Age Gap Question

[TLCsDestiny]

Age is not something that people should treat as an 'obstacle', because the word implies it can or should be overcome. Age is a hard barrier. If one partner is a child, one is an adult, and there's not more than a 2 year difference (16yr dating 18yr is fine, 17yr dating 19yr is fine, 20yr dating 16yr is NOT OKAY) then certain age groups should not mix. If you argue otherwise you're sick and one of the reasons I was sexually harassed/abused as a teen by adults in my life. Don't have underage teens date non teens. That's final. If you have a sex scene between an 18yr and 28yr, that's uncomfortable but kosher. 27yr and a 17yr? No. Hell no.

If that is how you feel, I can't stop you. It seems we are on different levels. Age is something that you can wait upon, so love should surpass that. That's all I'm trying to say.

 

[NotaNuffian]

If both of them are mentally matured, which by itself is a hardsell and difficult to prove, then go for it.

The reason why (most) people are icky about the notion of the age gap is because they feel that the older one is taking advantage of the younger.

 

[CupcakeNinja]

Person A and person B are childhood friends. Person A dies, gets reincarnated, dies again, then gets reincarnated again. Person B dies a decade after person A dies and gets reincarnated.

When person B marries person A, there is a ten years gap between their physical age and mental age (the two still remember their past lives)

Will this be a problem?

Listen buddy it's only a problem when anyone involved is like under 14 physically.

 

[T.K._Paradox]

If that is how you feel, I can't stop you. It seems we are on different levels. Age is something that you can wait upon, so love should surpass that. That's all I'm trying to say.

Love has hard limits, it isn't a end all to be all, pretending otherwise leads to revolting connotations.

 

[TLCsDestiny]

Love has hard limits, it isn't a end all to be all, pretending otherwise leads to revolting connotations.

I don't know why this has become such a...Problem. The person asked, after a reincarnation act, if when the characters are MARRIED that should there be a problem with AGE. I simply stated my opinion that it shouldn't be a problem...I'm not going to defend myself, I don't feel I have a need too!

 

[Avitue]

Considering the WAY crazier age gaps in my own story (the biggest romance plot in one of them had a 26 yo and a 77 yo couple) It's generally not an issue as long as they're both adults.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

As long as they're both over 18 in the life you are writing, it's all good. That being said, the dynamic matters.

I started dating someone 39 years older than me when I was 19. That lasted from 2009-2014. I left him because he lied about a lot of stuff, especially his meth habit. He was indulging in it every time I went to visit my parents, and I didn't figure that out until I had a fling with someone who knew him before I did and connected the dots. There was rotten food in the fridge every time I came back from visiting my parents, and meth suppresses the appetite, so the signs were there, but I was oblivious. Also, there was some verbal/emotional abuse that crossed the line into physical abuse at the very end through sleep deprivation when he kept me awake all night yelling.

 

[Macha]

Age is just a number.

 

[Skalugsuak_Hakarl]

Physical age gaps due to one party physically regressing in age, you say?

Well, if they happen to be mentally mature there should be no problem.

This is okay. Jill was sixteen at the start but got sent back to when she was ten years old with all of her memories and skills of her older self.

No problem here either. She was an OL in her previous life and now she gets to be with her beloved demon king.

 

[LAJistics]

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No problem here either. She was an OL in her previous life and now she gets to be with her beloved demon king.

What's the title?

 

[Skalugsuak_Hakarl]

What's the title?

I Became the Demon King's Right Hand so I'm Corrupting the Story

 

[LAJistics]

I Became the Demon King's Right Hand so I'm Corrupting the Story

Thanks. Might give that a peruse soon.

 

[Merrikk]

When person B marries person A, there is a ten years gap between their physical age and mental age (the two still remember their past lives)

Will this be a problem?

Yesn't...

But honestly it comes down to consent and just plain power dynamics, if the older person uses the fact that they are older to do unsavory stuff to their younger partner with no consent, then what you have is pretty much written in Lolita

 

[Alfir]

The only thing that will get in the way is their hormones. Nevermind what society thinks, it's always the hormones...

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[Ai-chan]

Person A and person B are childhood friends. Person A dies, gets reincarnated, dies again, then gets reincarnated again. Person B dies a decade after person A dies and gets reincarnated.

When person B marries person A, there is a ten years gap between their physical age and mental age (the two still remember their past lives)

Will this be a problem?

Only if you want it to be a problem. Do you want it to be a problem? It's your story.