Drifting Friendships

[RootBeerBert]

I’m beginning to wonder what I’m going to about friends in the future. My friends and I are going to drift away at some point, we probably are right now. I used to think it’d be fine since I had a best friend who I definitely wouldn’t drift from, but looking back I didn’t. I’d mistaken my closest friend for my best friend, not realizing I valued his friendship much more than he did mine. In spite of being socially inept I do like hanging out with friends on the rare occasion it’s possible, but when the drift is complete and I don’t have any friends, what am I gonna do?

 

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[Deleted member 54065]

I’m beginning to wonder what I’m going to about friends in the future. My friends and I are going to drift away at some point, we probably are right now. I used to think it’d be fine since I had a best friend who I definitely wouldn’t drift from, but looking back I didn’t. I’d mistaken my closest friend for my best friend, not realizing I valued his friendship much more than he did mine. In spite of being socially inept I do like hanging out with friends on the rare occasion it’s possible, but when the drift is complete and I don’t have any friends, what am I gonna do?

Friends come and go. Whether we like it or not, even our closest friends (those who we treat as family) would drift apart from you, either because of their own lives, or by death. The only thing that remains are the memories, so make good ones when you guys have the opportunity.

Also, don't put your happiness on people. Put those on something else, something that would last you a lifetime.

 

[ArrogantYoungMaster]

Also, don't put your happiness on people. Put those on something else, something that would last you a lifetime.

A subscription to OnlyHans, for the price of a mere $29.95, can last forever.

 

[Sola-sama]

I’m beginning to wonder what I’m going to about friends in the future. My friends and I are going to drift away at some point, we probably are right now. I used to think it’d be fine since I had a best friend who I definitely wouldn’t drift from, but looking back I didn’t. I’d mistaken my closest friend for my best friend, not realizing I valued his friendship much more than he did mine. In spite of being socially inept I do like hanging out with friends on the rare occasion it’s possible, but when the drift is complete and I don’t have any friends, what am I gonna do?

Yeah to what Hans said. You can't expect to be together always like a tumor. Life happens, deal with it like a true man (or whatever creature in your pp, in your case). It is the same with hobby, you'll get bored with it, but you'll find something else that made you occupied.

 

[Cipiteca396]

If you want someone to be your friend, tell them that. Then make the effort to keep your relationship intact.

As long as you keep putting yourself forward, you'll never run out of friends. Finding people who are willing to put the same effort in is the second step- finish the first before worrying about that.

Small Edit: The world has changed substantially in the last few decades. The advice that friends come and go is slightly outdated. There is absolutely no reason to lose contact with someone unwillingly. Get their phone number, their email address, whatever. If you put in the effort, you WILL NOT drift apart. Not as long as both of you are alive, and willing to stay together.

 

[Succubiome]

Do group social activities and meet new people, and you may find new friends.

 

[Syringe]

One thing to realize is that your core friends is one day going to fizzle away. Sometimes they last, but shit happens. I've lost maybe 7-8 out of roughly 15 of us, most of it because some are becoming fathers, and others because we're all moving away and chasing dreams/working/etc.

People like co-workers, families and the families of your friends/neighbours/etc are friends as well. You're going to be making a lot more even if you don't realize it at first, especially in the workplace. Local events can help you make new friends. There could be gaming sessions/DnD/yugioh, etc.

It sucks to drift away from your core friends/best friends. I had someone I was childhood friends with and we drifted apart 15 years later. He left unexpectedly and never heard from him for several years. Funnily enough, we met each other again when he came in as one of my patients from an accident, and reminisced about the old times, caught up, and bam - went on our separate ways when he got discharged. We'll never be able to talk or see each other as often as we did in the past, but we're still friends, even if I'll never see them again.

Ultimately, it sucks to see them drift, but hey, it's never the end. You'll make plenty more naturally as time goes on, as long as you're open to accepting new friends.

 

[ManwX]

I’m beginning to wonder what I’m going to about friends in the future. My friends and I are going to drift away at some point, we probably are right now. I used to think it’d be fine since I had a best friend who I definitely wouldn’t drift from, but looking back I didn’t. I’d mistaken my closest friend for my best friend, not realizing I valued his friendship much more than he did mine. In spite of being socially inept I do like hanging out with friends on the rare occasion it’s possible, but when the drift is complete and I don’t have any friends, what am I gonna do?

Already lived passed that. It's an interesting experience tbh. My friend back in school forgotten. My college friends forgotten. I have memory loss issues and constantly my father had been moving through out the country due to different deployment area in the army. So yeah I only have a few uni friends and company friends now. I still remember some people but I've moved from my city to another. Back then I didn't even know Facebook and all the social media was a thing. I've lived in an interesting age where I've seen the rise of YouTube and other social media platforms. They definitely help. You will still lose friends as people just get swept away In life. It's just how society is structured. Still life is all about exploring she making new connection with the world around it.

 

[Rhaps]

One thing to realize is that your core friends is one day going to fizzle away. Sometimes they last, but shit happens. I've lost maybe 7-8 out of roughly 15 of us, most of it because some are becoming fathers, and others because we're all moving away and chasing dreams/working/etc.

People like co-workers, families and the families of your friends/neighbours/etc are friends as well. You're going to be making a lot more even if you don't realize it at first, especially in the workplace. Local events can help you make new friends. There could be gaming sessions/DnD/yugioh, etc.

It sucks to drift away from your core friends/best friends. I had someone I was childhood friends with and we drifted apart 15 years later. He left unexpectedly and never heard from him for several years. Funnily enough, we met each other again when he came in as one of my patients from an accident, and reminisced about the old times, caught up, and bam - went on our separate ways when he got discharged. We'll never be able to talk or see each other as often as we did in the past, but we're still friends, even if I'll never see them again.

Ultimately, it sucks to see them drift, but hey, it's never the end. You'll make plenty more naturally as time goes on, as long as you're open to accepting new friends.

This reminded me of how I met my best friend, we don't talk that much now but we always accepted our invites in CSGO, no talking, just shooting.

Hes from Germany, and the one who roped me into dnd, giving me my drive to write stories and the wonders of creating a whole world. I don't play dnd with him anymore due to time constraint but we still trade ideas to make our respective campaigns more fun and interesting. I have a talent of making Dark Souls level difficulty bosses, and he always come up with insane devices.

Will we ever drift apart? Yes, but thats fine because we both understand its not the end that matter, but the journey.

 

[TheEldritchGod]

"Friend"...

What is this "Friend" you speak of?

 

[Lloyd]

Get right with God. Even if you have friends you will either die an early death, drift apart, or live to see them all die. Life is about suffering.

 

[Theirl]

I’m beginning to wonder what I’m going to about friends in the future. My friends and I are going to drift away at some point, we probably are right now. I used to think it’d be fine since I had a best friend who I definitely wouldn’t drift from, but looking back I didn’t. I’d mistaken my closest friend for my best friend, not realizing I valued his friendship much more than he did mine. In spite of being socially inept I do like hanging out with friends on the rare occasion it’s possible, but when the drift is complete and I don’t have any friends, what am I gonna do?

Best way to maintain friendship is too share a hobby

 

[RepresentingSilence]

I don't know what to tell you I've got 3 guys I consider to be my brothers from other mothers and I don't say that jokingly I mean I consider them as close as my actual blood brothers we don't or didn't just hangout out for fun we help each other though hard times we advise one another through life and we take care of each other as a sibling would and expect nothing in return we do it because we love one another and not because it's all fun and games

we've all drifted away from one another over the years but not because our friendships have diminished but simply because life has taken us different places

1 of my friends lives about an 1hr away but is so busy that we rarely get together but when we do it's like we're teenagers again and haven't missed a step

another lives in another country that would take me about 15hrs to travel to and we have only seen each other maybe 2 times in the last 5 years we just met up recently and he has 3 more kids then the last time we met up he's quite busy while he's here but he's still making sure we get together so his kids can meet me and we can hangout again not missing a step we just spend more time talking about family then we used too

And the 3rd has entered politics... I'll probably punch him in the face the next time I see him just on principle but he's still my brother and if he ever needs me I'll be there and he knows it

I guess what I'm saying is you're only going to have friends as good as you're willing to be you want a bro be a bro but if you want a brother you need to be a brother
and though life and miles may come between you that friendship will only diminish as much as you want

I'll tell you when I was younger and all my friends started drifting away I had actual panic attacks about it but looking back I wouldn't keep them with me because to do so would hold them back from getting families of their own and doing what they needed to do to be happy now when we get together it makes me proud and brings me joy to see what my brothers are doing and all they've accomplished

 

[AnonUnlimited]

This is why people get married, or tie themselves into partnerships where they live together as more than friends.

Eventually, everyone moves away or has something in life they need to do.
You don't plan your life around your friends, but you would around a family.
If you don't plan your life around others, eventually everyone drifts apart.
That's just how it is.

 

[TheEldritchGod]

Get right with God. Even if you have friends you will either die an early death, drift apart, or live to see them all die. Life is about suffering.

A bright spot of sunshine, you are.

This is why people get married, or tie themselves into partnerships where they live together as more than friends.

Says the one who just got married.

 

[AnonUnlimited]

A bright spot of sunshine, you are.

Says the one who just got married.

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I wish I got married to a thicc tall blonde.

 

[Missivist]

F

when the drift is complete and I don’t have any friends, what am I gonna do?

Unless you and your childhood friends all spend your lives in one place, you will face this.
Growing up in a mobile, modern world, it seems inevitable.
So, what to do?

(1) Get used to it. Become a lone wolf.
(2) Move on. Make new friends wherever you go.
(3) Marry someone you can stick with, whatever happens.
(4) Make friends on the internet.

Even as an introvert, I cannot recommend (1).
In my case, (3) works well enough, with a little of (2).
Has anybody found that (4) really works?

 

[J_Chemist]

Everyone you meet, you can't take with you. - Steve Harvey

 

[RepresentingCaution]

Procreate, and then you can make friends with the parents of your kid's friends.