How to write a traumatized male character

[Heartlock]

I want my main love interest for my story to be so traumatized that even a god can’t make him interested in sex or physical relations. Please help

 

[Cipiteca396]

Make him asexual. Sex is gross anyways. You don't need to justify it.

 

[dummycake]

Make him asexual. Sex is gross anyways. You don't need to justify it.

that doesn't make him traumatized, that's just his orientation.

 

[Cipiteca396]

that doesn't make him traumatized, that's just his orientation.

Being traumatized is unnecessary.

Or very simple. Just have a six year old say 'small pp' when they're children. Bam, instant trauma.

 

[Deleted member 84247]

Carefully.

 

[Hans.Trondheim]

I want my main love interest for my story to be so traumatized that even a god can’t make him interested in sex or physical relations. Please help

I dunno if my experience will help.

I was raised in a Christian conservative family, with our religious mother and two sisters. Growing up, I was interested in sex and having a girlfriend, but believe it or not, when I finally got one, we stayed virgins (or at least, me) till we broke up 12 years later. This is because I believe in the sanctity of marriage (marriage first before sex), combined with my mother's words, my sisters (I don't want anyone to f*ck around with them then leave them later on, so I do likewise) and also my respect for my ex and her parents.

Whatever it was that led to our breakup is for another story.

Any case, moving on, I became a public school teacher. In my interactions with students, there came a time when I stood as an 'impromptu guidance counselor' coz our guidance is lazy and useless. Students would open up their troubles to me, that I got to learn lots of molestation and rape cases among my charges. It culminated to the point where I went against a co-teacher of mine coz he raped one of our students, and when he was exposed, threatened to kill me.

Lost job for years (higher-ups are angry at me, instead of the rapist), combined with the pandemic. When I finally got to return to my former work (public school teacher in a different city division), once again, I became a magnet for students opening up their problems...and it's same old things again.

Hence, I swore to myself to avoid stuff like those irl. I don't want someone's trust broken on me, and I also have respect for my duty as an educator.

It's not I completely lost the interest, but my traumas in dealing with those tragedies eventually stuck in my mind.

 

[Heartlock]

I dunno if my experience will help.

I was raised in a Christian conservative family, with our religious mother and two sisters. Growing up, I was interested in sex and having a girlfriend, but believe it or not, when I finally got one, we stayed virgins (or at least, me) till we broke up 12 years later. This is because I believe in the sanctity of marriage (marriage first before sex), combined with my mother's words, my sisters (I don't want anyone to f*ck around with them then leave them later on, so I do likewise) and also my respect for my ex and her parents.

Whatever it was that led to our breakup is for another story.

Any case, moving on, I became a public school teacher. In my interactions with students, there came a time when I stood as an 'impromptu guidance counselor' coz our guidance is lazy and useless. Students would open up their troubles to me, that I got to learn lots of molestation and rape cases among my charges. It culminated to the point where I went against a co-teacher of mine coz he raped one of our students, and when he was exposed, threatened to kill me.

Lost job for years (higher-ups are angry at me, instead of the rapist), combined with the pandemic. When I finally got to return to my former work (public school teacher in a different city division), once again, I became a magnet for students opening up their problems...and it's same old things again.

Hence, I swore to myself to avoid stuff like those irl. I don't want someone's trust broken on me, and I also have respect for my duty as an educator.

It's not I completely lost the interest, but my traumas in dealing with those tragedies eventually stuck in my mind.

Thank you for sharing this personal experience with, I believe this will help me . I hope that you find peace with this cruel world because you sound very deserving of love and acceptance. Please have a good life.

Make him asexual. Sex is gross anyways. You don't need to justify it.

I want him to be straight, sorry