Sexless sex scenes?

[Lysander_Works]

You have to make this choice most personally. You can either, concentrate on the more serious aspects of the book's general tone and theme, and exclude the erotic section of their intimacy (while adding teasable/playful reactions of those clues afterwards), or, straight up include the scene.

If you do include the scene, it does have the chance to break general immersion for some people, depending on how it gets incorporated, and additionally, there are some readers who just, exit from books when they are introduced to such a thing (probably the same amount of people who flock to a book because 'oh yeah, juicy content' )

My advice? Stick with the overall theme of your book. If what you are writing were mostly the tone of a hot and steamy romance, then including it would feel mandatory. If what you are writing is instead, a grimdark fantasy with a serious or action/thriller tone, skip the sex scene, as it will feel a little out of place. At least, if I were the writer, that's how it would feel. I'm not good at doing erotic scenes, so take what I say with some salt.

 

[TheDraconeaWriter]

You have to make this choice most personally. You can either, concentrate on the more serious aspects of the book's general tone and theme, and exclude the erotic section of their intimacy (while adding teasable/playful reactions of those clues afterwards), or, straight up include the scene.

If you do include the scene, it does have the chance to break general immersion for some people, depending on how it gets incorporated, and additionally, there are some readers who just, exit from books when they are introduced to such a thing (probably the same amount of people who flock to a book because 'oh yeah, juicy content' )

My advice? Stick with the overall theme of your book. If what you are writing were mostly the tone of a hot and steamy romance, then including it would feel mandatory. If what you are writing is instead, a grimdark fantasy with a serious or action/thriller tone, skip the sex scene, as it will feel a little out of place. At least, if I were the writer, that's how it would feel. I'm not good at doing erotic scenes, so take what I say with some salt.

That's good advice.

Don't get me wrong, having sex in a story is an easy way to get attention. But just like a cheap one-night stand, you could lose that once you have what you want (sorry to be so crass, but it could be like with some people). I feel that's why it should have meaning, whether that's for good or bad, well, that's up to the writer to decide.

 

[Author_Riceball]

I've been working on XNPC, and I'm in a bit of a weird position. I want my main characters (who are dating) to have an intimate relationship, and I want to include that intimacy in the book, but I don't want to write straight up erotic smut, you know. This has led to me writing sex scenes with no actual sex. No naughty body parts are referenced by name, and the actions are kept vague. Lots of "He touched her, she moaned, he gasped, she writhed, his excitement was rising, her pleasure was overwhelming" kind of stuff. I'm hoping it'll give the story some spice without having to mark it as having mature or explicit content, you know?

What do you guys think of this kind of writing? Is it tastefully sexy, or am I a coward for refusing to commit?

Here's a couple examples...

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didnt chinese BLs and like GLs like have people like go into like a garden and taste fruits or something as an analogy for sex
. i think they did that. you could too