Building Healthy Boundaries

[AnonUnlimited]

Thing about boundaries is that they are not set in stone. While I might not want to be pegged by @ElliePorter it doesn’t… no wait nevermind. Some boundaries are definitely set in stone.

Okay, jokes aside, boundaries, personal or otherwise are good to be respected, but at the same time one has to be objective about the boundaries they keep and whether those boundaries are reasonable.

Often times, we come to a point where some boundaries prevent our own personal growth. One such boundary is the desire to stay positive at all times (it becomes toxic positivity) and doesn’t allow reflection of the self where one might be ignoring the flaws that need to be worked on.

Unfortunately, it’s difficult to figure out which boundaries are good, and which ones hinder our own growth. What’s even more unfortunate is that some who seek professional help, are getting help from “professionals” who don’t know which are good or bad either.

That’s my 2 cents.

 

[Deleted member 84247]

Thing about boundaries is that they are not set in stone. While I might not want to be pegged by @ElliePorter it doesn’t… no wait nevermind. Some boundaries are definitely set in stone.

Okay, jokes aside, boundaries, personal or otherwise are good to be respected, but at the same time one has to be objective about the boundaries they keep and whether those boundaries are reasonable.

Often times, we come to a point where some boundaries prevent our own personal growth. One such boundary is the desire to stay positive at all times (it becomes toxic positivity) and doesn’t allow reflection of the self where one might be ignoring the flaws that need to be worked on.

Unfortunately, it’s difficult to figure out which boundaries are good, and which ones hinder our own growth. What’s even more unfortunate is that some who seek professional help, are getting help from “professionals” who don’t know which are good or bad either.

That’s my 2 cents.

I totally agree. A good example is setting a boundary that you will work out 30 minutes daily, five days a week. But, if you only keep that boundary, and do the same workout there is not a way to grow. It's the same in life, if you never step out of your comfort zone, you can't grow either. Boundaries should protect you, and the ones protecting you from physical harm should be more rigid. Though, sometimes we need to set flexible boundaries for other areas in life and amend them.

 

[AnonUnlimited]

Depends on situation too. Don’t confuse boundaries with habits though.

 

[Deleted member 84247]

Depends on situation too. Don’t confuse boundaries with habits though.

But good habits can be established with boundaries you set for yourself. They are related to each other

 

[Prince_Azmiran_Myrian]

I can't help but think that some of this is directed at me.

But I also think that some boundaries need to be challenged.

 

[RepresentingWrath]

I can't help but think that some of this is directed at me.

But I also think that some boundaries need to be challenged.

*pats*

 

[Deleted member 84247]

I can't help but think that some of this is directed at me.

But I also think that some boundaries need to be challenged.

It’s not directed at you.

 

[Woolen_Monkey]

I am the one stepping over boundaries. And this is not a joke answer meant to make me look kewl. It has never been my intention, but I offended my friends more than once.

Not happy to admit it but same.

 

[AnonUnlimited]

It’s not directed at you.

It’s directed at @monotonepuppet

 

[Deleted member 84247]

It’s directed at @monotonepuppet

It was not directed at her, either. None of this thread was directed at a specific person. I got the idea because I said something to Voidiris in another thread, but the thread is also not directed at Voidiris. I also want to learn about how other people set boundaries as well, so this is a learning experience, too.

 

[AnonUnlimited]

It was not directed at her, either. None of this thread was directed at a specific person. I got the idea because I said something to Voidiris in another thread, but the thread is also not directed at Voidiris. I also want to learn about how other people set boundaries as well, so this is a learning experience, too.

lol. Thanks for quoting me ?

 

[RepresentingWrath]

lol. Thanks for quoting me ?

Did you bamboozle enby?

 

[AnonUnlimited]

Did you bamboozle enby?

Yes.

 

[RepresentingWrath]

Yes.

How?

 

[Deleted member 84247]

I don't really get it, but alright.

 

[Prince_Azmiran_Myrian]

How?

Yes.

By failing to summon puppet.

 

[AnonUnlimited]

No comment. I’m putting up boundaries now.

 

[Deleted member 84247]

No comment. I’m putting up boundaries now.

 

[Shrimp_eater]

Tear down all boundaries, the Human Instrumentality Project shall be executed soon

 

[TheMonotonePuppet]

Have you ever experienced a strong emotion in response to a conflict? Maybe your friend kept pestering you about something you didn't want to do, but you kept getting increasingly frustrated over time until you snapped. Or perhaps it was something much smaller than that. It could be that your friend did something you felt uncomfortable with. If this keeps happening to you, you have not set healthy boundaries.

Boundaries are fundamental for interacting with other people. Not only should you set boundaries for what other people aren't allowed to do to you, but you should also set boundaries that show you care about yourself.

Example: You keep helping others out of your heart's kindness, but they take you for granted, or all of their problems become yours.

This shows that a clear boundary needs to be set for yourself and others. YOU ARE A PERSON TOO, AND BEING A PERSON means that you should also be cared for. You can't help everyone as it's impossible, so only help the ones you care about and respect your boundaries. Not having time to help others doesn't mean you don't care about them. It means that you care about yourself as well.

In this thread, you can share anything related to setting boundaries, whether physical, emotional, spiritual, etc. If anybody has good advice for setting boundaries, I would like to see it.

Debating the points or severity of my own mental illness. That’s an important boundary for me. They do not struggle with it, or struggle with less crippling so they shouldn’t diminish it because they don’t have similar experiences.
If you are dubious as to just how bad things like depression are for others, I am happy to politely inform questions that are phrased in non-critical ways, and subtly get you what you want to know, and you can your conclusions inside your mind.
But pushing on seriously raw mental injuries will elicit an extremely visceral reaction.

I am the one stepping over boundaries. And this is not a joke answer meant to make me look kewl. It has never been my intention, but I offended my friends more than once.

@SailusGebel Very awesome and humble for you to take responsibility like that! I think that makes this answer cool in a different way!

I only really snapped once due to him just constantly being an ass. Haven't since, though I still don't respect him.

@georgelee5786 At who? I can’t figure out who you are talking about.