Hmmmmm.
Methinks that sounds like the logic a "nice guy" who buys flowers for a platonic best friend who rages when said best friend finds a boyfriend later on uses. I mean, unrequited love hurts and there is a double standard where male sufferers are called incels while females are shown in a tragic light, but an angry reaction, especially on the reader's side feels immature. Not that there's anything wrong with emotional immaturity, or displays of it.
First of all, I’m not a big fan of the whole ‘alpha’ and ‘nice guy’ things. I’ve been quite interested in it in the past, since it’s all over the internet and all, and I’d be lying if I say I didn’t feel the appeal at all.
So, after looking into it for a long while, I finally came out of there.
I can conclude to you that the whole logic of ‘nice guy’ and ‘alpha’ is bs. Of course, there’s some truths in it, but if you look at it carefully, you’ll see that the whole logic always involves things like power-dynamic, ego, and insecurity. There’s nothing healthy about it. It’s just the scheme targeting young people with insecurity.
As for what you said, though, I have to agree with you. When the reader feels angry when that happens, it’s due to emotional immaturity.
But it could also be something else entirely as well.
In real life, I’m always being flirtatious when being around the girls I like, and I’m pretty honest and straightforward with some hints of sexual innuendo here and there. But over all, I just love girls and try to show them my appreciation, not to get something from them, and there’s no power-ego involved—aside from when I’m joking or role-playing or snu snu, you know what I mean~
But, even if the girl I like irl already has a boyfriend, I don’t feel anything about it at all: no envy, no jealousy, no anger. I’m just talking with her like my usual self—you know, being flirtatious and joking around and all that, but I still respect the boundaries. I’d say that I’m pretty mature emotionally.
But when it comes to fictional world, I kind of have those feeling in said situations. The feeling‘s not that strong, but it’s still there.
Maybe it’s because in fiction, when a romantic interest is introduced, I kind of already think of her as an mc’s girl? So that’s why when that doesn’t happen, it kinds of feels bitter, you know—just like the NTR stuffs.
I don't think of it like that at all. HOWEVER, from the personal experience of someone who wrote a novel with NTR in a title, there is a lot of readers like you. They don't care who likes whom in the story, and they don't care about the definition of NTR. They just want MC to monopolize all the girls in the story.
In fiction, yeah, it’s like that. Maybe, I do have a deepest desire to dominate every girls in existence, but I highly doubt that~ lol
