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@LuoirM just said that...

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Teens should get married and stay married.

Did you get married as a teen?

I hurt people as a teen, more than two, so I know I should not touch another for the rest of my life until at least I felt like I done enough deed to repay my sins. Like karma in buddhism

Most people hurt someone as a teen. You will grow if you try. Or you will sink and wallow in despair. If you are in despair, you are more likely to hurt someone else. If you really want to repay your sins you can feel guilt, but eventually, you have to forgive yourself.

Anyone can be forgiven, but it’s work. It always starts with yourself anyway. If you never work on yourself, forgiving yourself and having others forgive you will be impossible.

Ty for pointing that out, I am not grieving and giving up on myself everyday, not completely buried in the depths. I am still being the better myself every day, or at least I tried.

Though, my mistakes were more grand than others, I hurt people in the worse ways and I think I'd need, beside just self forgiving, repay.

Don’t take all of my words for it. I’m a hypocritical arm chair psychologist who doesn’t forgive myself for anything.

I forgive you, and my opinion matters dw if you done something real bad, I've seen worse

@RepresentingEnvy No, but I think maybe I should have. I also am thinking more people should, and rely on their families for help. Though I know that's not something everyone can do.

I think that’s a horrible idea. Teenagers are dumb.

rely on their families for help = arranged marriage

That's why the dating system should be abandoned and we go back to families doing matchmaking and vetting.

there's no dating system. it's just human nature?

Nah that was terrible too. Many people ended up with abusive spouses because their family was dumb.

I think that is better than now when so many are ending up with no spouse at all. But there are more social factors that affect it. What we have right now is a failure of a "system".

even without being forced, marriage is still very flawed.
their home is the most frequent place women get abused.
"we shouldn't interfere with what happens between a man and a woman!"
that's what the stupid fucking elders say, ignoring the obvious abuse

It was definitely not better. Your family could pressure you to be with someone awful and you are forced to stay because they bring your family money. That’s gross.