I figured out what makes me sad when reading.

[RepresentingWrath]

I don't know why, but a certain usage of motherhood is a surefire way to make me feel sad. Showing a mother's sacrifice, or how a loving mother feels after losing(not necesserily death) a child evokes strong emotions in me. The same for fathers doesn't work the same. There is something about a mother and child relationship. I can't help but feel sad when it is used in tragedy or drama.

 

[Prince_Azmiran_Myrian]

?

 

[RepresentingWrath]

I don't get it, why sad reacts?

 

[KoyukiMegumi]

It probably has to be with personal experiences and biases that allow you to react or be more susceptible to those scenarios. Probably.

 

[RepresentingWrath]

It probably has to be with personal experiences and biases that allow you to react or be more susceptible to those scenarios. Probably.

Usually that's the case, but not with this. My family isn't perfect, but my mother was caring and loving enough. Or are you talking about something else? If yes, please elaborate. I don't get what you mean.

 

[KoyukiMegumi]

Usually that's the case, but not with this. My family isn't perfect, but my mother was caring and loving enough. Or are you talking about something else? If yes, please elaborate. I don't get what you mean.

Well, the lack of something will also make you more susceptible to that desire. The more you have something, the more desensitized you are to it. So a cuddled child may not feel the same as a child who has been loved but not cuddled to death. It has to do with ideology or subconscious wants and needs, which has to do with psychology, which is way too complicated on an individual level and would require a better-trained individual for you to find out what your tick is. Only you know your experiences; what you want may not always be what you think it is.

 

[RepresentingWrath]

Well, the lack of something will also make you more susceptible to that desire. The more you have something, the more desensitized you are to it. So a cuddled child may not feel the same as a child who has been loved but not cuddled to death. It has to do with ideology or subconscious wants and needs, which has to do with psychology, which is way too complicated on an individual level and would require a better-trained individual for you to find out what your tick is. Only you know your experiences; what you want may not always be what you think it is.

Yes I understand it. That's why I've tried to analyze my childhood. And as I said, I don't think I lacked my mother's attention. If anything, that would be father. So logically, I should subconsiousy crave for father's attention, and by extension react more sharply to fathers in fiction. But it is not the case.

 

[AstreiaNyx]

The bond between mother and child is indeed powerful. The bond isn’t easily explained. A child often forgives a mother's missteps more easily than a father's, maybe due to their connection during gestation. A crying newborn can be calmed easily when listening to their mother's heartbeat.

In the case of my nephew, he lost his mom at 3y.o., and it changed him from an optimistic kid to someone somewhat jaded. He often talks about her fondly, even now that he is an adult.

I know someone else who was abandoned as a baby by his mom. He eventually became rich, found her, and supported her. She used his money for her gambling addiction. He forgave her again and again until one day he had enough.

 

[Hans.Trondheim]

Yes I understand it. That's why I've tried to analyze my childhood. And as I said, I don't think I lacked my mother's attention. If anything, that would be father. So logically, I should subconsiousy crave for father's attention, and by extension react more sharply to fathers in fiction. But it is not the case.

It may also say that you are an emphatic person.

 

[KoyukiMegumi]

Yes I understand it. That's why I've tried to analyze my childhood. And as I said, I don't think I lacked my mother's attention. If anything, that would be father. So logically, I should subconsiousy crave for father's attention, and by extension react more sharply to fathers in fiction. But it is not the case.

Maybe it magnified your desire for a motherly figure. The brain is odd and weird and works backward at times.

 

[Prince_Azmiran_Myrian]

This is why you've always wanted to be a princess.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

There is nothing more precious than a little crotch goblin.

 

[greyblob]

might be you project yourself and, at some level, imagine if that were you and your own mother. so to some degree, you experience how losing that connection would make you feel personally. it's not always about gaining something you lack but about losing something you already have.