other follows / stalks / chases
   2. May follow you through your career, workplace, etc.
   3. Observe their responses to other girls' behaviors / interactions with you
      1. Possessive Grabs = +2
      2. Angry Pout = +1
      3. Yandere vibes = +4/-4
      4. Immediate Actions to repel = +1
   4. If you notice that they starts "following" you around even on social medias, etc. or try to find all kind of excuses to join you = +3
      1. BE CAREFUL because it might be coincidences
      2. BE CAREFUL because they might be your stalker/killer
5. Personality Before You show up vs. Personality After You show up
   1. Cold hearted according to others -> Warm hearted friendly only to you
   2. Changes of habits (Not eating)
   3. Observe their reading preferences
6. For anything else, I recommend this site for you: https://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Guy-to-Like-You
   1. If they don't anything or reactive, you're just a nobody. -5
   2. Also, if they do show interest, it will be awkward unless they are experienced.

Jesus. This entire thread is a list of things I've never seen from girls

Mate, this entire thread turned into "How to know if a girl likes you" sort of thing.

I didn't reply to everyone because it would take too long for me to write a response for every response someone did, EHEM EHEM LilTV1155 EHEM EHEM. But, I did read all of them. Although I'm quite satisfied with what I've gathered, I'd like it more if there were more people who said more tips and stuff that could help not just me, but other people who were also wondering about this.

 

[Tori_the_Birb]

I have no idea, last time the only thing I know a girl really did showed an interest was that she asked me to hang out a lot.

 

[skillet]

Really depends on the type of personality the girl has. I, personally, tend to despair the moment I find out I have a crush on someone and do my absolute very best to avoid them at all costs. It works wonders.

My sister (extrovert) flirts, as in jokes around with them and like just chatters next to them a bunch, texts them, etc.
All my friends weren't really like the flirty type either, so if they liked someone it was super lowkey and really really unnoticeable. Maybe the fact that I saw them together more? Or they were talking in class more?
Honestly, no idea. Haha. Good luck!

 

[Sylverius]

Really depends on the type of personality the girl has.

Well, in my novel's case, there are 3 girls. One is the shy type, the next is a super serious one, and then the last is the scared and isolated turning into a kind and pampering one.

 

[Agentt]

What are girls?

 

[Not_A_Symphony]

I think that it will depend on the type of personality you want your female character to have.
If you are going for someone who is extremely shy, it is very likely she won't give any clues except glancing at the person from afar.
If it is someone more extroverted then she will be more aggressive with her approach, like flirting on purpose.
Of course, there are also girls who go straight to the point: "I like you and I want you to date me", they spur this without any warning.

But, if you are talking about things that a girl can do to show her affection then here's a small list from my experience as a woman (and with my girl friends):

1. A glance from afar;
2. Placing the hair behind the ear and acting shy;
3. When the eyes connect either smile or turn away embarrassed;
4. When walking together get closer on purpose;
5. Also when walking together make the back of the hands rub;
6. Offer the person a gift on their special day, like B-day or Valentine;
7. Longer/tighter hugs on purpose;
8. Kisses on the cheek (getting each time closer to the lips, specifically the corner of the lips);
9. Usually bring up topics of conversation that are favorable for them, like a certain subject that they feel good talking about and end up showing off her best personality traits (can be intelligence or just something they know a lot about);
10. Also bringing up the topic of relationships (I've seen this happen COUNTLESS of times with my friends: whenever they would be interested in someone they would always talk about their other relationships in order to find out more about the relationships of the person they liked, especially if they are single or not);
11. Some girls might be the typical tsundere, they say something they don't mean in order to hide their feelings of affection;
12. Usually, they tend to go to the same places that person is, so for eg if a girl's crush usually goes to Starbucks on Fridays, she will start going to the cafe on that date. And getting closer to the person as well.
13. Some might even fake accidents or some trouble in order to bring attention to themselves and make the guy notice them.

Personally, I still have some more but I feel like the list is already really long! Either way, I hope I helped in some way! Good luck with your writing.

 

[happypanda]

Who knows? To me it was never worth the risk. What if I misunderstood their intentions and went all "Hey, you wanna go out?" and got the good-old "Um... sorry, I only thought of you as a friend/brother..." ? Next day everyone would have known it and it would have been a complete social suicide. Behind every guy's denseness, there is always a self-preservation instinct working in the background.

But hey, many of us are writing wish fulfillment stuff, so there is no harm in following all the generic romcom tropes, I guess? But if you are asking for a real person's experience, this is the answer you will get at least 50% of the time.

 

[Discount_Blade]

But my favorite response was @Discount_Blade , hints are too hard! So don't look for them haha. If she really likes you, she'll ask you out!

Yeah I've experienced this more often than I like. Had a girl I was genuinely interested in back in high school. I ended up getting into trouble and suspended for two weeks, but when I came back, I had resolved myself to asking her out. I come back, and she's dating someone else now. When I hinted at my displeasure, (didn't outright say it since I'm not one to steal someone else's girl even if I thought I could) she had the balls to tell me "I was dropping hint for months!!" and I was confused as hell since I couldn't remember her speaking to me any more often than normal. We had similar friends and I hadn't noticed her hinting at anything. Didn't pay any more attention than normal.

Oh well. She and that dude lasted a week and a half and then they split but by then I was over it. She had spent that entire week and a half more or less rubbing it in my face that I had "missed out". Which is a pretty snotty thing to do. So by the time she came back around, I was telling her to piss off.

Women make no sense, but pretend they are the most rational creatures in the world. Pffft.

 

[AliceShiki]

Yeah I've experienced this more often than I like. Had a girl I was genuinely interested in back in high school. I ended up getting into trouble and suspended for two weeks, but when I came back, I had resolved myself to asking her out. I come back, and she's dating someone else now. When I hinted at my displeasure, (didn't outright say it since I'm not one to steal someone else's girl even if I thought I could) she had the balls to tell me "I was dropping hint for months!!" and I was confused as hell since I couldn't remember her speaking to me any more often than normal. We had similar friends and I hadn't noticed her hinting at anything. Didn't pay any more attention than normal.

Oh well. She and that dude lasted a week and a half and then they split but by then I was over it. She had spent that entire week and a half more or less rubbing it in my face that I had "missed out". Which is a pretty snotty thing to do. So by the time she came back around, I was telling her to piss off.

Women make no sense, but pretend they are the most rational creatures in the world. Pffft.

Wow... She seems really stupid.

Geez, teenagers are dumb by default, but there should be a limit, and she was way beyond the acceptable levels of stupidity.

I'd say you got lucky to not notice her hints, she wasn't worth your time~