How good are you at socializing?

[Deleted member 42060]

I usually take the first move because if I don’t, no one will approach me. And because of that, I’ve gotten slightly good at initiating the first conversation, but when it comes to keeping it consistent, that’s where I get easily exhausted. How about you? Are you so good at socializing that you can practically influence people effortlessly?​

 

[CarburetorThompson]

Doesn’t matter how good you are if you never get the chance to meet anyone. Corona Virus has isolated me so much that I have still yet to recover any meaningful relationships. Don’t think I’ve actually hung out with anyone for two years, but all my old friends are just a bunch of low life junkies now working dead end jobs. So what should I care.

 

[Representing_Tromba]

I have to socialize a lot for my job so it isn't that hard for me and it usually is swell. That, and I socialize a lot with my fellow staff a lot. However, socializing takes it out of me more than anything so I am burnt out after a couple conversations or games.

 

[Zoey]

I used to be good a socializing. Now after two years of inactivity I’ve become 90% feral and cannot be reintegrated into society.

 

[Deleted member 87036]

I have an enormous inferiority complex and is constantly afraid of socializing with people. I am terrified of people judging me and I feel like like I will be nothing but a huge disappointment in other people's eyes.

 

[K_Jira]

I think too much about people's opinions of me that I chickened out from socializing with new people or not-to-familiar acquaintances most of the time.

 

[kalonphaos]

I'm a bit introverted but I've gotten better at socializing. I think having a GF also helps because now I've also met people in her circle too.

 

[ConansWitchBaby]

I bulldozed through being an introvert by forcing myself to take a public speaking class. Money was on the line. I guess that's why I took it seriously.

 

[georgelee5786]

Socializing is like a drug to me. I don't even think about doing it.

 

[A.P.R.L.]

I can approach people and keep a conversation no problem, but I usually don't want to, so I only do it when I have to or when I'm actually interested in the other person. It's surprisingly easier especially considering I used to be very shy and had no clue about social norms and the like.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

effortlessly?​

There's no such thing as socializing effortlessly. It must be done carefully.

 

[EternalSunset0]

Terrible at socializing, but I sometimes do make the first move when I find someone that has a common ground with me with a casual, "oh, you like X too?"

Stuff like music playlists, a random reference said in passing, sports wallpapers, or anime accessories are good for that matter. I can't count how many people became my acquaintances/friends because I happened to see them do stuff like watch anime/read manga, read up on sports reports, play trading cards/video games, etc in public. Or played with them in a computer shop/tabletop store.

Heck, most of my current friends started that way.

 

[Irl_Rat]

I normally put on the facade of being a well adjusted and likeable person. But the moment someone starts showing signs that they're deep in internet "culture," I revert to behaving like a goblin.

 

[SakeVision]

I'm great at socializing, but not good at maintaining friendships long-term

 

[SternenklarenRitter]

Infrequently but usually once or twice a year, I have short but polite conversations with strangers. At least, I detected neither rudeness nor hostility from them, and did not intend to give such impression to them either. In less than a minute they suddenly run away from me screaming, and I never have any idea what I said to offend or frighten them.

 

[Amok]

There's no such thing as socializing effortlessly. It must be done carefully.

not true. go for the throat and to hell with the consequences. most effective method is by asserting dominance: only bathe once a year, always snarl and bark at anyone who makes eye contact and make sure your spiciest farts are released on elevators or in meeting rooms.

I bulldozed through being an introvert by forcing myself to take a public speaking class. Money was on the line. I guess that's why I took it seriously.

i mean when i was young i acted in plays and did all kinda public things but was/am still an introvert(i think, these labels don't really... eh i'm not getting into semantics here, i've wasted enough of my life on another forum doing that and i stopped it, anyway...)

so i think public is actually easier than personal, public you merely have to appeal to the common denominator. cross culture/language tho this will not always be the case, some situation can turn into a clusterfuck(all depending on situation ofc, i'm way better with public leisure wise than i was at work, i mean i don't like bossing people around so in those type of situations my heart simply isn't in it. in terms of art tho, just go out there to have a good time and chances are more than half the people will share in your joy, we humans are emotional like that)

 

[Deleted member 42060]

why is it that introverts that can talk to anyone confidently while feeling weirdly or ironically anti-social emanate this chad aura

"oh yeah i am introvert, but i can do public speaking effortlessly, and i can socialize with just about anyone—but im introverted!! don't forget that!! im not extroverted!!"

 

[ConansWitchBaby]

why is it that introverts that can talk to anyone confidently while feeling weirdly or ironically anti-social emanate this chad aura

"oh yeah i am introvert, but i can do public speaking effortlessly, and i can socialize with just about anyone—but im introverted!! don't forget that!! im not extroverted!!"

95% of the time I'm never going to see them again. Even in passing. The other 5% must be avoided like a plague is doing its best to sexually arouse you. I never count business transactions as "socializing" since I'm blunt. Tell me everything relevant and I will never care how Fido knows how to sit on command. Just do things, receive things, money, end.

Think of it as random internet writing+. Nobody knows who you are. IRL they won't know anything about you either after the only interaction you'd have with them. In the off chance they do...R.I.P. Housing is cheap if I move an hour away...

 

[RepresentingCaution]

not true. go for the throat and to hell with the consequences. most effective method is by asserting dominance: only bathe once a year, always snarl and bark at anyone who makes eye contact and make sure your spiciest farts are released on elevators or in meeting rooms.

*takes notes*

 

[Fox-Trot-9]

I'm the gweat and the tewwible of socializing. In other words, I'm either too good that I fuck up or I just fuck up.