How to Write Romance and Child Raising in a Fantasy Novel

IsseiVeskitos

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Currently, the wife of the main character of my story is pregnant but I am lost for romance and after the delivery of the baby do you have any tips?
 

Representing_Tromba

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Can't help you with the romance stuff but I can help with the child-raising stuff as the oldest of 10. First of all, they are going to make lots of mistakes(the parents, not the baby. It's a baby. If they make mistakes then it's on the parents). The mother will most likely be very tired after the birth with a fair bit of emotional issues due to imbalanced hormones. Write it with patience as emotional outbursts will happen at the drop of a pin but never without reason. For example, seeing something really cute and it triggering tears. Have her SO comfort her unless if you want the SO to be a selfish ass. The hormone imbalance usually only lasts 2-3 weeks. After that, the baby may start to take in its surroundings but it won't be able to go anywhere so it will mainly sleep, nurse(It will do this a lot), and poop. Crawling usually starts between 4 and 6 months depending on the baby. Once they begin to crawl certain items will have to be put up and certain doors kept shut. Stairs should also be covered with a gate. they will cry if anything is wrong but most issues babies have involve being uncomfortable in some way, shape, or form. Being hungry, being tired, having gas, and pooping will all result in crying. Hell, sometimes fixing the issue may result in crying because taking care of the problem made them temporarily more uncomfortable.
 
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WeissBlatt

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They say life is the best teacher. Go start a family. Just kidding.
My advice would be: don't focus on depicting all of what Paul said in excruciating detail (your readers may get bored) but rather, make sure the glimpses you show are realistic.
 

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I would love to give you more advice since I have an actual kid, but I have an actual kid, so I don't have much free time left before my parents drop him back off at home.
 

CCmei

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IDK about writing but reading? Hmmmm....Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.

She's pregnant? Oh boy time for some REAL WORLD PROBLEMS. Cravings. Hormones. Everything hurts. Everything is awful. Take her character and PUT HER IN ALL THOSE SCENARIOS.

Now the real test. Your boi.

HOW MAN IS HE TO HANDLE IT?!!?

Joking tone aside, this is a real tester for your couple and their character development. If the "Love" disappears with a kid and the reality of time, then it was never love in the first place. How are they both addressing each other is partners in life, in this milestone situation? If she's craving a seedless watermelon at 3 am and crying about it, who is he and what is he going to do about it? It says a lot about a person and their relationship in those little things.

As for when the kid is born, that's a whole new set of problems and fun to explore. Your baseline characters and their relationship should be the same. It's just in another situation or scenario. Maybe love isn't a KABEDON OF PASSION anymore. It's saying "I'll get it" at 6am when your spouse is tired, your baby together is wailing, and you're so in love with this person and having a life together you'll take the baby splatter. It's the softness of waking up confused about where you are or where your loved one is to find them softly mid-action caring. Or it's sneaking that 3pm nap time to KABEDON REIGNITE THAT PASSIONS IN THE CLOSET, idk give the kid a sibling.

A lot of fun things to do. There's no one right way or anything. Just think about your characters and what they would do in all these scenarios that come with making a whole new little human and adding them into your lives together. Choosing this life, this 'family'. You choose to make a family with them, everyday, with all your love.
 
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