Communication Skill, what is it?

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be it a fictional character you wrote, a real life person, or someone that you're expecting to be called a good communicator.

what are the essential thing that makes someone considered to be having a good communication skill? or how and in what way, does someone with a good communication skill talk?

give me you thoughts
 
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It's something an author says about a character when he\she is too lazy to actually show the difference in dialogues.

A slightly more serious answer will be; it's the ability to make everyone understand what you are saying. As you know, words have different meanings. The ability to express yourself without people wrongly interpreting your words is a good communication skill.
 

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be is a fictional character you wrote, a real life person, or someone that you're expecting to be called a good communicator.

what are the essential thing that makes someone considered to be having a good communication skill? or how and in what way, does someone with a good communication skill talk?

give me you thoughts
Talkinf straight forward, not over complicating ideas, and minimizing or eliminating confusing movements
 

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As Sailus said, if you're trying to go for the most sanitary definition without taking motives (manipulation, love, inspiration, diplomacy, etc) into account, you can focus on things that people do to enhance the clarity of their message, here's a few:

Code switching: changing one's diction/speech patterns to mesh with the audience without speaking "down" on them.

Eye contact/body language: removing distracting motions and employing gestures to emphasize points a listener should focus on.

Literary speech: Much in the same way that literary language can enhance clarity, using similes, metaphors, and other such devices can turn difficult concepts into something that's easier to understand/remember.

Which technique a character prefers and how they employ them can be a mark of distinction and a source of characterization, especially if your other characters practice different speech patterns. We're edging into psyc/soc stuff here, even if you don't study professionally, I'd recommend brushing up on the sciences to help you add some meat to the voices in your head.

On a side note, displaying poor communication skills is also an important aspect of characterization.
 

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The first step is listening and understanding how the other person is feeling. The second step is explaining your own feelings in a way the other person can understand. After that, the goal is to come to solutions that make both people feel better. If you're communicating with three or more people, it's more complicated, but it's pretty much the same deal.
 

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One extra point is conversation flow, a natural-sounding conversation is like a theatre play with a beginning, climax, and end. Think of it as improv with actors on stage. A nice conversation requires both speakers to understand this flow. This is why diplomatic talks have a slight rhythm to it if you can spot it. Transitions and reply length all factor in, sudden changes in topics, giving a short curt answer after the other speaks at length, the abrupt ending of the conversation, all of these can break the flow and come across as rigid.

Even then differing social status and power dynamics also affect the pacing of the conversation. A superior tend to speak more and if a subordinate speaks at length as well, it can either come across as insubordinate or a show of trust by the superior. These also vary from culture to culture with varying effects. Sometimes just giving a long reply regardless of what is said can be a sign of the power dynamics.

Then there is tone, it depends on who you are speaking to and in what context. That determines the language used from a "yeah sure" to an "of course" using the wrong wording can come across as poor communication skills.

If you want an example of all of this, take for example this context:

A King passes a decree, all of his retainers reply in short sentences with formal speech-like.

"Of course your majesty"
"We will carry out your will post haste."

But when they leave his most trusted advisor speaks to him in a very different manner. He speaks less formally and in much longer sentences. Telling the king this is a bad idea and why. The fact that the advisor is able to do this implies trust between him and the king and the advisor understanding that he can speak to the king like this is also a testament to his communication skills.

Understanding how to say it, how much to say, and when to say it is crucial technical aspects of good communication. Listening, understanding and empathy are important as said in other comments but one cannot also discount the technical aspects of it. There are of course exceptions to this rule, knowing when to break these rules is also a sign of good communication skills. A usually obedient subordinate suddenly speaking out of turn in a time of crisis and knowing when is a good time to do this is also a sign of good communication skills.

In essence, these are basic rules but the trick is knowing when to follow them, when to alter them and when to break them.
 

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I don't know. I didn't grind out my social tech tree to know what it does. Spent too much points on being a jack-of-all-trades and communication skill is a bit too pricey for me to afford and settle on just language comprehension skill.
 

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what are the essential thing that makes someone considered to be having a good communication skill?
How quickly you can gain a grasp on the person you're talking with, or how approachable you are, :blob_cookie:
 
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be it a fictional character you wrote, a real life person, or someone that you're expecting to be called a good communicator.

what are the essential thing that makes someone considered to be having a good communication skill? or how and in what way, does someone with a good communication skill talk?

give me you thoughts
I often find that someone who can communicate well have these things in common:

1). Understanding to his/her fellow, even if he/she doesn't fully comprehend the other side.
2). Patience towards ideas that seemed weird or 'stupid' for him/her.
3). The skill to 'politely' correct his/her companion.

Well, these are just my observations, and I did apply these to myself. I'd say it's pretty effective in convincing people.
 
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