I judge people who . . .

[RepresentingCaution]

Here's a thread where we talk about reasons we judge people and why. To be clear, we're talking about choices or behaviors and not things that are beyond a person's control such as the circumstances of their birth or their physical traits.

I judge people who have more kids than they wanted because they used the pull out method or no contraception at all. I have one kid, and he is 100% wanted. I want another one, but not yet, so my husband and I are using condoms until we decide we're ready for more. After the second one, I plan to get my tubes tied. I see myself as a responsible person, and I don't like to associate with people who strike me as irresponsible.

 

[Deleted member 58005]

I'd like to think myself as someone who isn't judgmental, but maybe that's just me putting up an image of myself I don't fully believe is true.

 

[Deeprotsorcerer]

I judge people who ask for the honest opinions of their audience, only to lash out when they get a whiff of negativity. Were you so confident in your prowess that you'd open yourself up to the truth and expect sugar and rainbows? Please. People dump on the "greats" like Steven King all. The. Time. Don't expect to be spared.

That said, as a creative that used to have skin as thin as paper (indeed, I used to have skin) I understand how much seeing your work receive anything short of glowing praise can hurt, if you want to grow in this art, though, you would do well to teach yourself a healthier way to handle constructive criticism. If you die every time someone tries to help you without holding your hand and coddling you, you stand no chance at all against the trolls and actual bullies that prowl the digital sea.

 

[Deleted member 54065]

Before I used to judge people once I get to know their circumstances. Nowadays, I stopped judging because I'm a lawyer and not a courtroom judge.

Seriously though, I still judge people based on what I observe and their circumstances, but the judgment I have is mine only and I use it to decide whether or not I will stay with this person.

Because yeah, there are people who are toxic, and there are people who are not toxic.

 

[MyukiMruieast]

I judge people who doesn't have any self-control.

 

[Irl_Rat]

My perception of reality has become utterly warped. Generally someone could outright jerk off in the middle of the street, but if they were confident and self-aware, I would just call them based and moved on.

What matters is how confident and self aware someone is, self awareness being more important. Know what you want, how your actions pertain to that goal, and why you do what you do. Doesn't matter if you're ruining your own life as long as you understand the ramification of your actions and minimize the impact on other people.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

My perception of reality has become utterly warped. Generally someone could outright jerk off in the middle of the street, but if they were confident and self-aware, I would just call them based and moved on.

What matters is how confident and self aware someone is, self awareness being more important. Know what you want, how your actions pertain to that goal, and why you do what you do. Doesn't matter if you're ruining your own life as long as you understand the ramification of your actions and minimize the impact on other people.

And that's another reason why I judge people who have more kids than they want. Kids don't deserve to be stuck with parents who don't want them.

 

[YS_og]

I judge people who are quick to judge others and do so in an unfair or irrational manner. Don't even have to get to know someone to know who they really are based on that kind of behavior IMO

 

[greyblob]

question since I'm genuinely confused: by judging do you mean have a negative opinion about someone?

 

[Aaqil]

People with no situational awareness, they are one of the greatest pains I have to deal with everyday, :(
And it isn't even things you could forgive them for not noticing, not when there's a gif telling what to do, yet they still assume the command actually searches for them! It's obvious it just tells them how to search, but they still assume after several tries, that it searches for them! :(((

 

[Gryphon]

I judge people when they say to not do one thing but then they turn right back around and do it themselves. My parents taught me to never associate with people like that, not from word of mouth, but because I notice they're some of the most massive hypocrites I've ever known. So, yeah, my parents actually did teach me something.

 

[ThrillingHuman]

I judge people who get into other's business without being asked, especially when they clearly have problems of their own requiring an urgent attention

 

[NotaNuffian]

question since I'm genuinely confused: by judging do you mean have a negative opinion about someone?

That depends but yes. After all, judging someone is to put them on a scale like meat for sale.

Fun fact is that after a ton of self reflection and no resolution to fix my own mistakes, I no longer have the capabilities to judge people.

I just hate every single one that I meet, especially the one I always see in the mirror.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

question since I'm genuinely confused: by judging do you mean have a negative opinion about someone?

We can make positive judgements about people, too. I have a favorable opinion of people who breastfeed their children for two years or longer:

Impact of Infant Feeding Methods on the Development of Autism Spectrum Disorder

There is strong and convincing evidence that infant’s sensory stimulation, which is associated with breastfeeding, contributes significantly to the infant’s neurodevelopment. Our study compared the prevalence of autism spectrum disorder (ASD) in children who were breastfed, given breast milk...

www.intechopen.com

 

[Deleted member 19066]

I often turn on people that use the word "obviously", in a conversation.

 

[YS_og]

We can make positive judgements about people, too. I have a favorable opinion of people who breastfeed their children for two years or longer:

Impact of Infant Feeding Methods on the Development of Autism Spectrum Disorder

There is strong and convincing evidence that infant’s sensory stimulation, which is associated with breastfeeding, contributes significantly to the infant’s neurodevelopment. Our study compared the prevalence of autism spectrum disorder (ASD) in children who were breastfed, given breast milk...

www.intechopen.com

In that case, I can say I positively judge people who see someone drop something, spill something, or fall in public and they help them rather than look or whip out a phone to record.

But for your statement, does that mean you negatively view those who only do so for a year or less?

 

[NobleTalon]

I judge people who read gender benders

*cough*

I judge the selfish and egocentric people who aren't loyal and don't hesitate to betray their entourage for mere personal or material gains.

 

[Ilikewaterkusa]

Here's a thread where we talk about reasons we judge people and why. To be clear, we're talking about choices or behaviors and not things that are beyond a person's control such as the circumstances of their birth or their physical traits.

I judge people who have more kids than they wanted because they used the pull out method or no contraception at all. I have one kid, and he is 100% wanted. I want another one, but not yet, so my husband and I are using condoms until we decide we're ready for more. After the second one, I plan to get my tubes tied. I see myself as a responsible person, and I don't like to associate with people who strike me as irresponsible.

We should judge people simple as.

 

[Jemini]

I judge people who resort to ad-homonym attacks or otherwise throw a fit when they are on the loosing end of an argument. Beyond the obvious point that it's a clear sign they really have lost, I find this kind of behavior really shitty.

I am speaking from personal relationship experience on this one BTW. My ex just kept treating me unfairly, and then I would point out their shitty behavior and make a rock-solid case about it. They admitted they were wrong every time I brought it up, but then they started resenting me for always being right and complained that every time we get into an argument I come out of it as the winner and they come out of it feeling like shit.

Well, the subject of the argument is your bad behavior toward me. You should feel like shit.

(Yeah, I think you can see why this person is my ex and no longer in a relationship here.)

 

[Squirrel]

Judge one right?
I think I actually don't judge or even if I do, I do comparisons first. I compair myself with them and keep my opinions to me.

The people who live around me always judge me as they like and throw their opinions towards me. But the funny thing is I am definitely not like they said, even I am 360° turned sometimes and it really make myself look like a villain to me . So from them I learned how one's judgement towards others can be burdens. I'd stopped doing it since.