Love confession stories!

[ohko]

Have you confessed to anyone? Has anyone confessed to you?

If you're willing to share, how did it go? What was it like? Details!

 

[ohko]

I feel like love confessions are a cultural thing that don't really exist in the US

waiit, how does it work for you? Nobody ever tells the person they like them?

*ponders about own experience* Oh my goodness it's true.

 

[FriendlyDragon]

My love life is nonexistent. I've never like someone romantically, and no one has every told me they like me. ;- ;

 

[ohko]

My love life is nonexistent. I've never like someone romantically, and no one has every told me they like me. ;- ;

I like you ryuu-chan!

 

[binarysoap]

My love life is nonexistent. I've never like someone romantically, and no one has every told me they like me. ;- ;

Just noticed you joined on valentines day....
Does that mean you have feelings for SH instead?

 

[Jamminrabbit]

I've confessed to three people in my life so far. All three of them turned me down, yet one of them somehow escalated to a fwb that lasted for a few months during college.

People are weird

 

[ohko]

I've confessed to three people in my life so far. All three of them turned me down, yet one of them somehow escalated to a fwb that lasted for a few months during college.

People are weird

Thank you for sharing! How did the conversation go when the two of you escalated to uh... fwb?

 

[ohko]

Oh for me, I voted all three.

Although for my current relationship, we didn't confess to each other for two years. Like we had a short cuddly fling for a summer, separated for two years, then one day when we were both at home we somehow spontaneously made out. Only after that point, we went home and texted each other "I guess we're going out now?"

Yeah, so two years of liking each other, and we never said anything to each other lol

 

[Moctemma]

I was kind of forced into confessing. My first time when I was 11 years old, one classmate asked me a lot of times who I liked, I lied but she didn't believe me. I liked her friend so one time during a school ceremony I told her I would point to the person I liked. Then after class they asked me if it was her (the friend) who I liked, I said yes. My classmate told me to ("declararme") confess, but I didn't know what that was, so I can of never confessed, but the girl I liked became my girlfriend.

The second time I was sending letters with the girl I liked and we confessed through that, it escalated from "What do you think about me?" to finally say we liked each other.

 

[Jamminrabbit]

Thank you for sharing! How did the conversation go when the two of you escalated to uh... fwb?

Since we were friends and hung out a lot, she'd come by the apartment just because it was a lot closer to her classes than her own place. She was interested in me, too, but didn't want the potential drama that came with being in a relationship (whatever the fek that means). One night, my roommate went out with his skater friends, and she came over after her last class.

Me, being aloof as all guys seem to be, was on the computer playing games while she was on my bed texting on her phone. At some point, she just said "Come here." and you can guess where that led.

 

[ohko]

Since we were friends and hung out a lot, she'd come by the apartment just because it was a lot closer to her classes than her own place. She was interested in me, too, but didn't want the potential drama that came with being in a relationship (whatever the fek that means). One night, my roommate went out with his skater friends, and she came over after her last class.

Me, being aloof as all guys seem to be, was on the computer playing games while she was on my bed texting on her phone. At some point, she just said "Come here." and you can guess where that led.

Were you pretending to be aloof or actually aloof? Out of curiosity?

 

[Jamminrabbit]

Were you pretending to be aloof or actually aloof? Out of curiosity?

I genuinely had no idea. She complained later that she was throwing glances at me the whole time, not texting. And I was like, "What."
Men get a lot of shit about being clueless when it comes to catching signals. I firmly believe some of us are just dumb.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

I tend to confess quickly. We're only on this planet for so long, and I don't like wasting time.

 

[Zoey]

I've never confessed or been confessed to, mostly because I avoided it like the plague in high school. I saw enough drama in middle school and didn't want to be a part of it. Though strangely enough people treated me like some kinda love guru despite the fact that I had never dated.

 

[ohko]

I've never confessed or been confessed to, mostly because I avoided it like the plague in high school. I saw enough drama in middle school and didn't want to be a part of it. Though strangely enough people treated me like some kinda love guru despite the fact that I had never dated.

Zoey as the love guru? That's so fitting! Are you still taking love consultations?

 

[Zoey]

Zoey as the love guru? That's so fitting! Are you still taking love consultations?

I've only done one after high school for my oldest sister (weird considering I'm the youngest) but she's the type that just needs someone to tell her to tone it down a notch (or two) most of the time. She wanted to take a girl snorkeling on their first date and my sis had never snorkeled before!

 

[Amarathia]

I have been confessed to by three men online after hanging out a lot with them playing video games (like a group setting in a guild). In each case, these confessions seemed like they came out of the blue. I turned one down and said yes to long-distance dating with the other two out of curiosity. (No, neither of them turned out to be creepers, it is not one of those online goaded into sending nudes scenarios.) In each case, it felt like work to me after several weeks of 'dating', I got bored, and so both relationships piddled out into nothing. I never felt attracted to them, nor have I had a crush on anyone else ever or felt that I wanted to have one, even though I enjoy reading about other couples in romance stories.

And thus I the learned the legendary term asexual !!
Similar to Zoey, I have since given much top-notch advice to my two closest friends on their relationships.

 

[atgongumerki]

It is not as abstruse as one might think, to ask ppl with no love-live for advice.
They tend to be able to bring some common sense back into hormone-filled brains!

PS: confessing as a joke seems like a dick move

 

[Moctemma]

This thread made me remember something; twice a "friend" confessed in my place if I showed interest in a girl. They tried to convince me to do it after they went and failed, I rejected the idea, but they keep telling me that she likes me, etc. Then when classes where over, a friend of the girl came to tell me to stop, that she doesn't want anything. The next time I noticed because the girl hid each time she saw me, behind her friends.

So two more against my will.

 

[Vaerama]

waiit, how does it work for you? Nobody ever tells the person they like them?

*ponders about own experience* Oh my goodness it's true.

Love confessions are great when you're six (I remember when I was like four: I confessed to some like 16 year old german exchange student who was staying with us for like, a short while. Didn't work out, fam), or perhaps when you're particularly inexperienced with romance at 16 (cannot comment on due to my experience). By the time you're 26 though: conversations with someone you like should naturally lead towards the bedroom, and there's plenty of time for as many sweet "I love you"s there as you want. Expressing interest in another human being isn't actually an earth-shaking emotional matter if your relationship with that person isn't either A: 'abnormal' or B: 'socially impossible'. The worst that can happen in most cases is that the other person says 'yuck, no.', but more usually they'll be satisfied to reject your reasonable advances in a civilized fashion.

If you're not about to absolutely creep someone out by expressing your interest in them... then there really is no reason not to go for it! The only time for 'caution' when it comes to 'confessions' is if your relationship would be adversely affected by the expressions of affection: teacher x student, mother x daughter, father x son, a girl's best friend x but most definitely not a lesbian.... it's one of those things that unless there's some greater reason why you 'can't' or 'shouldn't' tell a person you're interested: it's not really going to hurt anybody, so you might as well try your luck.

Both of my last two major relationships started with just talking together friendly-like, and so we grew closer. Second to last was a lovely chat and hanging out for less than 7 hours before we were in bed together doing the kinds of things people do in bed together (never been cuddled with before? Really? No, that was not happening: cuddles are justice... I didn't actually expect it to 'degrade' into a more physical arrangement, but my god was I glad it did), and my current one we chatted online for about seven months before I got to England.... and it wasn't two hours before we were in bed together doing the kinds of things people do in bed together (well, not counting the time I was stuck waiting in the 'these people be crazy' zone at the border, ostensibly they were looking out for my safety and such, but it really was quite silly).

Except for when I was child I've never 'confessed' my love for anyone, because my interest in almost any person has never been a secret.