Sometimes I feel, what's the point of saying anything?

[ThrillingHuman]

I don't know what I should do when a person I am talking to is saying something, for example about how they feel about an experience or whatever, and the only thing I can reply is something very obvious to the point I don't even want to say it. It extends to other times in life, when I am thinking of saying something but before I do, I go "what is even the point of saying it?" (like rn), sometimes I slog through it, but it's a pain (like rn)

It's kind of annoying when you feel like there is something to say and then suddenly your motivation to do so is sapped right out. It's like wanting to sneeze and suddenly not.

 

[Cipiteca396]

There are so many threads on this forum that I have a saved half-written reply on them. I almost wonder how much server space I'm clogging up.

 

[Representing_Tromba]

There are so many threads on this forum that I have a saved half-written reply on them. I almost wonder how much server space I'm clogging up.

That's a good thing. It means that it's getting more active like before.

 

[RepresentingWrath]

Yes.

 

[Deleted member 19066]

IMO, words are magic. Regardless if it's for good or ill, if its insightful or obvious, be it life changing or pointless....

saying something and a person hearing it has an effect.

And that effect good or bad is a mark on both my and that person's history and memory.

And it colors my world like a brush.

So i do what i want, say if i want to say, say nothing if it makes me happy.

What ever suits me, suits me fine.

 

[Corty]

There are so many times I decided to stay silent or simply not comment... and I think it is a good thing. Many times it is just best to move on and avoid a conversation that would lead to nothing but wasted time.

 

[ArchlordZero]

There are so many times I decided to stay silent or simply not comment... and I think it is a good thing. Many times it is just best to move on and avoid a conversation that would lead to nothing but wasted time.

Sometimes it's just a matter of "Expressing your feelings" vs. "Staying silent and having a peace of mind"

 

[KrakenRiderEmma]

Sometimes the most important thing to “say” is simply something that shows you are listening and care what someone else has to say. In those cases, it does not matter whether you have an opinion or something novel to contribute, because the moment is not about you as a speaker, it’s about you as a listener. A good skill to cultivate even though many of us are taught that our only value is in speaking or “having something to say.” In reality, listening and showing that you’re listening is often far more valuable, and valuable far more often.

 

[Southmonk]

I don't know what I should do when a person I am talking to is saying something, for example about how they feel about an experience or whatever, and the only thing I can reply is something very obvious to the point I don't even want to say it. It extends to other times in life, when I am thinking of saying something but before I do, I go "what is even the point of saying it?" (like rn), sometimes I slog through it, but it's a pain (like rn)

It's kind of annoying when you feel like there is something to say and then suddenly your motivation to do so is sapped right out. It's like wanting to sneeze and suddenly not.

Eh just say what u want rofl, it can be used as an outlet. Too much apathy not too good.

 

[BlackKnightX]

Conversation happens on both side.

Sometime people who aren't good at building connection with someone else will just simply say whatever on their mind and leave it at that. In that case, it's a close-ended statement. There's nothing to reply.

When this happens, it's up to you to decide whether to keep going or not. If you yourself are a good conversationalist, you can carry on the interaction by yourself, establishing and maintaining the connection on your own.

For example, if that person tells you they went to a party last night, and it was fun, all you have to do is just ask questions you are curious about: what kind of party? Did something cool happen? Did you hook up with someone? Did you get drunk? The list goes on. Or if you don't find interest in that subject, you can just randomly change it.

 

[Empyrea]

Sometimes the most important thing to “say” is simply something that shows you are listening and care what someone else has to say. In those cases, it does not matter whether you have an opinion or something novel to contribute, because the moment is not about you as a speaker, it’s about you as a listener. A good skill to cultivate even though many of us are taught that our only value is in speaking or “having something to say.” In reality, listening and showing that you’re listening is often far more valuable, and valuable far more often.

This is what I wanted to say, but I can also add something. Making people happy makes me happy. So even if what I say isn't novel, my reactions could help the other person. If you're an introvert like me and it feels tedious, then push on and you might feel rewarded when it's all done. I know that for myself, even cookie emojis as comments to my chapters makes me feel better.

 

[MrPopocap]

I don't know what I should do when a person I am talking to is saying something, for example about how they feel about an experience or whatever, and the only thing I can reply is something very obvious to the point I don't even want to say it. It extends to other times in life, when I am thinking of saying something but before I do, I go "what is even the point of saying it?" (like rn), sometimes I slog through it, but it's a pain (like rn)

It's kind of annoying when you feel like there is something to say and then suddenly your motivation to do so is sapped right out. It's like wanting to sneeze and suddenly not.

Just like you, I would like to write a lot to answer you, but I'll be short and simple : Yes!

 

[SsemouyOnan]

 

[LesserSarcasm]

There are so many threads on this forum that I have a saved half-written reply on them. I almost wonder how much server space I'm clogging up.

Not as much as you think 1mb is anywhere from 500-800 pages of raw text when server storage is measured in terabytes and petabytes, its tiny really.

 

[Le_ther]

I don't know what I should do when a person I am talking to is saying something, for example about how they feel about an experience or whatever, and the only thing I can reply is something very obvious to the point I don't even want to say it. It extends to other times in life, when I am thinking of saying something but before I do, I go "what is even the point of saying it?" (like rn), sometimes I slog through it, but it's a pain (like rn)

It's kind of annoying when you feel like there is something to say and then suddenly your motivation to do so is sapped right out. It's like wanting to sneeze and suddenly not.

It's basically your mind's quick time reaction scenario in games but you didn't pick the lines in the given time so you just get the option of "..."

 

[Tempokai]

I sometimes do this to a cashiers. They know me vaguely, I know them vaguely, and the transaction is done silently. Thanks for the current mobile bank apps that has QR code payments.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

That's why we write. Talking IRL is too much of a hassle.

 

[melchi]

That's why we write. Talking IRL is too much of a hassle.

Can confirm, talking to other humans face to face is scary