Help me!!!

Western42

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Do what all lazy people like me do. Smile awkwardly and wait till someone mentions their name. Then, just play along all while staying away from them when ya can.
 

Pontan

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I am an extreme introvert who is about to attend a social event where relatives who I haven't even seen for so many years are attending, heck I don't even remember their names.
Please help me, how do I survive this crisis.
And I have been living in my house due to lockdown for 2 years, so I even literally forgot how to introduce myself to others ???
If you managed before you will manage now. Wholeheartedly trust yourself in your incompetence and competence, so long as any mistakes you might do are expected, they will not be as distressing as if they come as a surprise. If you know you are socially incompetent (which does not necessarily mean emotionally incompetent) clench your teeth, and prepare yourself, because you will screw up. Take it as a lesson and learn from it. Enduring to the end of the gathering is the objective. Not messing up is a mere bonus.
 

Mellohwa

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Just stick to your parents like gum, smile(even if it looks like a psychopath), shake hands, nod, and eat food to avoid speaking to your relatives. :blob_uwu:
 

SternenklarenRitter

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Get there by yourself, decide there's too many people, then go home immediately. That way you don't have to submit to the torture of crowds, and still get the attendance points from your social contacts.
If you are a minor with no access to personal transportation, beg your parent(s) and/or guardian(s) to leave you at home. Whine and complain constantly from now until it is time to go. If they still insist, whine the whole way there and throw an immediate tantrum. Cry and scream that you want to go home, that it's too hot, too crowded, too loud, that scary strangers (supposed relatives) keep trying to talk to you, etc. Whatever is causing you discomfort, make sure everyone there knows it until your parents are forced to take you home. Different people have different thresholds for pain/discomfort. Your parents won't ever say 'here's a fun new game, lets burn our hands on the stove and see who likes it more!' But they might not realize how uncomfortable crowded places are for you. When you are overwhelmed, it is your job to let them know. Whether the adults like it or not, throwing a tantrum is an excellent way to communicate "I am in terrible distress!".
 
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Angeline2403

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Get there by yourself, decide there's too many people, then go home immediately. That way you don't have to submit to the torture of crowds, and still get the attendance points from your social contacts.
If you are a minor with no access to personal transportation, beg your parent(s) and/or guardian(s) to leave you at home. Whine and complain constantly from now until it is time to go. If they still insist, whine the whole way there and throw an immediate tantrum. Cry and scream that you want to go home, that it's too hot, too crowded, too loud, that scary strangers (supposed relatives) keep trying to talk to you, etc. Whatever is causing you discomfort, make sure everyone there knows it until your parents are forced to take you home. Different people have different thresholds for pain/discomfort. Your parents won't ever say 'here's a fun new game, lets burn our hands on the stove and see who likes it more!' But they might not realize how uncomfortable crowded places are for you. When you are overwhelmed, it is your job to let them know. Whether the adults like it or not, throwing a tantrum is an excellent way to communicate "I am in terrible distress!".
Doesn't work on asian parents and sadly I am not someone who throws tantrums and I am also not an minor.
But thank you for replying ??
 

Macha

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I am an extreme introvert who is about to attend a social event where relatives who I haven't even seen for so many years are attending, heck I don't even remember their names.
Please help me, how do I survive this crisis.
And I have been living in my house due to lockdown for 2 years, so I even literally forgot how to introduce myself to others ???
In my family, it usually goes like this:
"Look at our daughter, she is 20 something and still unmarried!"
There is no need to introduce myself to others since my parents already do it first.
 

Angeline2403

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In my family, it usually goes like this:
"Look at our daughter, she is 20 something and still unmarried!"
There is no need to introduce myself to others since my parents already do it first.
Kinda true for me too.
I am 19 and even though my parents do not introduce me to others saying I am still unmarried and stuff, the nosy relatives of mine nag us saying that why am I not married yet but their own daughter married at the age of 28 or somethin.
??????
 

Lloyd

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Kinda true for me too.
I am 19 and even though my parents do not introduce me to others saying I am still unmarried and stuff, the nosy relatives of mine nag us saying that why am I not married yet but their own daughter married at the age of 28 or somethin.
??????
Women need to get married early before their eggs shrivel up.
 

RavenRunes

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How did you get on, has the gathering happened yet? I totally sympathise, I'm also an extreme introvert : my mother isn't, she loves company and always forced me to go to places and socialise, thinking I was just shy. It's not the same thing at all...company really does my head in.
 
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