Periods

[RepresentingCaution]

Are you a person who menstruates! Come talk about your periods here!

Personally, I am on my second period since I had my kid. He got very cranky when PMS hit because my milk supply dropped. I'm going to start taking some supplements to hopefully fix that.

https://www.llli.org/breastfeeding-info/menstruation/

 

[CL]

Be careful and consult with your OB on those supplements because it could have unintended effects. I had to deal with longer "fun" that left me counting the black spots for awhile. It was a scare too because we weren't sure if it meant there was a clot or whether that was a sign of an accidental #2 in the oven. It turned out that we were extending the flow far longer and the spotting was just old. Read before you swallow.

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Editing in a little addition here. We were going through a McDonalds drive-thru when I first saw this spotting. The reason I saw it was because I felt weird and (with bags in my lap used as cover) I took a peek. I didn't know what the fuck was going on and started doing research online (big mistake). IT FREAKED ME OUT.

A visit to our OB cleared things up (not physically though). I endured and stopped popping my buffet of pills. Back then, I think it might've been the water pills?

 

[RepresentingCaution]

Be careful and consult with your OB on those supplements because it could have unintended effects. I had to deal with longer "fun" that left me counting the black spots for awhile. It was a scare too because we weren't sure if it meant there was a clot or whether that was a sign of an accidental #2 in the oven. It turned out that we were extending the flow far longer and the spotting was just old. Read before you swallow.

Sure thing. I've been baking my own lactation cookies for a long time now, and those have been treating me well. I'm talking about adding a calcium/magnesium supplement because I'm no longer guzzling cow's milk 4-5 times a night like I was in the early months of my kid's life. I overdid the calories at first and actually gained some weight postpartum.

 

[CL]

Sure thing. I've been baking my own lactation cookies for a long time now, and those have been treating me well. I'm talking about adding a calcium/magnesium supplement because I'm no longer guzzling cow's milk 4-5 times a night like I was in the early months of my kid's life. I overdid the calories at first and actually gained some weight postpartum.

Yeaaaah, I gained, went to the gym years later (Planet Fitness) and dropped back down for some cosplay, but stopped going because of being lonely in there and regained the weight. Also drinking didn't help in the last couple of years from major postmortem depression (still going through that).

I'm trying to remember what all I was taking. I remember the water pills specifically because I kept either experiencing dizziness or having blackouts and somebody suggestion them poppers to me. I got a little puffy from them. Then there were zinc and iron pills, but I don't recollect why I took them. I think the iron was because I felt anemic? Not sure about the zinc. I apologize, I can't remember (don't excessively drink, m'kay?). Then there were the all in one pills from the "One a Day" brands. I was also hitting up an herb store and making tea out of things like lavender and such. I did purchase a few bags of powdered hemp (dark green stuff). Now that made me itchy if I had too much. But, anyways, yeah, I had a little too much with not enough thought put into it. I regret a few of them because of the kind of cocktail they turned into. Mistakes and lessons were had.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

Yeaaaah, I gained, went to the gym years later (Planet Fitness) and dropped back down for some cosplay, but stopped going because of being lonely in there and regained the weight. Also drinking didn't help in the last couple of years from major postmortem depression (still going through that).

I'm trying to remember what all I was taking. I remember the water pills specifically because I kept either experiencing dizziness or having blackouts and somebody suggestion them poppers to me. I got a little puffy from them. Then there were zinc and iron pills, but I don't recollect why I took them. I think the iron was because I felt anemic? Not sure about the zinc. I apologize, I can't remember (don't excessively drink, m'kay?). Then there were the all in one pills from the "One a Day" brands. I was also hitting up an herb store and making tea out of things like lavender and such. I did purchase a few bags of powdered hemp (dark green stuff). Now that made me itchy if I had too much. But, anyways, yeah, I had a little too much with not enough thought put into it. I regret a few of them because of the kind of cocktail they turned into. Mistakes and lessons were had.

For sure! The videos my doctor had me watch said that it's OK to have one drink a day while breastfeeding, but I'm doing more like one or two a week. Also, I don't drink too close to bedtime because we are cosleeping. The pediatrician said that was OK because my kid was full-term and we don't smoke. We tried to make the crib work, we really did, but my son has a really strong set of lungs. A relative told us to let him cry it out, and he'd be asleep in ten minutes, but that kid is capable of crying for hours and does NOT like to sleep alone. He also punched and kicked his way out of the swaddle every time we tried that.

What Every Health Professional Should Know // Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory // University of Notre Dame

Professor James J. McKenna’s Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory at Notre Dame studies how sleeping and co-sleeping environments affect mothers, breastfeeding, and infants’ physiological and psychological well-being and development.

cosleeping.nd.edu

 

[CL]

For sure! The videos my doctor had me watch said that it's OK to have one drink a day while breastfeeding, but I'm doing more like one or two a week. Also, I don't drink too close to bedtime because we are cosleeping. The pediatrician said that was OK because my kid was full-term and we don't smoke. We tried to make the crib work, we really did, but my son has a really strong set of lungs. A relative told us to let him cry it out, and he'd be asleep in ten minutes, but that kid is capable of crying for hours and does NOT like to sleep alone. He also punched and kicked his way out of the swaddle every time we tried that.

What Every Health Professional Should Know // Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory // University of Notre Dame

Professor James J. McKenna’s Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory at Notre Dame studies how sleeping and co-sleeping environments affect mothers, breastfeeding, and infants’ physiological and psychological well-being and development.

cosleeping.nd.edu

This brings back memories of when I had to retreat into the bathroom with our child, close the door, shoot the shower on full blast HOT, and pace back and forth while the room filled with steam. It helped whenever there had been an illness going on and sleep wasn't being an easy target for the little one. I know there are humidifiers that could've done the job, but the shower's steam in the air helped us far faster than a tiny reservoir could've done. And we received our sleep far sooner too when all was well again.

 

[AliceShiki]

Ah... My periods never came, I'm afraid, so I don't have much to talk about.

On one hand I'm happy I don't have to worry about it, since I know some people that struggle a lot with their periods, but... I'm also quite sad about it because I can't give birth... T.T

Oh well, I'll adopt once my financial situation gets stable enough, but still... I wish I could give birth... orz

 

[Dudealien]

As a male, I don’t have periods

I don’t belong here

Someone call the institute I’m out again

 

[RepresentingCaution]

This brings back memories of when I had to retreat into the bathroom with our child, close the door, shoot the shower on full blast HOT, and pace back and forth while the room filled with steam. It helped whenever there had been an illness going on and sleep wasn't being an easy target for the little one. I know there are humidifiers that could've done the job, but the shower's steam in the air helped us far faster than a tiny reservoir could've done. And we received our sleep far sooner too when all was well again.

Interesting. Our place is actually too humid, so we have to run a dehumidifier to prevent mold.

Ah... My periods never came, I'm afraid, so I don't have much to talk about.

On one hand I'm happy I don't have to worry about it, since I know some people that struggle a lot with their periods, but... I'm also quite sad about it because I can't give birth... T.T

Oh well, I'll adopt once my financial situation gets stable enough, but still... I wish I could give birth... orz

My mom didn't get a period until she was 24, so there's hope yet.
My best friend's ex-wife said that she never got her periods, either. Then, she got pregnant with someone else.

As a male, I don’t have periods

I don’t belong here

Someone call the institute I’m out again

It's good that you are curious. Some males believe erroneous things about periods, so it is good to learn.

 

[AliceShiki]

My mom didn't get a period until she was 24, so there's hope yet.
My best friend's ex-wife said that she never got her periods, either. Then, she got pregnant with someone else.

Ah... I don't think I should try clinging to this kind of hope at this point, but I'm happy for your mom and your best friend's ex-wife~

 

[RepresentingCaution]

Ah... I don't think I should try clinging to this kind of hope at this point, but I'm happy for your mom and your best friend's ex-wife~

Adoption is awesome, too. Assuming you adopt a baby rather than an older kid, would be your ideal plan for feeding the baby? I've heard that open adoptions are becoming a lot more common, and biological parents sometimes want to express milk for the baby. Another option is that you can induce lactation yourself. I did that for fun in 2016 and kept it up until 2019 when I started writing again. I was making a tablespoon of milk every 4 hours, including waking up in the middle night, and it took about three months of massaging and stimulation to get started. However, I didn't take any hormones to prime my body, and newborns will nurse a lot more than that, and I've heard that there's a chemical in baby saliva that helps stimulate let-down reflex, so you might have more luck if you talk to a lactation consultant about that and get the baby on your nipple ASAP after it is born.

Also, if you can get around to producing a tablespoon of milk every four hours like I was doing, you should have enough milk to get started. Newborns feed so frequently because their stomachs start out tiny, and they always lose some of their birth weight before they catch up and start gaining weight. The frequency of feeding will boost milk supply as needed,

 

[Ellieporter]

Oh, you mean the painful red waterfalls of Satan?

 

[AliceShiki]

Adoption is awesome, too. Assuming you adopt a baby rather than an older kid, would be your ideal plan for feeding the baby? I've heard that open adoptions are becoming a lot more common, and biological parents sometimes want to express milk for the baby. Another option is that you can induce lactation yourself. I did that for fun in 2016 and kept it up until 2019 when I started writing again. I was making a tablespoon of milk every 4 hours, including waking up in the middle night, and it took about three months of massaging and stimulation to get started. However, I didn't take any hormones to prime my body, and newborns will nurse a lot more than that, and I've heard that there's a chemical in baby saliva that helps stimulate let-down reflex, so you might have more luck if you talk to a lactation consultant about that and get the baby on your nipple ASAP after it is born.

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Also, if you can get around to producing a tablespoon of milk every four hours like I was doing, you should have enough milk to get started. Newborns feed so frequently because their stomachs start out tiny, and they always lose some of their birth weight before they catch up and start gaining weight. The frequency of feeding will boost milk supply as needed,

I do agree that adopting is wonderful indeed! I'll do my best to be a good mom for the children I adopt! ^^)/

As for adopting a baby... It's not that I don't want to, but on a practical standpoint, it's unlikely to happen.

Most parents willing to adopt want very young children, with no mental disabilities, without siblings... This cuts out about 90% of the children in orphanages. Or at least it is like this in my country.

So uhn... It leads to a result of there being like... (I forgot the numbers, since it's been years since I last researched it, so I'll just make numbers up on the spot) 8000 children for adoption, with 50000 parents wanting to adopt.

So... I think I'll probably just try to adopt two or three siblings, since they'll have a much lower chances of being adopted if I don't do it, and this will also mean I'll have to stay much less time on the waiting queue... Good for me, and good for the children~

I wish I could adopt a child with mental disabilities too, but I don't think I'd be a good mother for them... So I'll try helping siblings instead~


So uhn... I had never searched anything about induced lactation tbh! It's good to know it's a thing!

I'm not sure if I should try it though, dunno if my medical problems might affect the baby. I'd need to ask my doctor~

If I ever get the chance to adopt a baby though, I'll probably look up more things about this! Thanks for sharing it with me! *hugs*

 

[Deleted member 57675]

Periods are a reminder of how life can sometimes be a sadist. Normalized pain for some.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

I do agree that adopting is wonderful indeed! I'll do my best to be a good mom for the children I adopt! ^^)/

As for adopting a baby... It's not that I don't want to, but on a practical standpoint, it's unlikely to happen.

Most parents willing to adopt want very young children, with no mental disabilities, without siblings... This cuts out about 90% of the children in orphanages. Or at least it is like this in my country.

So uhn... It leads to a result of there being like... (I forgot the numbers, since it's been years since I last researched it, so I'll just make numbers up on the spot) 8000 children for adoption, with 50000 parents wanting to adopt.

So... I think I'll probably just try to adopt two or three siblings, since they'll have a much lower chances of being adopted if I don't do it, and this will also mean I'll have to stay much less time on the waiting queue... Good for me, and good for the children~

I wish I could adopt a child with mental disabilities too, but I don't think I'd be a good mother for them... So I'll try helping siblings instead~


So uhn... I had never searched anything about induced lactation tbh! It's good to know it's a thing!

I'm not sure if I should try it though, dunno if my medical problems might affect the baby. I'd need to ask my doctor~

If I ever get the chance to adopt a baby though, I'll probably look up more things about this! Thanks for sharing it with me! *hugs*

That's awesome! Good luck!

 

[AliceShiki]

That's awesome! Good luck!

Thank you! Good luck raising your first child too! ^^)/