? QUESTION : how do you properly write a Yandere mc?

[strawcake]

So...

I was curious on like how authors write a Yandere mc specifically a male yandere and how they showcase their twisted versions of live.

So...

Please reply!!

 

[T.K._Paradox]

Never romanticize it unless it is supposed to be a romantic comedy, Yanderes are a bunch of broken people that cling to a person with a feverous obsession. Attention and companionship are like drugs to them. I highly recommend researching the effects of childhood trauma as well as Borderline Personality Disorder, Schizophrenia, and Bipolar Disorder.

 

[Lupine]

Well, I have no experience with this kind of ml, but surely he should go against rational thinking, things like taking part of the freedom the lover has, making small inhuman gesture towards those who harm the loved one, showing a slight obssesive nature towards the loved one. I think all you have to do is write a little of everything in slight proportions and the reader will notice, I think so. Or is it that yandere ml should go beyond that?

I hope I helped you.

 

[Daitengu]

Trope wise they're three things. Obsessed. Delusional. Like flat earthers are amateurs in delusions in comparison. And violently jealous.

 

[T.K._Paradox]

Trope wise they're three things. Obsessed. Delusional. Like flat earthers are amateurs in delusions in comparison. And violently jealous.

Don't forget that sometimes that it is not always physically violent, but some yandere (more female than male) use mental manipulation, gaslighting, and victimhood to achieve their perceived goal of getting close to their obsession.
Also if portrayed realistically the yandere (male or female) will devolve into intimidation, gaslighting, or even physical violence. If they are unable to achieve their goal.

 

[Ellieporter]

You know, there are so many types of Yandere tropes. I haven't written a Male version of it though but if I were to write.

I would start by... Is this character, a childhood friend who has hidden motives? A classmate that always supports the girl no matter what the situation is? A random person who has the "fallen in love at first sight but I'm afraid to introduce myself, so I will stalk you from a distance" type or the classic one which is the rejected lover trope.

Well... You could go by the usual "Childhood friend who wants to confess but wants to kill the date because she is only meant for him" or you could experiment too!

 

[LilTV1155]

What about a Dandere?

 

[Kilolo]

yandere girl isn't about violence nor brutality, it's about over-possessiveness & obsession.

a person whose love way too strong and heavy, and they can't bear anything without their significant other. like someone who's on drugs and start doing irrational & obtuse thing without them realizing it just because the person they love is not within their sight.

the violence attribute is mostly just a bonus, you can have a yandere character that doesn't do any violence at all. as long as they have those irrational fear of losing their significant other. thus they start doing all the crazy stuff just to make sure that they never lost the grip of their lover.

Spoiler: image

 

[Moonpearl]

Hm... It depends on your type of yandere. Are they someone who tries to hide their yandere nature to fit in with society/trick the object of their obsession, or have they openly snapped?

If it's the former, they'll be paying attention to how they're perceived and carefully picking their words to manipulate people. The gap between their interior personality/personal motivations and the exterior persona that everyone sees will be huge.

The level of obsession with their love interest will be high, probably linking almost everything they do to them, thinking about them much too much when they're apart, saying that they "belong together", etc.
Different from usual love... Less romantic, more forceful, more possessive. They might see rivals as trying to steal "what belongs to them", and almost definitely stop at nothing to dispose of them.

Some yanderes won't hurt their object of obsession - and some will happily lock them in a cage or do other things to prevent them from ever leaving, if they start figuring out the truth and trying to run away.

The particular details of a yandere's behaviour really comes down to who they are as a person and why they became obsessed with their target.
Are they a lonely/mentally twisted person who developed an interest because someone was nice to them? Is there a paper-thin prophecy that the two of them are destined lovers, which the yandere heavily buys into? Were they brainwashed into thinking that only that person can love them, and are therefore motivated by the fear that rejection means being lonely and unloved forever?

Once you know who your yandere is, you'll have a much better idea of how to show their obsessive qualities.

It also depends on how you want your readers to experience that yandere-ness. Do you want them to know they're dealing with one from the start? Or have them slowly come to the realisation as they're reading along, having started off believing that they're reading a normal romance?


Some examples, in case they help:
My friend has a yandere in one of our RPGs who's obsessed with one of the two MCs.

Spoiler: Long-ish explanation

They were both abused in a reclusive exorcist society, but the yandere was never allowed to interact with him. He's admired him only from afar, and was secretly delighted whenever that character flirted with him (when he flirted with pretty much any guy at that stage).

He believes they're very alike and have mutual attraction, but their core principals are actually very different and, by the time the yandere is free to pursue him, he's in an unrequited love with someone else.

Because the yandere is a well-trained high-society man, he maintains excellent manners and is very charming. Apart from being rather suddenly interested in the character, he flirts very openly and smoothly, is very supportive, comes to his rescue even when everyone else rejects him, and is overall a perfect Prince Charming.

Only the small things give him away: glaring at the sight of a lovebite on his neck, or that his helpful/supportive personality doesn't carry over in any way to any other person.

Later, he turns up to try and convince the MC to enter into a political marriage with him, using every type of wooing and rational reason under the sun.

However, since the MC realises that he can't love the yandere and that it would be awful to lead him on, he refuses him.

So, naturally, the yandere sets out to kidnap and kill the man he loves, so he'll "be free to love him", and will ultimately end up trying to imprison him and mindbreak him into loving him when he still doesn't develop affection.

If that were told from the yandere's perspective... The juxtaposition of the MC developing what he thinks is a genuine friendship with a fellow (yet charming) tortured soul with the reality of the yandere's one-track obsession would grow gradually creepier and creepier. The reader would probably trust the yandere's version of their relationship at first, before slowly realising that the MC barely knows him and doesn't attach much signifiance to him.

There could also be a second horror note using dramatic irony, since it's obvious that the MC's "dear friend" that he's always with is the man he's in love with, but it takes the yandere quite a long time to realise... And everyone knows what happens to a yandere's love rival.

Another yandere she has isn't motivated by love at all, but is simply a power-mad psychopath.

Spoiler: Long-ish explanation

He's the spirit of Life, who all the current incarnations of the other spirits are trying to stop from bringing calamity to the world. Death is originally fated to have an unrequited, stalker-ish love for him, but is better-balanced in this incarnation and is more concerned about protecting everyone.

So Death pretends to be swept along by his feelings and has a fling with him, hoping to stay with him and keep him busy 24/7 to buy time for the others. (It doesn't work because, every time you take your eyes off him, he disappears to another part of the world and leaves a path of horror)

Since Life never met Death in their last life, he's not used to having an equal and underestimates him. He fully believes that he has him under his spell, and uses fake words of affection and love to "lead him along".

In the end, he's inspired by seeing Death step into a fake aesthetic cage and decides that he wants to put the real Death in a cage forever, so he'll have complete power over him and will still be able to keep him as a pretty little "pet". This would probably destroy all of reality, but he only cares about serving his own selfish desires, so he doesn't care or even consider that.

Despite what he thinks, Life's not very good at lying or acting human for very long, so he's easily seen through by someone as shrewd as Death. But the fact that he very obviously and gleefully lights up at the sight of Death in a cage warns Death that he needs to move a new plan very, very quickly.

So, if this was told from the perspective of Life... It would be the juxtaposition of Life's idea of the situation, where he's a cunning mastermind and Death is a simpering fool, with the subtle breakthroughs of reality, where Death sometimes isn't as amorous as you think he'd be, or seems disturbed by him, or how he gave up on asking intelligent questions too quickly, culminating in the final ending where Death pulls an uno reverse and kills Life.

 

[CupcakeNinja]

So...

I was curious on like how authors write a Yandere mc specifically a male yandere and how they showcase their twisted versions of live.

So...

Please reply!!

Write a female yandere. Then make her male.

 

[SakeVision]

you can write any character properly as long as you can get in their mindest, become them, and think like them


also look here:https://the-dere-types.fandom.com/wiki/Yandere

Also, I am writing a book, currently at 31k words which has male yandere mc. It's not published anywhere yet, dunno if it ever will, because it's full of smut and fucked up.

 

[RepresentingCaution]

carefully

 

[NikkuNii]

3 words: Obsession, paranoia, and death.

 

[SerikoLee]

Write a female yandere. Then make her male.

That is trap writing or gender swap depending how you write said series

 

[Deleted member 58005]

Did somebody say...

YANDERE?

 

[ThrillingHuman]

So...

I was curious on like how authors write a Yandere mc specifically a male yandere and how they showcase their twisted versions of live.

So...

Please reply!!

Not my mc but very important supporting character. Not male but traits can be easily adapted to male.
0) all the following traits are better used when the yandere does not acknowledge them.
1) selfish. They must not be happy to see their love interest grow outside their control (even if they don't acknowledge it) and should do their best to covertly or overtly limit the degree of freedom of their love interest.
2) manipulating. Casual lies, gaslighting, causing the love interest to not trust anybody else and even have others wound the love interest to a moderate degree.
3) obsessive. Make them a stalker. A bad bad stalker. Have them make a tighter surveillance system around the character they love than Facebook and the Chinese Communist Party combined could ever hope to.
4) powerful. Have them exhibit power over the character they love. Be it physical, emotional or even social, or preferably a mix of everything.
5) present. Must always linger around the character in some form.
6) dependant. They must place extreme importance on the character they love, oftentimes higher than that of their own life. Their desire to possess the character must be even higher than their love for the character themselves though. If they have to kill the character they love to keep them from flowing away from grasp, they must

as long as you can get in their mindest, become them, and think like them

Also, I am writing a book, currently at 31k words which has male yandere mc. It's not published anywhere yet, dunno if it ever will, because

Your crush might find out

 

[Jemini]

The above are all great tips, but there is 1 essential thing missing from all of it.

This goes the same for writing any character who has a delusional or altered view on the world from how everyone else sees it. If you are making them the MC, or otherwise writing from their point of view, EVERYTHING they do is somehow justified in their own mind.

So, you basically have to walk the readers through, step by step, on how they escalate in their thinking and how they reach the conclusions they reach. Make all their actions seem somehow justified and consistent within their own internal monologue and thought processes. And, give them some kind of victim complex in regards to everyone else's perfectly reasonable responses to their over-the-top actions.

 

[Ai-chan]

Never romanticize it unless it is supposed to be a romantic comedy, Yanderes are a bunch of broken people that cling to a person with a feverous obsession. Attention and companionship are like drugs to them. I highly recommend researching the effects of childhood trauma as well as Borderline Personality Disorder, Schizophrenia, and Bipolar Disorder.

That's like saying sociopaths are evil murderous creatures. Yanderes are basically that, a sociopath (psychopath in some cases) except with a larger patch of obsessiveness than the more common sociopath. There are plenty of sociopaths in the world, most of them are functioning members of society. The only difference between them and the normal people are that they don't feel guilt in doing things that society deem 'wrong'. Some do not understand what is wrong with what they are doing, while some do, though this could be attributed to early childhood moral education.

For some examples of yandere, read Ana Satsujin, Shimoneta and Death Note. Then remove the feminine traits and replace with masculine traits. A male yandere wouldn't care so much about fashion or style, except where it might affect the target character. For example, if the target character hates hoodies, the male yandere would not wear a hoodie. However, the male yandere may not decide to look pretty for their target unlike female yandere.

While there are many types of yandere, all grouped together under that one category, there can be yanderes that are completely opposite of each other. All you need to know is the shared traits of yandere in general, which are:
1. Obsessive compulsive
2. Extremely loyal
3. Extremely protective
4. Cares greatly for their target

Optional component of a yandere include, but not always inclusive of:
1. Deceptive
2. Manipulative
3. Sincere (Misamisa from Death Note is one)
4. Inferiority Complex
5. Jealous
6. Misguided (Ellie from the song Elsa-Maria is one)
7. Self-loathing (Lily from the song Chloe is one)
8. Make up your own quirk

 

[SakeVision]

Your crush might find out

My crush knew.

 

[T.K._Paradox]

That's like saying sociopaths are evil murderous creatures. Yanderes are basically that, a sociopath (psychopath in some cases) except with a larger patch of obsessiveness than the more common sociopath. There are plenty of sociopaths in the world, most of them are functioning members of society. The only difference between them and the normal people are that they don't feel guilt in doing things that society deem 'wrong'. Some do not understand what is wrong with what they are doing, while some do, though this could be attributed to early childhood moral education.

For some examples of yandere, read Ana Satsujin, Shimoneta and Death Note. Then remove the feminine traits and replace with masculine traits. A male yandere wouldn't care so much about fashion or style, except where it might affect the target character. For example, if the target character hates hoodies, the male yandere would not wear a hoodie. However, the male yandere may not decide to look pretty for their target unlike female yandere.

While there are many types of yandere, all grouped together under that one category, there can be yanderes that are completely opposite of each other. All you need to know is the shared traits of yandere in general, which are:
1. Obsessive compulsive
2. Extremely loyal
3. Extremely protective
4. Cares greatly for their target

Optional component of a yandere include, but not always inclusive of:
1. Deceptive
2. Manipulative
3. Sincere (Misamisa from Death Note is one)
4. Inferiority Complex
5. Jealous
6. Misguided (Ellie from the song Elsa-Maria is one)
7. Self-loathing (Lily from the song Chloe is one)
8. Make up your own quirk

I never said that sociopaths are inherently evil, I also know that there are various types of yandere. I was listing common traits that many yandere's exhibit. Which often reflects those mental disorders that I mentioned.