i have compassion fatigue please cheer me up

[COLOC_Kid]

I have used up all my love. i need help. i feel empty.

 

[Tessa_Renalds]

Compassion fatigue is rough; sometimes one can only take things one day at a time. I know when I get overwhelmed or burnt out I go for a walk. I look to the sky, see the clouds, listen to the birds chirp or the dogs barking. I hope you feel better. Take care of yourself.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

“The more you love, the more you can love--and the more intensely you love. Nor is there any limit on how many you can love. If a person had time enough, he could love all of that majority who are decent and just.”​

― Robert A. Heinlein

 

[RepresentingCaution]

Compassion fatigue is rough; sometimes one can only take things one day at a time. I know when I get overwhelmed or burnt out I go for a walk. I look to the sky, see the clouds, listen to the birds chirp or the dogs barking. I hope you feel better. Take care of yourself.

Many people say you need to love yourself first before you can love others. Think of self care as recharging your battery <3

 

[PunishedKom]

I feel this way every day lately to the extent where I find myself unable to care about the things that I probably should...

 

[CupcakeNinja]

I have used up all my love. i need help. i feel empty.

Congratulations. You're an adult

 

[Deleted member 45782]

What is compassion fatigue?

 

[COLOC_Kid]

What is compassion fatigue?

It is when you become detached also known as secondary traumatic stress. you get it from trying to help people.

 

[Deleted member 45782]

It is when you become detached also known as secondary traumatic stress. you get it from trying to help people.

Oh. I'm srry to hear that. :(
I feel like sometimes going out walks by self or looking at nature. Hobbies. Something to refocus on yourself so you can collect your thoughts and have room for positivity again?

 

[COLOC_Kid]

Many people say you need to love yourself first before you can love others. Think of self care as recharging your battery <3

thanks

Oh. I'm srry to hear that. :(
I feel like sometimes going out walks by self or looking at nature. Hobbies. Something to refocus on yourself so you can collect your thoughts and have room for positivity again?

thanks

 

[COLOC_Kid]

Many people say you need to love yourself first before you can love others. Think of self care as recharging your battery <3

it's hard to do that since I promised to put others ahead of myself.

 

[High-in-the-skys]

Well a simple solution to that is wake up early, eat, play with yourself, don't talk to people, go in places where you're alone, sleep and dream. Wait, isn't that my lifestyle?!

Just kidding, maybe you just need a 'me' time. You've probably looked at other people that you forgot to look at yourself.

I could suggest that you read some creation novels, especially the neutral ones. Not the kind person or the evil one, something like '4.6 Billion Year Symphony of Evolution'. It helps you forget those feelings or stress by not looking at things we always see. And yes, I was inspired by your thread to compile the creation novels I know. The recommendation is at my signature below.

 

[Deleted member 45782]

Well a simple solution to that is wake up early, eat... don't talk to people, go in places where you're alone, sleep and dream.

Just kidding, maybe you just need a 'me' time. You've probably looked at other people that you forgot to look at yourself.

Tbh...that really hits the feels..
Thu I guess I already am doing that by spending away my time on SH forum XD

 

[Reisinling]

I suggest a bowl of spaghetti noodles.
Then play dota, that will make you realise, the world is trash, people don't deserve compassion, and humanity is doomed. -> You no longer feel compassion fatigue, as you no longer have any!
Thank you, that will be 900$ for medical advice (which this post is not for legal reasons)

 

[COLOC_Kid]

I suggest a bowl of spaghetti noodles.
Then play dota, that will make you realise, the world is trash, people don't deserve compassion, and humanity is doomed. -> You no longer feel compassion fatigue, as you no longer have any!
Thank you, that will be 900$ for medical advice (which this post is not for legal reasons)

that would just depersonalize me even more.

 

[namio]

Here. My cat is very cute and she's the light of my life whenever I have to spend yet another week existing with my family. 100% unproblematic. She does her pooping and peeing in the litter box, only meows when she wants you to open the door, and doesn't even complain if you stick your face onto her stomach.






That aside, though, I understand that sense of emptiness from compassion fatigue... Do try to take care of yourself as in eating enough, drinking plenty of water, and getting as much rest as you can. Taking a walk is sometimes physically a drag, but it's at least an experience different from sitting down and feeling empty. Perhaps get some snacks you like? Sometimes, I make getting random snacks an excuse to take a morning walk... Reading an "unproblematic" novel might also help; the less you think about complicated relationships, the less you have to think about it. More humorous or at least comfortable shows, novels, podcasts, anything might also be good as a distraction... Recently I've been just putting on a game livestream by someone who doesn't yell and whose chat is civil. Then I don't even watch it, I just lie down and close my eyes LOL

Compassion for yourself is a good term but sometimes hard to visualize. Sometimes, what you need is reaching out to others, but unless they're capable of meeting you halfway and understand what you need, it's even more of a downer... If such a friend is unavailable for you, then it's really second best to just lie down and do nothing (to a certain degree!). Taking care of yourself is, in short, a long-term strategy. If you want to put it in a bad way, if you burn out permanently here, then that's the entirety of your "career" of compassion towards others.

Thank you, though. Compassion fatigue is excruciating, but the fact that you've tried your best to help people, I thank you. That being said, you are also a person, and thus worthy of equal amount of help. If you were to treat yourself as someone else, what would you say to them?

 

[Moonpearl]

These Positive Pokemon Affirmations by Fable Fire (https://fablefire.tumblr.com/) always help me:

Spoiler: Many images

Simple feel-good films are my go-to, too. I personally like Barbie films for full wholesome recharge but, if that's not your thing, "Strange Magic" is a little more "mature".

Spoiler: Some wholesome Barbie

If you're not put off by ASMR, it's also extremely effective for comfort. Latte especially is one of the best for creating a soothing atmosphere.

Spoiler: Some comforting ASMR

 

[Deleted member 45782]

I hereby present you, my turtle smile :D

Spoiler: Smile, they say...

He doesn't mind kissing away your worries too ;)

Spoiler: Give a Kiss Kiss

And never fear, if today you don't feel like being an angel, he'll help you babysit that feels for you XD

Spoiler: Either Shat an Angel or He's Babysitting One...