Is it common for people to see prostitutes?

[ohko]

The ohko spam continues. I might be having a problem.

Anyhow, the question for this thread was something I was thinking about. In a lot of classic American literature (e.g. Catcher in the Rye) and many others, particularly in the bildungsroman category (coming of age stories), there is often some kind of prostitution scene... or a mention of something like, "I can't believe you're a virgin. Let's go to the brothel so you can lose your virginity."

...Something something... something like that.

Another common trope is bachelor parties or bachelorette parties at strip clubs, pole dancing, gentleman's clubs, or whatever. Is this actually very common? Do people frequently visit these places? Have you been to one? What fraction of the population has been to one?

Is the trope just a trope or is it a real thing?

Also, have you been clubbing? @ohko has never been clubbing. Is it true that there are tons of drugs at night clubs?

 

[Jamminrabbit]

Short answer is yes. There are very few places in the United States where prostitution is legal. Nevada is one such place with several locations possessing a license to operate legal brothels . Escorts are also a thing, and people have used Craigslist for this purpose until the category was removed some years ago.

For the club question, it really depends on the club setting. From my experience, yes, there are drugs and whether or not it is done discreetly also depends on the location.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

My husband visited a brothel back when he was in the Navy.
I also have experience as an escort.
With all the stigma surrounding prostitution, it's hard to find accurate statistics.

I wanted to play "who's in my mouth" with people I already knew at a combined bachelor/bachelorette party, but we were so busy organizing the wedding itself that we never got around to doing that. Husband says maybe we can have a second wedding in ten years when we have more money, so maybe we'll do it then!

Anyway, here's a good resource for learning more about sex workers: https://swopusa.org/learn-about-sex-work/

 

[Thor]

I dont think its common but I can only speak about me and my social circle. Personally I never visited a brothel and I dont think any of my current friends did either. Of course there is the possibility that they might not be that open about it.

The only time I ever met people who visited a brothel from time to time and were pretty open about was back when I served in the armed forces.

I attended 4 bachelor parties and only once was a strip club involved. It might be more frequent in other countries with different cultures and customs. (I can only represent germany)

In regard of clubbing and drugs I wouldnt know, never was a big fan of other drugs than the legal ones. Well, weed isnt legal but never more than that and I wouldnt smoke weed if I plan to a club. I cant bring myself to trust the chemical stuff even less if I would acquire it from some shady guy at a club assuming that there is a guy. But I can assure you that someone is always high on 'something' in a club. It also depends on the club you are visiting, different clientele, different security.

"I can't believe you're a virgin. Let's go to the brothel so you can lose your virginity."

I wonder if that really was a thing at some point. I've only read once or twice something similar in some book but I cant really imagine it happening in the 'real world'.

edit:

I wanted to play "who's in my mouth" with people I already knew at a combined bachelor/bachelorette party, but we were so busy organizing the wedding itself that we never got around to doing that. Husband says maybe we can have a second wedding in ten years when we have more money, so maybe we'll do it then!

That fucking bold :D

 

[Vaerama]

Another common trope is bachelor parties or bachelorette parties at strip clubs, pole dancing, gentleman's clubs, or whatever. Is this actually very common? Do people frequently visit these places? Have you been to one? What fraction of the population has been to one?

Is the trope just a trope or is it a real thing?

Also, have you been clubbing? @ohko has never been clubbing. Is it true that there are tons of drugs at night clubs?

Historically speaking, syphilis was apparently considered to be enough of a problem that it's still specifically cited as having potentially stopping power to an immigration through a K1 Fiance visa (means their intended marriage destination is in the states, and they didn't choose any of the other options that I cannot speak on because I don't know what specific exceptions there might be for them) which is to say that it might have kept an immigrant from entering the United States entirely on the basis of having it (in the law, it's of an equivalent status to use of drugs in the foreign-born person. That said even if in practice the Embassy doctor *didn't* feel the need to stare at my husband's naughty bits (though they did make him remove his shirt, which to me is a bit skeegy since the signs on their own walls specifically said they wouldn't do that): the fact that they *could have* was pretty inherently stomach turning to me).

Ultimately, what this means is that syphilis, the 'classic' disease of whores and prostitutes, was such a common feature of potential immigration through marriage that it was considered valuable enough to screen/control its entry into the United States (that said, it was more due to perception/stigma than actual effect, as many laws are). It used to turn people into... really horrific canvases of lost body parts and dreadful... 'boils' just doesn't cover syphilis, it could leave skin looking like a checkerboard, and tear away at flesh until the skeleton showed from underneath. One of the primary concerns with seeing a street prostitute for centuries was whether she was visibly affected by syphilis... and once the women in these conditions had the disease (they were a *primary* vector, syphilis lead to the death of millions through prostitution (and a little note here for slave 'misuse', opium dens, brothels both legal and illicit, etc)): they typically stayed out on the street until they died as a result of the disease, for it would disfigure them *so totally* that the very prospect of marriage was almost entirely impossible.

It was a miserable thing, and yes: people saw prostitutes enough that it was like *wildfire* through every population it has ever touched.

The days of dying of a sexually transmitted disease are, luckily, mostly over. There's HIV still killing people, but we've come a long ways towards total cure: we've already got largely -functional- methods for staving off the disease's nastiest virility :)

I've got Don't Stop Me Now by Queen blazing even as I write this XD Yeah, prostitution's a thing. It wouldn't be a thing if it didn't work. It's always been a thing, and it always will be. It's *the* oldest 'profession' of humanity, and other animals in 'close' relation to us happen to share in this behavior (chimpanzees even do 'monied exchange' about it in a sense).

 

[Assurbanipal_II]

The ohko spam continues. I might be having a problem.

Anyhow, the question for this thread was something I was thinking about. In a lot of classic American literature (e.g. Catcher in the Rye) and many others, particularly in the bildungsroman category (coming of age stories), there is often some kind of prostitution scene... or a mention of something like, "I can't believe you're a virgin. Let's go to the brothel so you can lose your virginity."

...Something something... something like that.

Another common trope is bachelor parties or bachelorette parties at strip clubs, pole dancing, gentleman's clubs, or whatever. Is this actually very common? Do people frequently visit these places? Have you been to one? What fraction of the population has been to one?

Is the trope just a trope or is it a real thing?

Also, have you been clubbing? @ohko has never been clubbing. Is it true that there are tons of drugs at night clubs?

Please, for God’s sake, stop spamming us with such nonsense.

 

[Assurbanipal_II]

The ohko spam continues. I might be having a problem.

Anyhow, the question for this thread was something I was thinking about. In a lot of classic American literature (e.g. Catcher in the Rye) and many others, particularly in the bildungsroman category (coming of age stories), there is often some kind of prostitution scene... or a mention of something like, "I can't believe you're a virgin. Let's go to the brothel so you can lose your virginity."

...Something something... something like that.

Another common trope is bachelor parties or bachelorette parties at strip clubs, pole dancing, gentleman's clubs, or whatever. Is this actually very common? Do people frequently visit these places? Have you been to one? What fraction of the population has been to one?

Is the trope just a trope or is it a real thing?

Also, have you been clubbing? @ohko has never been clubbing. Is it true that there are tons of drugs at night clubs?

Btw, just curious, where do you hail from, ohko the spammer?

 

[ohko]

Btw, just curious, where do you hail from, ohko the spammer?

ohko hails from the united states!

Prostitution is illegal here (at least, in most states), which is why I find it odd that it addressed so much in classic American literature

 

[Jamminrabbit]

ohko hails from the united states!

Prostitution is illegal here (at least, in most states), which is why I find it odd that it addressed so much in classic American literature

It used to very common. Now, not so much in the US. Other parts of the world has better establishments for legalized sex workers.

 

[binarysoap]

Prostitution isn't legal in the united states, bar a few special places, but since when did legality stop people from doing things?

I mean drugs are illegal, and they are rather prevalent. I can assure you that there are definitely a lot of prostitution places in the united states, just not labeled as such. For example, there are a lot of "massage parlors" around my area, which are basically just brothels. And this is the US too.

 

[ohko]

Prostitution isn't legal in the united states, bar a few special places, but since when did legality stop people from doing things?

I mean drugs are illegal, and they are rather prevalent. I can assure you that there are definitely a lot of prostitution places in the united states, just not labeled as such. For example, there are a lot of "massage parlors" around my area, which are basically just brothels. And this is the US too.

oh this is another question, but before weed was legalized in some places... where did people get their drugs? How did people magically know who to talk to in order to acquire it? Is it just word-of-mouth?

 

[Jamminrabbit]

oh this is another question, but before weed was legalized in some places... where did people get their drugs? How did people magically know who to talk to in order to acquire it? Is it just word-of-mouth?

In the grand scheme of marijuana, medical marijuana has only been legalized a little less than three decades ago, recreational use only recently. Before medical hash was legalized, it is as you suspected-- by drug dealers. Post-medical marijuana legalization, people applied for medical use and bought it to use recreationally. In fact, it's still happening today in places that have legal medical, but illegal recreational.

 

[Discount_Blade]

My upbringing may be a special case but where I grew up, you could find prostitutes practically anywhere on any street in my neighborhood as long as you waited until 8:30-9 PM. Also, there were some that refused to "post up" in the street and preferred to work from home. So they would have a red light in their window which was something of a secret code for a prostitute living there. If you lived in a large apartment complex building with dozens and dozens of floors, then a red light wasn't very practical. Then it just became more of a factor concerning who you knew. Some of those people would have customers spread the word for them. Some were so physically attractive that they didn't need to advertise if they worked from home. Word spread by itself though I will say it was pretty rare to have a VERY atttactive prostitute. The ones that were are those who typically work from home seeing as the prettier ones have a tendency of being physically abused more often in comparison. Cant say that's normal, but it was where I lived.

So yeah, pretty common for me. Was friends with a few. Have never paid for their services but I have slept with them at parties and whatnot in a more casual manner rather then business. But alcohol and Mary Jane were free flowing all over so no surprise.

As for clubbing, me personally, if you mean strip club, never trust a stripper that offers her services In "that way" if she wants to go back to your place. Just dont. Otherwise, have fun be safe.

 

[AliceShiki]

The ohko spam continues. I might be having a problem.

Anyhow, the question for this thread was something I was thinking about. In a lot of classic American literature (e.g. Catcher in the Rye) and many others, particularly in the bildungsroman category (coming of age stories), there is often some kind of prostitution scene... or a mention of something like, "I can't believe you're a virgin. Let's go to the brothel so you can lose your virginity."

...Something something... something like that.

Another common trope is bachelor parties or bachelorette parties at strip clubs, pole dancing, gentleman's clubs, or whatever. Is this actually very common? Do people frequently visit these places? Have you been to one? What fraction of the population has been to one?

Is the trope just a trope or is it a real thing?

Also, have you been clubbing? @ohko has never been clubbing. Is it true that there are tons of drugs at night clubs?

Uhn... I don't have any personal direct experience with prostitution, but I know a few cases.

In the area my uncle lives, there is a high number of prostitutes that work out there in the streets pretty much every night... I know that because we could see them whenever we went to visit him. Sometimes a car stopped near them and she started talking to the person on the car, probably setting up prices or something, and sometimes she got into the car.

Talking about another uncle of mine, he took his son to a brothel when his son became 18. It was the birthday gift his son got... I dunno if the son requested for it or not though, I just know it happened.

Now talking about my brother, I dunno if he ever requested a prostitute's service or not, but I know he had a friend that was very horny and talked a lot about sex... So he and his friends got annoyed at him and decided to take him to see a prostitute to shut him up after experiencing the real thing.
... Funnily enough, that friend ended up coming out as gay some time after the experience. I dunno if it had any influence on it or not.


Regarding drugs, I really don't know much about it. I know one story that my mom went through back when she was a child though... Like, her parents advised her very heavily to never accept anything from strangers.

One day she was going to a party with her younger brother, and a guy offered her some white dust at the entrance... At that point she just ran away without looking back... And that's basically all I know about this story, because she never went into more detail than that, especially because she probably forgot all the details by now, it's been like... 50 years or something.

I also know a friend of my brother got really deep into this drug hole and was one of those children that had a bright future and kinda ruined it... I also know another friend worked as a vet, and he stole Morphine from the hospital to use it to drug himself. That's pretty much all I know about it.

So uhn... I don't really know if they run rampart in clubs and what not because I don't really know many stories about those...


Regarding Bachelor parties... Uhn... AFAIK they aren't even a thing over here tbh. People are usually pretty excited about their own marriage party, especially because those already cost a ton of money... They can't really afford to make yet another party to celebrate the end of their bachelor life or whatever... Like, geez, my cousin paid 20,000.00 USD in his marriage party, and my local currency is 5x weaker than USD... You really think he had enough money for a bachelor party? I can assure you he did not.


So uhn... Those are my experiences with those things I guess? Well, none of those are mine directly, only family experiences or experiences of friends of the family...

For the record, both of my uncles live in very poor areas and they aren't well-off at all. My brother and his friends OTOH are all on the upper end of middle class.

Ah, and my mom was also super poor back when she was a child. Like... Really really really poor.

 

[Shirokuma]

The answer for the majority is yes, at least in Brazil.

I've never been to one, most of Brazil's prostitution takes place in the open, and the parties are usually full of illegal drugs (except family ones).

 

[BenJepheneT]

I can only speak for the more tropical parts of southeast Asia.

There's no such things as brothels or strip clubs due to the strong presence of the MIGHTY ALLAH and the Al Quran, so sex workers pretty much have to do things discreetly. I've only seen them once or twice in my entire life so I can only speak from rumours spread among my friends.

They usually hang around the redlight district, usually where you can see all the immigrants working near makeshift sheds where they call home. Legend says if you can smell squid from where you stand, chances are that there's probably prostitutions going around in the area. How and where the prostitutes operate depends entirely on the customer. We don't have shit like love hotels (bless the Muslims) so it's either a motel or, as I said, makeshift shack.

In order to blend into the crowd and avoid getting arrested (sex working is illegal, btw), prostitutes usually go in groups and wear normal clothes you and your friends might put on in a trip to the mall. You could still spot em if you have a keen eye. Baggy eyes (shot from drugs), inward bending knees and pouty lips. At least that's what my friends tell me.

 

[gaylolis]

i don't really care. to me prostitues are just a waste of money and you might catch STDs.

2d waifus are the superior choice for me.

 

[ohko]

if you can smell squid

Why squid, out of curiosity?

 

[CupcakeNinja]

The ohko spam continues. I might be having a problem.

Anyhow, the question for this thread was something I was thinking about. In a lot of classic American literature (e.g. Catcher in the Rye) and many others, particularly in the bildungsroman category (coming of age stories), there is often some kind of prostitution scene... or a mention of something like, "I can't believe you're a virgin. Let's go to the brothel so you can lose your virginity."

...Something something... something like that.

Another common trope is bachelor parties or bachelorette parties at strip clubs, pole dancing, gentleman's clubs, or whatever. Is this actually very common? Do people frequently visit these places? Have you been to one? What fraction of the population has been to one?

Is the trope just a trope or is it a real thing?

Also, have you been clubbing? @ohko has never been clubbing. Is it true that there are tons of drugs at night clubs?

It happens alot. But sometimes the people hiring the stripper get carried away. I know a girl who had her engagement called off cuz a video of her and her bridesmaid fucking the male stripper they hired for their bachelorette party got circled around.

Another girl a friend knew was letting guys grope her and basically dry hump her in a sorta weird non-penetrative circle fuck. Her boyfriend broke up with her cuz his sister was at the party and recording the whole thing. The GF later claimed she was being molested/raped but it was clear she was letting the guys pat her and shit of her own accord. There were plenty of witnesses too.

My senior year a guy hired some strippers and ended up sleeping with one. EDIT i forgot to put in that his dad slept eith the same girl like a week later amd she ended up pregnant and no one knew who the father was. Got aborted, obviously. Good thing the dad was single...still tho...*yikes*

As for actual prostitutes i dont know they arentnlegal but i knownthaf dont stop people. A lot of us just call these prostitutes "girlfriends" and cops can't really do much about it.

Well you can call any BF/GF whores if you spend lots of money on them mainly for sex tho, so its a fine line there.

Yeah. It happens more than you think, people hiring strippers and shit and getting into trouble. Hot men/women and booze/drugs make for interesting bedfellows.

 

[AliceShiki]

It happens alot. But sometimes the people hiring the stripper get carried away. I know a girl who had her engagement called off cuz a video of her and her bridesmaid fucking the male stripper they hired for their bachelorette party got circled around.

I have to wonder how those things happen... Like... Why did she invite people that she didn't trust to her party? To the point they not only filmed it, but also sent it to her fiance when they knew he wasn't fine with this kind of thing?

Like, geez, think a bit before inviting people that don't care for your well-being to your party.

... Though I have to wonder what goes on the mind of someone about to get married that decides to have sex with a stripper... Like... Do you have no commitment to your fiance or something?

Another girl a friend knew was letting guys grope her and basically dry hump her in a sorta weird non-penetrative circle fuck. Her boyfriend broke up with her cuz his sister was at the party and recording the whole thing. The GF later claimed she was being molested/raped but it was clear she was letting the guys pat her and shit of her own accord. There were plenty of witnesses too.

And this one... Like, didn't she know that the her boyfriend's sister was there? Like... Geez, are you stupid? You're already cheating on him, but you'll also do it in front of his sister? So you're not only immoral, but also stupid... Geez...