How do you guys deal with not feeling good enough?

[AKIRIKA]

Hiya everyone this is my first time posting a discussion on here!

I struggle with anxiety and low self esteem so i was just wondering how do you guys deal with thoughts of not being good enough?

I often end up not wanting to post chapters because I think my writing is either boring or just flat out terrible and I don't want to waste a readers time.
I guess it's just this constant sense that nothing I ever produce is as good as what I have in my head.

I've been lucky to be fairly successful in my opinion. Been number one on trending multiple times and my story has over 100k views and a pretty solid rating.

Just wondering how you guys deal with negative, intrusive and toxic thoughts?

Anyway have a great day and thanks for reading <3

 

[UnratedX]

not being good enough

fairly successful in my opinion

 

[RepresentingCaution]

I remind myself that other people are going through the same thing. It's known as imposter syndrome. Even published authors, even writers for Blizzard feel this way.

 

[ForestDweller]

even writers for Blizzard feel this way.

Yeah, but they haven't been good for years.

 

[Deleted member 29316]

I began to expect the worst, sometimes even encouraging the events to turn for the worse.

Like in my work. When new readers come, I always expect them to drop it. It'll be that way anyway.

 

[LimitBound]

Had the same thought lol

 

[LimitBound]

Whenever I'm not feeling good I'd just distract myself with anything I can get my hands on.
Or I just remember that others have worse lifes than me and that makes me feel better.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

Yeah, but they haven't been good for years.

I was talking about one of the new ones

 

[Ai-chan]

Hiya everyone this is my first time posting a discussion on here!

I struggle with anxiety and low self esteem so i was just wondering how do you guys deal with thoughts of not being good enough?

I often end up not wanting to post chapters because I think my writing is either boring or just flat out terrible and I don't want to waste a readers time.
I guess it's just this constant sense that nothing I ever produce is as good as what I have in my head.

I've been lucky to be fairly successful in my opinion. Been number one on trending multiple times and my story has over 100k views and a pretty solid rating.

Just wondering how you guys deal with negative, intrusive and toxic thoughts?

Anyway have a great day and thanks for reading <3

By practicing human cruelty and reciprocal communal bathing after the event.

Anyway... are ya trying ta brag or sumthin, punk?

 

[Moonpearl]

First of all, I try to remember that the way I see my work isn't the way the readers are going to see it. I've spent hours working on it, putting it down on paper and then editing every line to fit, so I unknowingly almost know it by heart. Of course it reads boring to me - there's no such thing as surprising myself.
You'll also have your expectations as an artist to compare your finished work to, and nothing can ever be as good as what's in your head. You're biased against your work for everything it's not, but your readers will take it and love it for what it is.

Secondly, I embrace the possibility that my work might be a failure. Failure will always come eventually, after all - and I say that not in a nihilistic way, or to say that we're all doomed, but to accept that the nature of art can't avoid spitting out bits of crap every now and again.
There are many celebrated authors and writers I love who, after years of writing incredible stuff, put out a novella or a short story that makes you think, "Sorry, what?"
Then they go right back to producing amazing work.

The important thing is to remember that failure is not the end and that it does not define you. A bad story does not make you a bad author. Art is about growth. So long as you continue to write, you haven't failed as an author - and even if you fail to write, you definitely haven't failed as a person. One story, or even a library of them, does not decide your entire worth in this life.

(P.S. A really fun and helpful way to fight back against the negative voice in your head is to swear at it and furiously tell it to piss off, rather than listening to it. Most people recommend imagining it in the voice of someone you hate, so you could never take it seriously, but I find that using it as a verbal punching bag is snappier and really builds confidence.)

 

[UnratedX]

By practicing human cruelty and reciprocal communal bathing after the event.

Anyway... are ya trying ta brag or sumthin, punk?

THIS! ? is he trolling with the brag? that's a DICK MOVE mate!

 

[AdLeto]

Intravenal dopamine injection

 

[Deleted member 45782]

Hiya everyone this is my first time posting a discussion on here!

I struggle with anxiety and low self esteem so i was just wondering how do you guys deal with thoughts of not being good enough?

I often end up not wanting to post chapters because I think my writing is either boring or just flat out terrible and I don't want to waste a readers time.
I guess it's just this constant sense that nothing I ever produce is as good as what I have in my head.

I've been lucky to be fairly successful in my opinion. Been number one on trending multiple times and my story has over 100k views and a pretty solid rating.

Just wondering how you guys deal with negative, intrusive and toxic thoughts?

Anyway have a great day and thanks for reading <3

Sup. Welcome to the Forums.

Procrastinating. Its bad, but yeah stress and worry - sometimes you just want to put it away for another day. Unfortunately that eventually accumulates lot of tasks lumped together which then evolve into a mega boss level you have to tackle all of on.

My advice is to write. Just write it out.

My worry before was that my stories either sound too much like another story already existing, or that I'm not accurately depicting things like depression or other stuff that people face irl that the characters I plan to write about may face in the story. The other thing is constantly thinking how to make it reflect more accurate to certain mythologies and cultures, without twisting them too much that it really doesn't seem like related at all or to the point where it starts to sound like its misappropriating it. It kinda sucks cause it feels like, even thu part of culture is from there, but don't know much about it, and kinda hard to research on it for specific things, especially since there's a language barrier.

Give yourself a break. Stay positive. Its hard, but every now and then, you can be critical of your story, but also acknowledge what you feel proud how you wrote certain elements into the story. Once in awhile, look back and jot the things that people like in the story. Or what you feel really accomplished like how you feel really good about how you wrote a particular scene or chapter.

Low self-esteem can be very dampening, yes. Its hard cause probably need take my own advice here, but wake up and think about a few good things need do. And then do it. Forget about the ifs, the maybes...just do it. You may feel more motivated and proud after you actually did something, like finished a specific task or goal.

Lot of negative thoughts from feeling unqualified, no-talent, and news lately. Just focus on your life, what things you aim to do. There's also always hope that you can do better, you just need to improve bit by bit. Eventually when you look back, you'll feel like you have gotten really far. That's the hope that drives the motivation here at least, somewhat. That can be better by learning how to self improve bit by bit.

 

[NotaNuffian]

Double down on confidence and ignore ignorance.

Also, you are flexing.

 

[tridetect]

I convince myself that my works are a masterpiece because they are. and no one can understand my utter genius because im too smart for the world

 

[AKIRIKA]

Double down on confidence and ignore ignorance.

Also, you are flexing.

Sorry it wasn't a deliberate flex i assure you :(

 

[Deleted member 45782]

Ik some say you're flexing. But then again, one has heard stories about how some people are great at doing a lot of things and it seems like they're really off all great or really outstanding to outside appearance, but no one really knows how they feel until its too late.

So technically, you could be really good but still feel really low.

Important part is to just stay positive mindset. Be critical of your own work, but also be proud of the good that you've created or done.

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Some are really overly confident of their work.
A lot are, however, are more likely to feel under confident about their work.
The best thing and most hardest complicated thing to do, is finding balance between those two.

 

[Jaxxson]

Hiya everyone this is my first time posting a discussion on here!

I struggle with anxiety and low self esteem so i was just wondering how do you guys deal with thoughts of not being good enough?

I often end up not wanting to post chapters because I think my writing is either boring or just flat out terrible and I don't want to waste a readers time.
I guess it's just this constant sense that nothing I ever produce is as good as what I have in my head.

I've been lucky to be fairly successful in my opinion. Been number one on trending multiple times and my story has over 100k views and a pretty solid rating.

Just wondering how you guys deal with negative, intrusive and toxic thoughts?

Anyway have a great day and thanks for reading <3

Read a lot of wholesome manga/manhua/manhwa, watch youtube, or listen to spotify. Takes you mind off of negative thoughts.

 

[tiaf]

Sorry it wasn't a deliberate flex i assure you :(

Well, it could be read as such and it kinds of hit people’s sour spot.

Beside having a positive mindset, I also face the problems head on after I gave my emotions a short breather to calm down. We are always the hardest on our self. By distancing myself from my art (writing or drawing) emotionally I can look at it objectively. I look at the parts I like and dislike and search for a way on how to improve.

By doing so it’s always turns out not so bad as I thought initially. Having a plan and goal makes it easier to fight low self esteem. Know your weaknesses and embrace them. Admitting is always the first step, working on it the second.

 

[bananapink]

It cures my anxiety if I at least get one response from the story I posted. No matter how trivial. I used to only have my closest friends reafd my stuff until I found SH.
People who likes it will read it, those who don't will drop it. Gotta accept that fact hehe...
The most important thing is that I tried to cross the line from my comfort zone!