Is it flirting if...?

[ohko]

Okay, the purpose of this thread is because apparently I have no idea what flirting is.

I was talking to one of my online friends, and she was explaining to me that telling a guy he's cute a lot = flirting.

Is this true? @Yo-chan is adorable for instance, but that doesn't count as flirting if I say that a lot, right??????

Can you give some examples of some things that you consider to be (and not to be) flirting?

 

[FriendlyDragon]

Oh no. Whether something is flirty or not can be so hard. It really depends on the person doing the flirting on whether or not it's flirty or not. Some people are really subtle and others are super direct. >w<

I think you calling someone cute a lot of times is fine as long as you do it to a lot of people. They can't think its flirting if it's just your personality.

 

[AKitsunex]

Can't really say, never had a lover, nor interested tbh. But I would say if they are in their own world teasing/complementing or talking about stuff only they know

 

[RepresentingSilence]

Men in general never get complemented so when a girl does complement them they will most likely feel like they're being flirted with or teased

 

[RepresentingCaution]

Flirting can be done for purely friendly intentions or to show interest. I'd say it still counts as flirting if you do it a lot. Don't be afraid to label it that way - it's no big deal!

Definition of FLIRT

to behave amorously without serious intent; to show superficial or casual interest or liking; also : experiment; to come close to reaching or experiencing something —used with with… See the full definition

www.merriam-webster.com

 

[Jemini]

Flirting is subjective.

My personal definition of flirting would be anything that might be done in a somewhat indirect or playful manner to draw potential romantic interest to oneself.

Complicated part, it can be called flirting in any of 3 scenarios. 1. The person performing the action means it to be flirting. 2. The person receiving the action perceives it to be flirting. 3. A 3rd party onlooker perceives it to be flirting.

That's a pretty darn loose definition. And, honestly, any creature that reproduces sexually will, on some subconscious level, perform every single action in their entire life based on attracting sexual attention to themselves. Therefore, it can be argued that if you are not expressing a direct intention to repel and reject a person and you are also not overtly and directly telling a person you are in love with them in blatant and direct overtures, then so long as you are within that grey inbetween area then literally anything you do with a person who fits your sexual attraction can be interpreted as flirting.

 

[Yorda]

@Yo-chan is adorable for instance, but that doesn't count as flirting if I say that a lot, right??????

Hmpf. So you think my alter ego is adorable huh. Sounds like you are toeing the line between saying the truth and flirting!

Every day I am trying to uncover what lays beyond the mask of a villainess! To find my true self! It seems that there is a lot of contradictory stuff going on inside me. I'm villainous and vile, but quite altruistic and empathetic. Although I pride myself on being an excellent and terrible example of sentient life, it turns out that I am only a smart idiot.

 

[BenJepheneT]

Hmpf. So you think my alter ego is adorable huh. Sounds like you are toeing the line between saying the truth and flirting!

Every day I am trying to uncover what lays beyond the mask of a villainess! To find my true self! It seems that there is a lot of contradictory stuff going on inside me. I'm villainous and vile, but quite altruistic and empathetic. Although I pride myself on being an excellent and terrible example of sentient life, it turns out that I am only a smart idiot.

at this point, @ohko calling @Yo-chan adorable sounds more like inner compassion than flirting tbh

 

[AliceShiki]

Mmmmmmmm, I'd say that it's only flirting if you make your intentions clear to the other party?

Like uhn... I honestly don't remember how my last boyfriend flirted with me because it's been over 2 years since then, but... I remember that he was obviously interested in me and that I could see that in his behavior.

So, I think anything can qualify as flirting for as long as you're making your interest on the other party clear. Calling somebody cute can totally be flirting... But it can totally not be either. I think it depends on the context and in the way you phrase things~