Would you date someone who changed their gender to suit your tastes? (Poll)

[minacia]

I'm actually kind of curious about this. Unfortunately, this poll is probably less relevant to you if you're bi/pan.

The story starts in a fantasy isekai universe when you were a teenager. You have this childhood friend named Zee who you were always close with, and you grew up playing with each other. You like Zee as a person and the two of you were friends all the way into high school.​

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Zee is not a gender that you are attracted to.​

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However, surprisingly, they confessed their feelings to you in high school, and you rejected them at the time saying that you aren't attracted to their gender.​

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Fast forward a couple years, and Zee approaches you. At first you don't recognize them because they look totally different. Specifically, they went and changed their sex to suit your tastes. Zee explains that they went to see a witch, who gave them a permanent gender-bending potion for a 10,000 gold coins. Currently, Zee is biologically the sex that you're attracted to, and in fact you find their appearance very attractive.​

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Zee explains that they know you very well since the two of you grew up together, and they know your tastes, so they specifically asked the potion-brewing witch for a body appearance that matched your preferences.​

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Zee also says that they were kinda gender-flexible all along, and they don't care whether they are male or female. They are perfectly happy to change their sex to match your preferences. Likewise, you realize at this point that Zee's personality was always kind of androgynous, so they look quite natural acting as either gender.​

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At this point, Zee asks if you would consider dating them again.​

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What would you say?​

1. Would you consider dating Zee? Why or why not?

2. Suppose that you asked to be friends for a while more, and during that time, Zee starts picking up more mannerisms that are stereotypical for their new gender. You ask them why they have this sudden change in behavior, and Zee explains that they think you might be attracted to them more if they act more like that specific gender. What do you tell Zee?

3. Suppose that Zee starts becoming self-conscious about a certain body characteristic (i.e. too tall/short, or too large/small), and they start pestering you about going to the witch to change themself to the way that matches your preferences even better. What do you tell Zee?

4. Suppose that you accidentally stumble across Zee's diary, and you take a peek. Inside are very detailed notes and observations about what you like, as well as somewhat creepy commentary like "(You) laughed at a penguin joke today, so I should research penguin jokes I can tell" or "(You) stared at XXX person's butt today, so maybe I should emphasize my butt more." How do you react?

5. Could you ever date someone who obsessively tries to match themselves to your preferences/tastes? What if they like everything that you do, the point that it almost seems like they don't have their own opinions, and they're just parroting your preferences back at you?

 

[OneRanter]

I don't think you need more winding but... You know, you tiny Pollkin, you could make an extra poll witht he exact opposite situation!!!. \(*o*)/

 

[Milk.Milkan]

1. Would you consider dating Zee? Why or why not?

2. Suppose that you asked to be friends for a while more, and during that time, Zee starts picking up more mannerisms that are stereotypical for their new gender. You ask them why they have this sudden change in behavior, and Zee explains that they think you might be attracted to them more if they act more like that specific gender. What do you tell Zee?

3. Suppose that Zee starts becoming self-conscious about a certain body characteristic (i.e. too tall/short, or too large/small), and they start pestering you about going to the witch to change it to the way that matches your preferences better. What do you tell Zee?

4. Suppose that you accidentally stumble across Zee's diary, and you take a peek. Inside are very detailed notes and observations about what you like, as well as somewhat creepy commentary like "(You) laughed at a penguin joke today, so I should research penguin jokes I can tell" or "(You) stared at XXX person's butt today, so maybe I should emphasize my butt more." How do you react?

5. Could you ever date someone who obsessively tries to match themselves to your preferences/tastes? What if they like everything that you do, the point that it almost seems like they don't have their own opinions, and they're just parroting your preferences back at you?

1. Eeh, sure, most likely.

2. Be yourself, its always better not to act. If act was ok id considered your first confession for the sake of act so, eeh, no do so. I no do and you no do.

3. I dont have THAT MUCH preferences in a first place and remember, ideal is something nonexistent so its not something u must pursue.

4. Thats actually funny, lets see what kind of a penguin joke id hear next.

5. Its actually ok buut may annoy a lil. But depends and actual process is needed to check as as of now im usually neutral to any shit around.

 

[Queenfisher]

Whut? +_+

NO! That is super stalkery and probably unhealthy for them! And in turn, for me if I agree to abuse them in that way . I would try to get them help O_O.

(Also I'd watch my back from that moment on and would probably try to change my own appearance just to avoid being put in chains in their basement and have my feet cut off at some point later! )

 

[minacia]

I don't think you need more winding but... You know, you tiny Pollkin, you could make an extra poll witht he exact opposite situation!!!. \(*o*)/

I love the opposite situation too! Although I think the responses would mostly fall along whether people are genderfluid/nonbinary/trans or cis. XD

Although I guess it's true that it could be interesting to consider whether sexuality or gender is more important to people.

 

[OneRanter]

I love the opposite situation too! Although I think the responses would mostly fall along whether people are genderfluid/nonbinary/trans or cis. XD

Although I guess it's true that it could be interesting to consider whether sexuality or gender is more important to people.

That sounds to This One Ranter like something straight out of a japanese ecchi comedy!

 

[CupcakeNinja]

Nope. My sexual orientation wont change just because you dont have a penis anymore.

 

[minacia]

That sounds to This One Ranter like something straight out of a japanese ecchi comedy!

I feel like I read a manga like this before...

Whut? +_+

NO! That is super stalkery and probably unhealthy for them! And in turn, for me if I agree to abuse them in that way . I would try to get them help O_O.

(Also I'd watch my back from that moment on and would probably try to change my own appearance just to avoid being put in chains in their basement and have my feet cut off at some point later! )

Umm... to be totally honest, I did consider things like in this poll before. XD I'm pretty clingy...

 

[Sushirollw]

No, lol. Bicc i need dicc when im horny. Thats it. Thankyou

 

[OneRanter]

I feel like I read a manga like this before...

I think so too... But can't remember at all where was it...

Umm... to be totally honest, I did consider things like in this poll before. XD I'm pretty clingy...

 

[RepresentingCaution]

Sounds good to me! As long as Zee lets me date other people as well, I'm good with that . . . unless Zee starts trying to copy all of them . . . or murders them . . . Really though, if Zee knows all of my preferences and works to adhere to them, then Zee should be giving me some space to do other things and people. My husband and I will be very happy if Zee helps us pay rent.

 

[Deleted member 1244]

Just got an intense sense of deja vu... I wonder if I had the same conv on this topic with a friend or something....

 

[The_Long_Serpent]

I'm highly against changing yourself to appeal to others, so no.