Have you fallen in (romantic) love before?

[BubbleC]

So, I’m not sure if I’m aromantic or something, but I haven’t fallen in love or had a real crush on anyone yet.

For those who have, what is it like? Did your love work out?
For those who haven’t, do you want to fall in love? What do you imagine it to be like?

Just a curious bubble hoping to understand the mating traditions of humans.

 

[owotrucked]

So that's your idea of shitposting to get a custom title lol...

The crushes I had were mostly lust lol.

I hate the idea of putting up with someone's bullshit and I feel too sorry for anyone who have to put up with mine.

 

[BubbleC]

So that's your idea of shitposting to get a custom title lol...

The crushes I had were mostly lust lol.

I hate the idea of putting up with someone's bullshit and I feel too sorry for anyone who have to put up with mine.

I was going to post another thread about cup sizes and talk about how I loved a good 8 oz mug, but I stopped myself. As expected, my temperament just isn't chaotic enough to go full shitpost.

 

[Agentt]

I am in love with an imaginary waifu, it seems.
The End.

 

[Alkareel]

I liked this girl I've known for two weeks. (Before covid story)
We literally spent 60-70% of the full hours of that time chatting online. We even went out a couple of times. I was so smitten with her, it was the first I've felt so much for someone. Sometime after the first three days, I had already told her I was falling in like(lol) with her.
Round the 12th day, I suddenly stopped receiving replies. She'd reply to my morning message late in the evening, and it got worse the day after. Boy, that felt incredibly painful the second day after. And on the third day after, it all ended. (There are specifics I won't get into.)
That's it. We only spent like two weeks together but the first ten days didn't even feel like we were apart. After that, I spent a few months with a bottle in hand wondering, was it all one-sided?
This is all from the view of a conservative asian male that hasn't ever had a deeper relationship than this.

 

[BubbleC]

I liked this girl I've known for two weeks. (Before covid story)
We literally spent 60-70% of the full hours of that time chatting online. We even went out a couple of times. I was so smitten with her, it was the first I've felt so much for someone. Sometime after the first three days, I had already told her I was falling in like(lol) with her.
Round the 12th day, I suddenly stopped receiving replies. She'd reply to my morning message late in the evening, and it got worse the day after. Boy, that felt incredibly painful the second day after. And on the third day after, it all ended. (There are specifics I won't get into.)
That's it. We only spent like two weeks together but the first ten days didn't even feel like we were apart. After that, I spent a few months with a bottle in hand wondering, was it all one-sided?
This is all from the view of a conservative asian male that hasn't ever had a deeper relationship than this.

This is what makes love so mysterious to me. How can people risk so much and give their hearts out to a stranger? The only people I love (not romantically) are my family because they've been with me my entire life. I can't imagine how people can meet with a stranger, fall in love, and trust them enough to start a family. I guess that's the beauty of life though.

Also, sorry to hear about that man. Hope you're doing well.

IDK if it was romantic love. I sure hope it wasn't . but it sure was something . and it was fucked up.(the whole scenario. ) no more description would be provided.
Though post your theories below

Sounds like the synopsis to some psychological, horror love story lol

 

[Wohendum-Bluu]

I've had two relationships in my life. One in person, the other long-distance. Amusingly enough, both women were sisters, though I didn't actually know this at first even though I DID assume they were related somehow since they knew a lot of the same people.

In the end, the one in person didn't work out because I discovered I'm very vengeful when wronged, or thinking I was wronged. The girl in question made me a promise, one that I took extremely seriously, and it was broken. It was a very important meeting with some associates, I was extremely nervous and needed emotional support. She swore to come and then didn't. She blew me off to hang with friends and go see a movie. She refused to apologize and tried to lay the entirety of the blame on me when I proceeded to not speak to her for a full week. She even used the stereo typical "all men" bullshit. This when I also discovered I am not a gentleman. If you act like a man and hit me, I will treat you like one and hit your ass back.

She punched me in the throat when the argument got heated. Once I got my breathing back under order, she hit me in the throat which left me breathless for a few minutes, I chased her down and proceeded to break her nose and then black an eye. I made sure I had photographic proof of her attack since she bruised me pretty good, and there were also witnesses who vouched for me since it was in a park. Coincidentally, or perhaps luckily, there was no one to witness my retaliation and I threatened her into dropping the case she attempted against me because I just so happened to also discover some unrelated information that I would not have hesitated to use to ruin her professional life. I feel no guilt. She struck me first, and then when bested, she was willing to try and ruin my private and professional reputation in court out of vindictive spite. Equal rights and equal lefts and all that other meme-ness crap about gender-equality.

Ladies, you either believe in equality for the 2 genders and ALL that this entails, or none of it. There is no middle-ground.

The long-distance one is less interesting. She just so happened to be the younger sister of the other whom I met at a meeting, though unrelated to the actual work. She was apparently estranged from the rest of her family though I don't know why. Just never came up In conversation m and I wasn't particularly interested in her past. We decided to date, but two weeks in she had to leave for a year for work related reasons. We decided to go long-distance until she returned. Nothing really happened to end it. We just stopped messaging slowly but surely, and by the time she returned, she was with someone else she had met during that year absence and I wasn't even interested. She had been back for 4 months and had been dating this guy for 7-8 months and were engaged and I didn't even learn anything of it until a week after their marriage. I just hadn't bothered to remain in even the most distant stages of communication.

She claims I was the reason we drifted and she found someone else, and I can accept that shes probably right and it was my fault. Still it worked out in the end. She's happy and I'm happy for her. I've also discovered I'm just not particularly interested in romance. Love reading about it. Watching it on television. But actually experiencing it always seems to fail to live up to expectations. There was never any "holy shit she's the one" moment for me. No "pink vision" or whatever. I mostly just thought hey shes beautiful, guess I'll ask her out. That was the beginning of all my dating choices.

Real life dating and romance just doesn't seem to carry over as something as amazing as it is made out to be in fiction. Or perhaps I just haven't met someone I genuinely fell hopelessly in love with? Idk.

 

[Motsu]

Once loved an electronic device... no regrets.

 

[bigbear51]

Can't say that I've ever fallen in love. Ironic, since I only ever seem to write romances these days. So if people want to complain about my works not "getting" a relationship, then go right ahead.

 

[owotrucked]

This is what makes love so mysterious to me. How can people risk so much and give their hearts out to a stranger?

Feelings aren't logical. They are a necessary incentives for people to put up with strangers to form bonds that aren't purely for convenience.

Some people are able to overwrite their feelings with their head while it's the opposite for others.

 

[EternalSunset0]

Romantic love? Nope. Never had any sort of relationship. Completely clueless about love and such. I feel it's too much of a responsibility and sacrifice to fall in love with someone, so I don't bother committing. I can kinda imagine being in a relationship, but those images involve me having to sacrifice social media/game/writing/anime time to be with her, helping her with finances or whatever ventures she wants, or to joining/supporting her in whatever fad she gets into, and I don't like those. I prefer having complete control of my time and activities.

There's also the issue with clingy girls or those who pry into everything you do online. Nope.

The closest thing I have though is admitting I have a crush on someone, but nothing ever came out of those.

I have some close female friends, and I enjoy their company. But the closest thing I have with them in terms of relationships are playing third wheel and some mild teasing regarding their boyfriends.

 

[ArcadiaBlade]

Mine's kinda like an anime-like senario but closer to a soap opera.

I met this girl at like elementary school and we were in a hateful relationship due to me being a bully and had harrassed one of her friends. She kinda retaliated and drop some facts into my mind since all I thought was that strength was power type of sht.

As for why I was a bully, its probably due to neglect and often hanging out with bad people that my perspective was kinda warped and thought that being strong can welcome arrogance into the field. However, after laying words are better, I kinda slowly change my arrogance to hatred and proceed to find a way to get my revenge.

On my vengence, I was caught in with multiple girls who had develop feelings for me but it was later on that they kinda confess which I will tell later. Since this story from here purely focuses on me and this girl.

However, she kinda transfered out a year and return when we are almost graduating from elementary and my feelings from vengence kinda turned to curiousity and because I was always staring at her to look for a plan to get revenge, I actually develop feelings for her. And through some stupid stuff and whatnot, she kinda found out I like her but isn't into me(since she thinks I was still on getting revenge and whatnot).

Yet, after turning into highschool, instead of chasing after her, I kinda stumble on another girl who develop feelings for me. Quirky and well-liked around the class and me being introvert(wanting to make amends of my bullying and wanted to be alone), she started spending time with me and at first I was a bit annoyed but I treat her well since my mom doesn't want me to hurt girls at all. However, I didn't notice that she actually develop feelings for me and right as the year before she transfered out, she kinda confessed her feelings which I naturally turned her down.

And while that episode of her was done, in the middle of it was one of the girl my elementary who liked me spark a relationship of ours.

This girl is actually someone who developed feelings for me but didn't know what it was at first since well, she barely knew what love was. She was actually part of the group whom I'm bullied in the past but after changing, she wanted to get her revenge on me and found out a secret that I wasn't resistent to a girl's charm(at that time i just discovered porn for the first time and my worldview kinda change). So she and this other girl(also likes me) formed a group of girls and begins to harrass me throughout the elementary years.

As for why she was here, well, she did develop feelings for me but it was only at most an infatuation that I was different from the other kids.

The other girl who like me was just at most has feelings for me but at that time we were only close due to hateful of each other and even after confessing that she liked me, I only thought of it as being one of her schemes. In the end, we kinda settle the differences and she kinda told me her feelings again which I was finally shocked and rejected her because I like another girl.

Sophomore, two transfer students shows up and both of them were sisters who were still new to school. Most of the guys often flirted with them but at the end, they only made it awkward to get along. However, because I tend to be a lone wolf and often go on my own way, they use this to get along with me and me who had nothing to do with them, decided to form a bond between classmates. However, it seems one of the sisters had develop a crush on me and found me funny instead of cool and kinda asked me out which I just rejected her at the end since I wasn't into relationship.

Junior year and I just got news that my crush had an illness and was about to be transfered out which I wanted to head out and maybe confess my feelings for her before leaving. While leaving, my brother asked to where I was going and after telling him where, he just blantantly told me that meeting with a cousin was fine.

After hearing the word cousin, my mind clicked and a whole new realization hits as I was the only one who didn't know but found out a relationship between us were kinda suspicious. At the end, I didn't see her leaving and I was too preoccupied of the dawn of realization of knowing the truth.

As to why she was nice and not see me as an rival, at how she always brush off the notion of love of me and her and finally, at how related we are after constantly meeting with an elder brother of ours.

The impact was so shocking that I kinda lost the feeling of love and decided that I didn't fall for any other trap of being in love with someone whose related to me.

And thats the end of my love story.

 

[someguysomeone]

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this one is pretty good description.

basically comforting each other through shit life throws at us.
It's most important is about sharing experiences.
Like happy sad weird or fucked up experiences .

laughing while watching paraodies and crying while watching comedies

And most importantly
"Though both of us will die one day and this life is useless anyway.
when you are here by my side it will feel like it will be ok"
It's not real love till you do existentialism together .
when the day starts anew i hope to spend it with you.


jk
though idk i do lot of philosophy i don't know about others.


well it depends sometimes you feel love then you get married and find out the other person is not fun to be around or relatable.
Now i am 17 and haven't actually dated anyone(because it's conservative india and parents and soul crushing mental state destroying exams. exams which make a person go paaaaaaaaaiiiiiiiiiinnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn ) so i don't know shit.
but i am usually right about stuff so this is probably a really good description
but here have my two cents
Mostly it's
Hey i like this thing.
I like that thing too.
I hate this thing.
I hate this thing too.
I want to have conversations about this topic but i am not able to have them .
I too want to have conversation about this topic.
"Wow that was a good conversation really changed my views about {insert thing i care about}"
I have this problem.
I have had a similar problem.
I know right. (then they proceed to lick each other's wounds)

hey you are really fun to be around and we have same hobbies and insecurities.
You are able to understand me and my problems and my thought processes and what i mean. You have a similar thought process.
Let's be around each other forever.
ok

now this is how it's supposed to be but sometimes people fall in love and then it turns out they don't have anything in common or one can't understand the other and then there is lots of pain.
or there is no pain and they live happily.

Oh my god i am laughing after watching that second video.
Yes yes theory of love. You must have a PHD before truly love.

Yeah responsibility one is good. but never let it get too needy.

ok 1 ,4,5 points are pretty good. 2 is also good.

“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.” - Nietzsche this one is right
"To love is to commit to being a better person" this quote is completely full of shit.
EDIT:
I had sent this message before but then i felt really awkward so i deleted it.

 

[Noks]

Mine's kinda like an anime-like senario but closer to a soap opera.

I met this girl at like elementary school and we were in a hateful relationship due to me being a bully and had harrassed one of her friends. She kinda retaliated and drop some facts into my mind since all I thought was that strength was power type of sht.

As for why I was a bully, its probably due to neglect and often hanging out with bad people that my perspective was kinda warped and thought that being strong can welcome arrogance into the field. However, after laying words are better, I kinda slowly change my arrogance to hatred and proceed to find a way to get my revenge.

On my vengence, I was caught in with multiple girls who had develop feelings for me but it was later on that they kinda confess which I will tell later. Since this story from here purely focuses on me and this girl.

However, she kinda transfered out a year and return when we are almost graduating from elementary and my feelings from vengence kinda turned to curiousity and because I was always staring at her to look for a plan to get revenge, I actually develop feelings for her. And through some stupid stuff and whatnot, she kinda found out I like her but isn't into me(since she thinks I was still on getting revenge and whatnot).

Yet, after turning into highschool, instead of chasing after her, I kinda stumble on another girl who develop feelings for me. Quirky and well-liked around the class and me being introvert(wanting to make amends of my bullying and wanted to be alone), she started spending time with me and at first I was a bit annoyed but I treat her well since my mom doesn't want me to hurt girls at all. However, I didn't notice that she actually develop feelings for me and right as the year before she transfered out, she kinda confessed her feelings which I naturally turned her down.

And while that episode of her was done, in the middle of it was one of the girl my elementary who liked me spark a relationship of ours.

This girl is actually someone who developed feelings for me but didn't know what it was at first since well, she barely knew what love was. She was actually part of the group whom I'm bullied in the past but after changing, she wanted to get her revenge on me and found out a secret that I wasn't resistent to a girl's charm(at that time i just discovered porn for the first time and my worldview kinda change). So she and this other girl(also likes me) formed a group of girls and begins to harrass me throughout the elementary years.

As for why she was here, well, she did develop feelings for me but it was only at most an infatuation that I was different from the other kids.

The other girl who like me was just at most has feelings for me but at that time we were only close due to hateful of each other and even after confessing that she liked me, I only thought of it as being one of her schemes. In the end, we kinda settle the differences and she kinda told me her feelings again which I was finally shocked and rejected her because I like another girl.

Sophomore, two transfer students shows up and both of them were sisters who were still new to school. Most of the guys often flirted with them but at the end, they only made it awkward to get along. However, because I tend to be a lone wolf and often go on my own way, they use this to get along with me and me who had nothing to do with them, decided to form a bond between classmates. However, it seems one of the sisters had develop a crush on me and found me funny instead of cool and kinda asked me out which I just rejected her at the end since I wasn't into relationship.

Junior year and I just got news that my crush had an illness and was about to be transfered out which I wanted to head out and maybe confess my feelings for her before leaving. While leaving, my brother asked to where I was going and after telling him where, he just blantantly told me that meeting with a cousin was fine.

After hearing the word cousin, my mind clicked and a whole new realization hits as I was the only one who didn't know but found out a relationship between us were kinda suspicious. At the end, I didn't see her leaving and I was too preoccupied of the dawn of realization of knowing the truth.

As to why she was nice and not see me as an rival, at how she always brush off the notion of love of me and her and finally, at how related we are after constantly meeting with an elder brother of ours.

The impact was so shocking that I kinda lost the feeling of love and decided that I didn't fall for any other trap of being in love with someone whose related to me.

And thats the end of my love story.

Ever though of writing a novel about your experience? Just tweek some things and make up events as you go. Like write things that could have been. Also, EXPLODE RIAJUU!!!!.

 

[ArcadiaBlade]

Ever though of writing a novel about your experience? Just tweek some things and make up events as you go. Like write things that could have been. Also, EXPLODE RIAJUU!!!!.

I dunno. Its kinda too long for that.

From the time I drown and meet death, meeting the eldrich gods after losing my sanity once, after getting myself into trouble with drug trafficers to even surviving into a forest one time and almost got caught by terrorist there... I don't want to write my childhood life since its kinda boring.

 

[someguysomeone]

Ever though of writing a novel about your experience? Just tweek some things and make up events as you go. Like write things that could have been. Also, EXPLODE RIAJUU!!!!.

bruh this is nothing I can literally write my experience without any edit whatsoever. though with some styliyzation and it would be a best selling literary fiction plot.

the only reason I am not doing it is cause I possess enough sanity to not write a public novel based on my life.

EDIT I read arcadias post it's not that insane but it's as insane as discord drama can get .

 

[BubbleC]

Wow, you all have such interesting lives. My life is literally just: go to school, go home, do HW (sometimes), go online, sleep (sometimes), repeat. No drama, no conflict, just an extra boring slice of life anime.

 

[Noks]

bruh this is nothing I can literally write my experience without any edit whatsoever. though with some styliyzation and it would be a best selling literary fiction plot.

the only reason I am not doing it is cause I possess enough sanity to not write a public novel based on my life.

EDIT I read arcadias post it's not that insane but it's as insane as discord drama can get.

Dude, think of the possibilities. You can even create an alias name or account no one heard of and never tell it's your life story, A ghost writer even. Then feel the ultimate cringe from writing it and the comments lol.

 

[hyperkvlt]

Well, I was in love with the concept of falling in love. But, yeah, it never happened to me, not once.

Sure, there are people I like and people I dislike. But, love? Never.

I suppose people like me, who tend to love ourselves more, aren't bothered to fall in love with someone else... Or maybe, we simply haven't found the right person? Well, who knows?

 

[Deleted member 52382]

Yes, and it ended in a brutal rejection.

I dunno. Its kinda too long for that.

From the time I drown and meet death, meeting the eldrich gods after losing my sanity once, after getting myself into trouble with drug trafficers to even surviving into a forest one time and almost got caught by terrorist there... I don't want to write my childhood life since its kinda boring.

Christ, you've lived through ten harem novels by now, haven't you?