How can I impress my crush?

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Aijikan said:
Suggest me some ideas! Note : I think she's already a bit intrested in me..
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Grizzly18 said:
If she’s interested you don’t need to impress her. If you like her ask her out. If she doesn’t then you find out get your heart broken and then move on. Get the nerve up man.
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+1

Time to pull out my usual 2cents from chinese novels' logic.
1) 'Simplicity is often the best. As the more complicated the plan, the more likely the possibility of one step in it will fail'
2) 'Courage is sometimes the most important as some people never do the step'
Also be cautious. Be prepared for the worse. The fact you arent sure of it, show that maybeeeeeeeeeeee its wrong idea. Just friendship or her feeling "you a nice guy" card.
So i recommend more to "test the waters" and ask her friends/etc first secretly or something in a euphemist way.
Bc direct confessions, could turn bad as they arent as much popular. Especially in public. (ESPECIALLY if spectators screaming "accept accept accept" could make it like moral kidnapping)
So if you get news "she isnt interested" from others, you could try to "get slowly closer to her heart". But at same time, small hinting you are interested in her.







tldr : Be direct or do a slow curveball. Your choice. But foremost, focus on yourself first, it will boost your attractiveness to attract her.



ps: The famous jp meme "the moon is pretty" is both true and false. That yes its romance behind its not a lie, but no, the words themselves ARENT a confession or any secret message, but simply [The 2 are already a couple already and each other know they love each other like a married couple but didnt confirm yet]. All to say: Sometimes intentions/feelings/closeness etc, are more important than the confession. And the fact you arent sure+word "crush" make it very dubious as you wouldnt be asking and saying it like that if it would work. Especially "impress". Impressing with fakeness/edgy/cool/romantic never work (if not backed by something). Be true to self and show good points is the best way (hence why i said to become a better version of yourself to impress her).
But at same time, i saw some morons having stories of "not confessing" bc "i didnt understood at that time despite the BIG HINTS". Even a youtube video skit : "there is this girl that invented me in her home for tea but i refused bc i dislike tea" (1guy to 2 other guys) -> 2 guys try to explain she had feelings/wanted the guy but rest of skit is him giga focused on the "tea" part.
Anyway : Both male and female humans are stupid. Bc the 2 stereotypes of "the male dont understand(crushed on) or overthink(crush)" in romance is true. While the female part "they hint when they should be direct" in romance is true.
 
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I've been waiting to say this for a while, so here it goes... Ahem.
Ask her. The worse she could say is no.

LOL
 
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BearlyAlive said:
Tell her you write smut stories as a hobby. (Don't do this! Or at least tell us how it went afterwards)
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I can say from experience that this will net a variation of one of four replies:

1) Oh, you're a writer? Go away. I want someone who can earn a living.
2) Oooh - write something special for me, please?
3) Take five steps back or I'm calling the cops.
4) Oh, I already know that. Come on, let's see if we can make some of your stories real.

IME, #3 is the most common, followed surprisingly closely by #2, with a big gap before #1 and then #4 trailing at the end.
 
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Tsuru said:
But at same time, i saw some morons having stories of "not confessing" bc "i didnt understood at that time despite the BIG HINTS". Even a youtube video skit : "there is this girl that invented me in her home for tea but i refused bc i dislike tea" (1guy to 2 other guys) -> 2 guys try to explain she had feelings/wanted the guy but rest of skit is him giga focused on the "tea" part.
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Having been that guy (wasn't over tea... don't even remember either of the two times I had it pointed out after the fact and suspect there were a few more that I flat out missed with no hints - and then there was a girl who approached me on the Chicago "El" solely because I was reading a book by the same author as she was... and realized about five minutes after I got off the train she might have been more interested in me than the book ... ah well) this DOES happen in real life.
 
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Offer to help her with chores. If she ever invites you over for dinner, do the dishes afterwards. If you get married and you are working long hours outside the home, find at least one thing to do for the household or for her after work. If she is also working long hours outside the home, hire a housekeeper and a nanny if needed.
 
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Show her this thread
If she thinks we're normal, you know you're both on the same page and you can go for it. If she recoils....push her off a cliff* and be well rid man.


*literally, don't do this. It's like, murder? Ok. Good.
 
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